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Pitfalls to Avoid

Learn to avoid common personal pitfalls by staying true to yourself, being aware of pride, and building strong people skills. Embrace authenticity and resist the temptation to chase external validation. Stay humble and approachable in all interactions.

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Pitfalls to Avoid

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  1. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal

  2. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real

  3. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying

  4. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • We cannot abandon ship at the first sign of trouble, or even at the first presence of trouble.

  5. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • “The grass always looks greener in someone else’s field. But we would not be long in another person’s situation without finding similar battles.” (Prime & Begg, 285)

  6. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents

  7. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Charisma is a gift from God but can be used for His glory or exploited for personal gain and/or praise

  8. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Charisma is a gift from God but can be used for His glory or exploited for personal gain and/or praise • Especially dangerous in our social media world

  9. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • “Unconsciously we may give a false impression of superiority, and live for people’s approval and applause, forgetting how ordinary we are.” (Prime and Begg, 287)

  10. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • “If we feel out of depth in the ministry, that is good, for we are. We are then in position to depend upon God from whom our competency to minister comes.” (Prime and Begg, 291)

  11. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Don’t try to be what you are not, but a pure you

  12. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Don’t try to be what you are not, but a pure you • You are not the next Billy Graham, Adrian Rogers, John MacArthur, David Platt, J. D. Grear . . .

  13. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Don’t try to be what you are not, but a pure you • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual

  14. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • More often than not show up early and stay late

  15. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • More often than not show up early and stay late • Don’t be in a hurry, as much as possible, take your time

  16. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • More often than not show up early and stay late • Don’t be in a hurry, as much as possible, take your time • Pay attention to the person you are talking to, make eye contact

  17. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • More often than not show up early and stay late • Don’t be in a hurry, as much as possible, take your time • Pay attention to the person you are talking to, make eye contact • Don’t look for bigger/better

  18. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Don’t try to be what you are not, but a pure you • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • Be aware of the trap of pride

  19. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Be aware of the trap of pride • Always have a teachable spirit

  20. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Be aware of the trap of pride • Always have a teachable spirit • Never think more highly of yourself than you ought (Romans 12:3–4)

  21. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Be aware of the trap of pride • Always have a teachable spirit • Never think more highly of yourself than you ought (Romans 12:3–4) • Don’t believe your own headlines (Good or Bad)

  22. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • We must be real • The mistake of not staying • Don’t fall in the trap of our own God-given talents • Don’t try to be what you are not, but a pure you • Don’t be overly concerned with the crowd but pay attention to the individual • Be aware of the trap of pride • Constantly sharpen your people skills

  23. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Constantly sharpen your people skills • It never hurts to give a gentle kind response in tough situations (Proverbs 15:1)

  24. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Constantly sharpen your people skills • It never hurts to give a gentle kind response in tough situations (Proverbs 15:1) • Guard your tongue, even amongst friends. Guard your keyboard as well

  25. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Constantly sharpen your people skills • It never hurts to give a gentle kind response in tough situations (Proverbs 15:1) • Guard your tongue, even amongst friends. Guard your keyboard as well • Stay at peace if at all possible. Avoid conflict without compromising truth

  26. Pitfalls to Avoid • Personal • Constantly sharpen your people skills • It never hurts to give a gentle kind response in tough situations (Proverbs 15:1) • Guard your tongue, even amongst friends. Guard your keyboard as well • Stay at peace if at all possible. Avoid conflict without compromising truth • Agree to disagree without being disagreeable

  27. Pitfalls to Avoid • “Perhaps no element contributes more to developing good people skills than a true love for people.” (Bisagno, Pastor’s Handbook, 56) • “Ask yourself a question: Do I see people as an object, a prize to be won, a statistic to be added that my denominational paper might write an article about my growing church, enticing a larger church to call me as pastor? Or, do I see people as sheep in need of a shepherd?” (BIS 60)

  28. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women

  29. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife

  30. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you

  31. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Be careful in answering calls, notes, email, facebook

  32. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present

  33. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present • Do not go out to eat with a woman alone

  34. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present • Do not go out to eat with a woman alone • Careful with outward affection

  35. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present • Do not go out to eat with a woman alone • Careful with outward affection • Do not discuss your marital problems with a woman

  36. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present • Do not go out to eat with a woman alone • Careful with outward affection • Do not discuss your marital problems with a woman • Do not be in an automobile alone with a woman

  37. Pitfalls to Avoid • Interpersonal relationships with women • Never be totally alone with a woman other than your wife • Guard against emotional bonding by you or others to you • Do not enter a home of a woman without another adult present • Do not go out to eat with a woman alone • Careful with outward affection • Do not discuss your marital problems with a woman • Do not be in an automobile alone with a woman • Guard against the adulterous woman in the church you serve (Listen to your wife’s radar)

  38. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money

  39. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances

  40. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME

  41. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME • Don’t borrow money except for a house

  42. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME • Don’t borrow money except for a house • Possible exception could be car (Prov 10:22)

  43. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME • Don’t borrow money except for a house • Do not handle unauthorized church money

  44. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME • Don’t borrow money except for a house • Do not handle unauthorized church money • Keep detailed receipts when making budgeted purchases

  45. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Staying above reproach in your finances • Pay your bills ON TIME • Don’t borrow money except for a house • Do not handle unauthorized church money • Keep detailed receipts when making budgeted purchases • Don’t live above the average level of your congregation

  46. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Church Finances

  47. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Church Finances • Churches should have written agreements with pastors about salary, benefits, and expense categories

  48. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Church Finances • Churches should have written agreements with pastors about salary, benefits, and expense categories • Never be in charge of church finances, give leadership.

  49. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Church Finances • Churches should have written agreements with pastors about salary, benefits, and expense categories • Never be in charge of church finances, give leadership. • Be careful when leading a church into substantial debt

  50. Pitfalls to Avoid • Money • Church Finances • Churches should have written agreements with pastors about salary, benefits, and expense categories • Never be in charge of church finances, give leadership. • Be careful when leading a church into substantial debt • Never should be at a level that limits missions and ministry

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