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by: Nari Stephens Administrative Assistant to the Blessed Family Department

by: Nari Stephens Administrative Assistant to the Blessed Family Department. The Matching Process: Not as hard as you think. A lot of options and opportunities are available For each group of candidates Blessed Children Jacob Children First Generation My goal is to inform and assure.

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by: Nari Stephens Administrative Assistant to the Blessed Family Department

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  1. by: Nari Stephens Administrative Assistant to the Blessed Family Department

  2. The Matching Process:Not as hard as you think • A lot of options and opportunities are available • For each group of candidates • Blessed Children • Jacob Children • First Generation • My goal is to inform and assure

  3. Let’s Be Practical • Not internal guidance • i.e. prayer points, conditions • More external practical information • Tangible action steps • Locations for information • Networking opportunities • Educational opportunities • Not True Father’s Matching

  4. Candidates: Blessed Children 2G, 3G, and so on…

  5. Websites Currently 2 BC Matching Websites in existence • Matchbook • Hosted on Blessed Family Association Website • www.blessedfamilies.org • Parent controlled website • International Matching Website for Blessed Children • www.bcmatching.org • Includes BC’s from primarily USA, Korea, Japan, and Europe • BC controls his/her profile before parents can search • Korean, Japanese, and English language options

  6. Parents Matching Convocations • History • Began at the end of October 2006 • At least 4 large convocations a year • Held at both coasts, the Midwest, and internationally • Activities • Talks for parents, testimonies, group discussions • Networking • Display boards of candidate profiles • Have been primarily for parents but…

  7. Parents Matching Convocations • Parents and BC’s 23+ Matching Convocation • New initiative • First one held in January 2009 • Invited BC’s 23+ to attend with parents • Already Blessed siblings were invited as well • Future convocations posted on the BFD website • www.familyfed.org/bfd • “Mini-Convocations” like Phoenix, June 19-21, 2009

  8. Parents Matching Convocations #1 in Barrytown, NY, Oct. 2006 135 parents

  9. Parents Matching Convocations #2 in Livermore, CA, May 2007 99 parents

  10. Parents Matching Convocations #3 in Barrytown, NY, Oct., 2007 220 parents

  11. Parents Matching Convocations #4 San Leandro, CA, Feb., 2008 125 parents

  12. Presentations, BC Panel, Group Mtgs, Reunions

  13. 3 Minute Speed Meetings

  14. Advocates andthe Matching Support Team • Advocates • A parent who knows the BC candidate well and can assist him/her and parents in the Matching Process • Matching Support Team • Sisters who work with the BFD and support parents • Yasuko Takahashi - ytaka10591@hotmail.com • Tessa Thonett - tessathonett@gmail.com • Margret Orr - margretorr@hotmail.com • Have access to candidates from America, Europe, Africa, Japan, Korea, and South America

  15. Advocates andthe Matching Support Team

  16. Matching Binders • Collection of candidate profiles in binders • 1st Gen/JC binders as well as BC • Brought and displayed at PMCs • Not posted online on any websites • 2 hard copies • Maryland with the Stephens’ and New York with Mrs. Takahashi • Can be viewed by appointment • Digital copies with each BFD District Coordinator

  17. Candidates: Jacob Children In a special position…

  18. Blessing Preparation Workshops • Same course to the Blessing as 1st Gen • Change of Blood Lineage • Testimony of God’s View of Jacob Children • Blessing workshops for 1st Gen • Meaning and value of the Blessing • Explanation of Change of Blood Lineage course • Some Blessing Prep Workshops are designed specifically for JC’s

  19. Matching Convocations • 1st Gen Matching Convocations • Gatherings of candidate sponsors to network • Leaders attend also • “Matchmakers” • Sponsors • Represents the candidate at Matching Convocations • Parent, advocate, church leader, and/or spiritual parent • Someone who knows the candidate very well • New initiative

  20. Candidates: First Generation Friends, neighbors, countrymen…

  21. Blessing Preparation Workshops • English and Spanish • Coast to coast • About 2 workshops a year • Future workshops posted on BFD website: • www.familyfed.org/bfd/

  22. - Forms - Pictures The first impression…

  23. Page One • Basic Information • Name, Birth date • Nationality • Parents’ or Sponsor’s Contact Info • etc…

  24. Page Two • Personality • Hobbies • Future Goals • Character • Filled out by the candidate

  25. Page Three • Only 1st Gen • Technical Information • Education • Occupation • Health Issues

  26. Location of Forms • BFD website • www.familyfed.org/bfd • upper left corner

  27. Pictures • At least 2 pictures (no more than 4) • Head Shot • Full Length • Family Photo (highly recommended) • Important Photo needs to be good quality • Correct size • Looks nice

  28. Pictures

  29. Examples of Common Picture Mistakes Unfortunately the norm…

  30. Bad Idea • Too Small

  31. Bad Idea • Too Fuzzy

  32. Bad Idea • Too Dark

  33. Bad Idea • Faxed picture

  34. Bad Idea • Too Old

  35. Bad Idea • Too “Candid”

  36. Bad Idea • Bad Perspective • too high

  37. Bad Idea • Bad Perspective • too low

  38. Bad Idea • Don’t cut off my head!

  39. Bad Idea • …or my feet!

  40. Bad Idea • Bad Location

  41. Bad Idea • Bad Clothing

  42. Bad Idea • Too Confusing • …which one is the candidate? • arrow pointing

  43. Bad Idea • Too Many

  44. Good Idea • RECOMMEND PROFESSIONAL • Shows your seriousness • Bad picture = don’t care • Quality Stats: • High resolution (about 300dpi) • 8x10 inches • Vertical/portrait orientation • Plain background • Nice clothes, Good posture • Did I mention?: RECOMMEND PROFESSIONAL!

  45. Process of Talking to Other Family • First contact • Share brief introduction • BC involved to the extent that you desire • Maybe share pictures • Further information • Flag Page, 5 Love Languages, Myers-Briggs, Astrology • Written answers to questions • Phone calls, emails, etc. • Meeting face to face • Parents meet BCs • Finally BCs meet

  46. Five Love Languages Stephens Family

  47. 16 Types of Personalities Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Jim Hiromi Nari Kristin Miilhan Heungkook Soniyae

  48. 16 Types of Personalities Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) There are FOUR DIMENSIONS of Personality Type which are the important aspects of personality. The dimensions represent four continuums, with two ends and a midpoint (like a scale). Each person has an inborn preference for one side or the other. Extraversion Introversion Sensing Intuition Thinking Feeling Judging Perceiving

  49. 16 Types of Personalities Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Let’s figure out your type. Extraversion Introversion E I Where do you get your energy? * Prefer being around people. * Are interested in many things. * Have lots of friends, associates. * Jump into things pretty quickly. * Are usually pretty talkative. * Are more public and easier to get to know. * Are enthusiastic and outgoing. * Represent about 55% of US pop. * Are comfortable spending time alone. * Are selective and like to focus on one or a few things. * Have a few very close friends. * Think about things before they act. * Are usually fairly reserved. * Are more private and harder to read. * Appear calm and self-contained. * Represent about 45% of US pop.

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