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Solution oriented, solution focused, and what do they have to do with couples?. Solution Oriented. According to Bill O’Hanlon, Solution Oriented/”Possibility Therapy” differs from SFBT in that it: Validates emotion Avoids being rigidly formulaic Considers social and political context.
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Solution oriented, solution focused, and what do they have to do with couples?
Solution Oriented According to Bill O’Hanlon, Solution Oriented/”Possibility Therapy” differs from SFBT in that it: • Validates emotion • Avoids being rigidly formulaic • Considers social and political context
Possibility vs. SFBT In my view, and considering the different history of the approaches, it would also be reasonable to say: • Possibility therapy is less grounded in interaction, and more individual; • Possibility therapy considers a change in thinking to be as desirable an outcome as a change in behavior; • Possibility therapy is less influenced by MRI, and more by traditional Ericksonian hypnotherapy
To consider also… • Equifinality (consider Gottman, motivational interviewing, appreciative inquiry, etc.) • Ownership of ideas – a somewhat odd but important academic concept • Role in history, publications/presentations as fodder for career or as career, team vs. individual approach • Other similar sticking points: Michele Weiner Davis and SFBT; MDST (Howard Liddle) and Structural • Happy examples: Yvonne Dolan, Eve Lipchik and Scott Miller with SFBT; Marion Lindblad-Goldner with Ecosystemic Structural; www.sfbta.org
Marital research and the Gottmans The sugar coated version (be positive with each other, both accept influence, both work on communication) for the general public, but actual findings: • It’s men who need to accept influence; • It’s women who need to soften their start up; • Gender trumps sexual orientation – women and men need to learn the same lessons in same sex relationships, but the problems therefore differ; • Minimum 5 to 1 ratio and the negative waterfall
What about this was a surprise to the field? Just about everything! • Turns out all that active listening and communication skills were not as useful as marital therapists thought; • Turns out gender trumps sexual orientation (a particular surprise to heterosexual therapists); • Astonishing emphasis on positives rather than problem resolution
Empirical support for certain models of marital therapy • SFBT • Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Insoo Kim Berg doing couples work • www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQBZlgmebwY
Pipe cleaner time! • Single, not playing the game • Single, dating • Single, but in relationship • In committed relationship, engaged, living together • Married • Divorced or widowed • Each group will come up with a common problem; the class will give you an MRI and SFBT approach to resolution