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Deborah Gilboa, MD AskDrG

HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. From adults, friends, yourself. @ AskDocG @ AskDoctorG. Deborah Gilboa, MD www.AskDrG.com. If you could wave a magic wand. What do you want for your future?. hap · pi · ness: noun. good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy

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Deborah Gilboa, MD AskDrG

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  1. HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT From adults, friends, yourself @AskDocG @AskDoctorG Deborah Gilboa, MD www.AskDrG.com

  2. If you could wave a magic wand... What do you want for your future?

  3. hap·pi·ness:noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy INGREDIENTS: • Confidence • Competence • Relationships

  4. WHY DO PARENTS SAY NO?

  5. CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES The Myth: “Getting involved will make us both feel better!” The Truth: Stepping back helps teens become adults.

  6. THE COST “Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life. Furthermore, the negative effects of helicopter parenting on college students’ well-being were largely explained by the perceived violation of students’ basic psychological needs for autonomy and competence.”

  7. TEEN BRAIN

  8. BRAIN CONFLICT

  9. YOUNG ADULT BRAIN • Negative emotions are intense • Positive emotions are just as intense • Adrenaline is harder to find • Considering consequences requires intention • Oxytocin receptors double • Abstract reasoning sky rockets • … needs sleep.

  10. REMEMBER HER?

  11. AND WHY DO YOU STEP BACK? Fear 11

  12. FAILURE…

  13. RESPECT • Eye contact • Language • Tone Assumption of someone else’s value or worth. 13

  14. RESPONSIBILITY • Chores • Homework • Job • Balance Recognizing your obligations and doing your best to meet them. 14

  15. RESILIENCE • Ride your emotions – ONCE • Find possibilities. • Reach out for resources. • Considerwhich risk to take. • Notice the consequences

  16. FAILURE HAPPENS. THEN WHAT? • How you feel matters. • What you do matters more.

  17. STEP UP, SO ADULTS CAN BELIEVE • Respect • Eye contact • Word choice • Tone • Responsibility • Time management • Resource finding • Life skills • RESILIENCE: • STEP UP, SO THEY CAN STEP BACK.

  18. SUCCESS NOWIS NOT THE POINT You’re building: • Confidence • Competence • Relationships

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