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Parenting Skills. Parenting from the Heart. Human Brain. Organ for behaviour. Brain---------------------------Neuron. Neurons. . The prefrontal cortex control judgment and self-control, is the last part of the brain to mature. Parenting is a gift of God. Parenting is Gardening.
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Parenting Skills Parenting from the Heart
. The prefrontal cortex control judgment and self-control, is the last part of the brain to mature
Parenting is Gardening The Universe blossoms in face of child. By bringing out the best in your child, you bring out the best in this universe.
Parenting is Trust The biggest trust is being entrusted with a life. The biggest responsibility is to live that trust through out your life.
Parenting comes at a price The sleepless nights, the career sacrifices, the postponing of your so many activities. The prize of parenting.
Parenting is Enjoying Smiling together, singing songs, playing together with your child…..are most enjoyable moments of life.
Overview • Practical Meaning of Parenting • Myths and Facts related to Parenting • Different Parenting Styles and their outcomes • Effective Parenting Skills (A-Z of Effective Parenting)
Practically, Parenting is…… • Meeting the child’s needs to age of 18 or sometimes longer. • Guiding the child toward the goal of becoming a competent adult.
Facts: • No one is born with all the preparation needed to be an effective parent • Many parenting skills must be learned through gaining knowledge and experience
Myth# 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parentA mature adult can be a perfect parentadult can be a perfect parent Myth# 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parent • A mature adult can be a perfect parent • A mature adult can be a perfect parent
Facts: Humans are not perfect, so no one can be a perfect parent Mature adults should strive to become competent parents, not perfect parents
Facts: • Influences outside the family, such as peers, adults other than parents, and media affect children in healthy or unhealthy ways
Facts: • Like any other job, parenting can be fun, sad, exciting, boring, satisfying, and frustrating • Adults should have realistic expectations about parenting
In psychology today, there are four major recognized parenting styles: authoritative, neglectful, permissive, and authoritarian
Authoritative parentingDemanding and responsive • Authoritative parenting high expectations of maturity • Understand how their children are feeling, teach them how to regulate their feelings. • Forgiving of any possible shortcomings. • Help children to find appropriate outlets to solve problems. • Encourage children to be independent but places limits on their actions
Authoritative…… • Parents try to be warm and nurturing toward the child. • Allows the child to explore more freely, make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning. • Children who are more independent and self reliant • High parental responsiveness and high parental demands.
Authoritative…… • Set clear standards and monitor limits, children develops autonomy • Expect mature, independent, and age-appropriate behavior of children. • Punishments measured and consistent. • Consequences of actions are explored and discussed. • Behavior is inappropriate and not to be repeated, rather than not repeated to merely avoid adverse consequences.
Positive encouragement at the right places. • Parent will explain his or her motive for their punishment. Punishment is reasonable and fair Child knows why and they are being punished and when they will be punished,children of are more likely to be successful, well liked by those around them, generous and capable of self determination
How to recognize if you are an authoritative parent • · Does your child’s day have structure to it, such as a planned bedtime and understood household rules? • · Are there consequences for disrupting this structure or breaking the household rules? • · Does your child understand the expectations that you have for their behavior, and are these expectations reasonable? • · Do you have a healthy and open line of communication with your child? That is, does your child feel that they can speak to you about anything without fear of negative consequence or harsh judgment?
Authoritarian……… • Demanding but not responsive. • Authoritarian parents allow for little open dialogue between parent and child • Expect children to follow a strict set of rules and expectations. • They usually rely on punishment to demand obedience or teach a lesson.
OUTCOME • Obedient • Distrustful • No expression of freedom • Withdrawn • Unhappy • Hostile • Not High Achievers
Recognizing your authoritarian style: • ·Do you have very strict rules that you believe should be followed no matter what? • · Do you often find yourself offering no explanations for the rules other than “Because I said so?” • · Do you give your child few choices and decisions about their own life? • · Do you find yourself utilizing punishment as a means of getting your child to do what you ask? • · Are you reserved in the amount of warmth and nurturing you show your child?
Neglectful parenting • Most harmful styles of parenting that can be used on a child. • Parents rarely fluctuate naturally into neglectful parenting as a response to child behavior. • If a parent recognizes themselves as a neglectful parent, or if a friend recognizes that they may know a neglectful parent, it is important to understand that those parents need assistance so that they can get back on track to having a healthy and communicative relationship within the family.
Are you the one……….. • · Do you care for your child’s needs—emotional, physical, and otherwise? • · Do you have an understanding of what is going on in your child’s life? • · Does the home provide a safe space for the child where they can share their experiences and expect positive feedback rather than negative or no feedback? • · Do you spend long periods of time away from home, leaving the child alone? • · Do you often find yourself making excuses for not being there for your child? • · Do you know your child’s friends? Teachers? • · Are you involved in your child’s life outside the home?
Damaging to children, because they have no trust foundation with their parents from which to explore the world. • Children who have a negative or absent relationship with their parent will have a harder time forming relationships with other people, particularly children their age. • If you suspect that you or a friend of yours may be a neglectful parent, it is important to seek help in a way that does not damage the child further or intrude into their life in a disruptive manner.
Permissive parenting • Permissive parenting is another potentially harmful style of parenting. • These parents are responsive but not demanding. • These parents tend to be lenient while trying to avoid confrontation. • Usually very nurturing and loving. • The negatives outweigh this benefit.
