BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES

1. BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES

2. BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES Famous Doris Sanford Quote: We are going to be talking about techniques for dealing with behavior issues, but remember that “love is more important than technique!” “Love is more important than technique!”

3. Behavior Management Techniques The behaviors of the children can be one of the most intimidating factors at camp • About 10% of the kids will be compliant, wonderful angels. • About 10% of the kids will have issues with behavior, anger, bitterness or rejection and will be a lot of work. • The other 80% will have some issues but will get along and go along.

4. Behavior Management is nurturing rather than controlling. At RFKC we give A’s Activities Attention Affirmation Applause Affection and Appropriate guidelines. Kids need structure!

5. The 3 T’s of Esteem Building • Touch • Take In • Talk Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are indistinguishable. 101 Manual VI-1

6. How to Listen When another person is speaking -Eye contact – side by side or their level -Silent Listening -Don’t fix it -Be present -Accept what is being said -Restate using content/feeling

7. PRAISE • What is it? Behavior management tool. • When to Praise. Immediately – Instant gratification How to praise. Specifically? General - could be high five • How should you NOT praise. Hug, slap, sarcasm… 101 Manual VI-2-3

8. Behaviors about Food • Food should be: • Eaten for nourishment • A time for promoting personal choice • Food Should NOT be: • With held as punishment • Used for motivation • Used as a treat 101 Manual VI-4

9. Campers will test you. • Do you mean what you say? • To get what he/she wants. • To force you to punish him/her. 101 Manual VI-4

10. Steps for Setting Limits • Stay calm and firm • Have the child’s attention • Give clear directions and guide lines • Tell, don’t ask, unless there is a choice • Set up situations to succeed 101 Manual VI-6

11. Example/Modeling Prevention & Early Intervention Communication Reward Positive Behavior Ignore (petty issues) Natural Consequences What Works Prayer These are techniques but remember, Love prevails over “technique” Ask Staff for HELP! Discipline 101 Manual VI-6

12. What Doesn’t Work • Is it better to operate “under the law?” or “under Grace?” How do you want people to treat you? Under the law or under grace? • Biggest problems? - No love or empathy - Impatient - Favoritism - Rewarding misbehavior (i.e. roughhousing with hyperactive child; labeling a child as shy, etc.) - Ignoring - harmful, disruptive behavior or ignoring the person)

13. What is allowed for discipline by your local Social Services? What’s NOT allowed by your local Social Services?

14. Time Outs • Consistency is KEY • Limit your battles • Focus on only 2-3 specific behaviors • Time out- one minute per year 101 Manual VI-9

15. Positive things that can help • Charts • Mini –passports • Time-trials • Humor • Appropriate channels for feeling • Schedule and rules posted in the cabin • Other – give lots of grace 101 Manual VI-11

16. Key Success Factors Love Praise Divert Ignore Deal with it Get help Love You Can Do It!

19. 3 FOR 3 Before we move on… Let’s have three questions about this section. AND / OR three Take-a-ways