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EQ Fundamentals. The Reaction Cycle. Author: Joshua Freedman V7-08. Stress Responses. Maladaptive. Adaptive. Arousal Reaction. stressor. stressor. stressor. Source: Tom Wojick from Harvard Mind/Body Medical Institute. Escalator. The emotional system is all about safety.
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EQ Fundamentals The Reaction Cycle Author: Joshua Freedman V7-08
Stress Responses Maladaptive Adaptive Arousal Reaction stressor stressor stressor Source: Tom Wojick from Harvard Mind/Body Medical Institute
The emotional system is all about safety. When you perceive threat, your body goes into survival mode. Survival is hard-wired • Under the Gun
Set-Up Features • Thoughts • He’s defying me • I can’t solve it • Feelings • Frustration, Disrespect • Helpless, Fear • Actions • Lack of sleep • Caffeine, junk food
Interpretation Features • Thoughts • Memory – is this like previous time? • Judgment (e.g. disrespect) • Feelings • Detect danger – anger, fear • Actions • Flood of chemicals • Increased tension
Reaction • Output • Physical • Emotional • Cognitive
Escalation Features • Thoughts • Forever, Always, Never • More judgment • Feelings • Anger • Fear, guilt • Actions • Fight, Flee, Freeze • Cascade of chemicals • + cortisol (interferes with seratonin) + adrenalin
Choice Points Choice Points
Shifting to Balance • 1. Prevention:State change • Notice the warning signs. • Make a shift: • Breathe • Move • Reframe • Play • Appreciate 1
Shifting to Balance • 2. Early Intervention:Alternate habits • Rehearse new responses • Evaluate / change beliefs • Be an observer 2
Shifting to Balance 3 • 3. De-escalation:Six Second Pause • Slow down cycle • Reconnect thinking & feeling • Distract • Reframe • Shift emotions
“First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.” Thomas a Kempis (1380 - 1471)