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1. Bullying in Child care settings and in schools

   Presented by: Sharon Auclerc RN Child Care Health Consultant
2. Objectives To identify and understand: -Various bullying behaviors. -The scope of the bullying problem. -Who bullies? -The warning signs that a child is being bullied. -Strategies that can be used to deal with bullying. -Steps adults can take to address bullying.
3. Definition of Bullying: Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior. Bullying is intentional, hurtful (physical or psychological). Can be threatening and persistent (repeated). There is an imbalance of strength. (perceived)
4. Intent of child with bullying behavior: It is intentional, meaning the act is done willfully, knowingly, and with deliberation to hurt or harm. Many definitions indicate that the bullying is “repeated” but it can be circumstantial or chronic. It may result from a single situation, such as being the new student in school.
5. Facts and Statistics : Estimated that 160,000 children miss school everyday due to fear of attack or intimidation American schools harbor approximately 2.1 million bullies and 2.7 million of their victims
6. Facts & Statistics 1 in 7 children in grades K-12 is either a bully or a victim of a bully. 56% of students have personally witnessed some type of bullying in school.
7. Facts & Statistics 71% of students report that bullying is a problem at school. 1 out of 20 students have seen a student with a gun at school.
8. What does Bullying look like?
9. Physical Bullying Hitting, slapping, elbowing, shouldering. Shoving in a hurtful or embarrassing way. Kicking Taking, stealing, damaging or defacing belongings or other property. Restraining Pinching Flushing someone’s head in toilet
10. ‘Children who bully: Can come from any economic, cultural, or religious background. Are often in late elementary or middle school, but usually starts at ages 3-5.
11. Verbal Bullying: Name-calling Insulting remarks and put-downs Repeated teasing Racist remarks or other harassment Threats and intimidation Whispering behind someone’s back
12. Social or Relational Bullying: Destroying and manipulating relationships. Destroying status within a peer group. Destroying reputations Humiliation and embarrassment
13. Social or Relational Bullying: Gossiping Hurtful graffiti Social rejection or isolation Threatening gestures, taunting, pestering, insulting.
14. Cyber bullying: Negative text messages on cell phone, e-mail, or voice-mail.
15. “Boys that bully” Boys bully more than girls. Boys bully both boys and girls. Use more direct behaviors (physical & verbal) Physical aggression may be used more by boys than girls. They are just as likely as girls to use social and emotional taunting.
16. “Children who bully” Want power Have a positive attitude toward violence. Have quick tempers. Have difficulty conforming to rules Gain satisfaction from inflicting injury and perceive “rewards” from their behavior.
17. Children who bully: Lack empathy Are concerned with their own desires rather than others. Find it difficult to see things from someone else’s perspective. Are willing to use others to get what they want.
18. “Youth that are bullied” These children often stand out as different in some way because of: -Appearance -Sexual orientation (or perceived orientation) -Intellect -Social-economic background -Cultural or religious background
19. Girl’s who bully are: Aggressive Becoming more physical. More likely to bully other girls, but sometimes bully boys. Girls bully in groups more than boys do.
20. Girl who Bully: Seek to inflict psychological pain on their victims. Girls attack within tightly knit networks of friends.
21. Every 7 minutes, a child on an elementary playground is bullied!
22. It occurs at a early age Onset is between 3 and 4 years old!
23. Preschool bullying: Begins in preschool and continues. After age 3, the brain has the ability to understand another point of view. That’s when purposeful aggression can begin.
24. Characteristics of Young children that bully: Multiple temper tantrums in one day, or several tantrums lasting more than 15 minutes. Consistent refusal to follow directions. A desire to be the boss all the time. Impatience Indifference to having hurt someone.
25. Warning signs in preschool, that a child is being bullied: Frequent crying Saying kids are mean to me. I hate “so-and-so” I don’t want to play with him/her anymore. Changes in eating or sleeping habits.
26. Warning signs in preschool, that a child is being bullied: My tummy aches, headaches. Won’t make eye contact when asked how his day went. Withdrawn, anxious, depressed, or even fearful. Fear of school, or refusal to go. No longer wanting to participate in activities once enjoyed.
27. Warning signs continued: Beginning to bully siblings or mistreat family pets. Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide. Suddenly changing friends. Changing method of going to school. Drop in grades.
28. Be Cautious: If a toddler goes around biting other children they are likely doing it: -because they are in pain (teething) -experiencing some emotional or physical distress. -because they can’t tell you what is happening. -because they get lots of attention from the incident.
29. Consider: A four-year-old who is grabbing things, bumping, hitting and pushing others may be doing it because: -They want to play with others and get a sense of belonging. -Lack the communication skills to do this in a socially acceptable way. **Some 3 year olds may lack the social skills needed at times. Be cautious not to quickly label a child a bully!!
30. Where does Bullying happen? Most likely occurs with no or poor adult supervision. Occurs in homes, nursery schools, childcare centers, preschools, and all levels of schools. Libraries, restrooms, and school bus are other areas.
31. Where does Bullying happen? It Mainly occurs in hidden areas and areas such as: halls, stairwells, playgrounds, between buildings, the cafeteria, on buses, and parking lots.
32. Suicide or Bullycide Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of death among children under the age of 14! The term Bullycide is a term used to describe suicide as the result of bullying.
33. What are warning sign’s that a school aged child is being bullied? Decrease in school attendance. Grades decline Difficulty with concentration Wants to take different routes to school.
34. What are warning sign’s that a school aged child is being bullied? Seems happy on weekends but unhappy or preoccupied or tense on Sundays. Frequent illnesses, or fakes being sick often Nightmares or insomnia. Unexplainable scratches and bruises.
35. School aged continued Suddenly develops a stammer or stutter Angry, irritable disruptive, aggressive, quick-tempered. Cautious, clingy, nervous, anxious, worried, fearful and insecure.
36. Signs of being bullied: Overly concerned about personal safety; spends a lot of time and effort thinking or worrying about getting safely to and from a location. Carries protective devices. Possessions are often “lost”, damaged or destroyed without explanation.
37. More signs of being bullied: Blames self for problems or difficulties; feels defective and inadequate. Talks about not being able to stand up for himself. Expresses lack of self value and self confidence. Expresses lack of trust in and respect for school personnel.
38. More signs child is being bullied continuted Suddenly starts bullying other students, siblings, or children they are around. Becomes overly aggressive, rebellious, and unreasonable.
39. More signs of being bullied: Sudden interest in violent movies, video games, and books. Talks about attempting suicide. Self-harms (cutting, no eating, overeating) Drastic change in appearance.
40. More signs: Beginning to bully siblings or mistreat family pets. Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide. Suddenly changing friends.
41. Possible warning signs that a child might bully someone Lies in attempt to stay out of trouble. Disregards or breaks school or class rules. Seeks, even craves attention; seems just as satisfied with negative attention as positive attention. Tends to be confident with high self-esteem. Has a close network of friends, who follow along. Lacks coping skills.
42. What are the immediate and long term effects of bullying: Nightmares Bedwetting Low self-esteem Suicidal thoughts/attempts
43. What are the immediate and long term effects of bullying: Feelings of hurt, anger or unhappiness which may lead to depression. Depression can last into adulthood, where they may have trouble forming relationships. Victims are more apt to use tobacco and alcohol and be abusive to their partners.
44. What can you do to prevent bullying in the classroom: Gentle but firm intervention and consistent intervention. Admit and confront the situation. Set clear rules and consequences that address the behavior and its cause.
45. What can you do to prevent bullying in the classroom: Positive modeling Supervision and Intervention. Change attitudes toward bullying. Do not ignore, that is saying it’s ok!!!! Stop the bullying quickly. Name the bullying behavior. Impose immediate and appropriate consequences.
46. Remember: Statistics say that adult intervention takes place in only 4% of incidents of bullying. Quick intervention is very important. Making a change early will make a difference. Follow through with classroom rules on bullying. DO NOT IGNORE BULLYING!! (when you ignore that says to the children that the behavior is acceptable)
47. Remember: Monitor the behavior of the bully & safety of the victim. Bullies need to acknowledge their actions & results of their actions and develop shame: -Change actions to stay out of trouble. -Develop guilt (“I hurt someone”) -Learn to trust and delay gratification. -Form relationships with helping adults. -Do not question the child that is being bullied in from of the bully.
48. Don’t forget: All consequences should be logical and connected to the offense (take away social opportunities). Let the child know that has done the bullying that he/she will be monitored. Do not require kids to meet and “work things out”
49. What can you do for the child that is bullied? Take swift action to deal with the bullying. Discuss bullying with children, how it feels to be bullied. Have the children practice walking away. Practice looking the bully in the eye and tell them they do not like what’s happening. Arrange meeting with families of the child who is the bully and the one that is being bullied.
50. Teachers should: Notice when a pupil is isolated and sad. Investigate why the pupil is having issues. Not ignore the situation and see it as “play-fighting”. Name calling. a bit of fun or just part of growing up. Do not tell the child that is bullied to ignore it, sort it out or to hit back.
51. Don’t Forget: We cannot force every child to be “friends”, there will always be differences. We must assist in teaching the child the communication and social skills necessary for positive interaction. Talking about feelings, reading stories and discussing social interaction, are good ideas.
52. Resources: Bullyfree.com Stopbullyingnow.com Careforkids.com www.nobullying.org Center for Disease control http://www.kycss.org Special thanks to: Melanie Napier & Denise Boyd LSW
53. Presented by: Sharon Auclerc RN, Child care health consultant. Gateway District Health Department P.O. box 555, Gudgell Ave. Owingsville, Ky. 40360 606-674-6396 ext. 23 Sharona.auclerc@ky.gov