Relationship: physical and mental abuse

1. Relationship: physical and mental abuse By: Hassel Antunez

2. What is relationship abuse? • Relationship abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. • This can include threats, isolation, and intimidation.

3. Why do victims stay? • They GET THREATEN TO GET KILLED OR GET HURT if they leave • LOW SELF ESTEEM • EMPTY PROMISES • LACK OF SUPPORT SYSTEMS • They don’t have no one to help them • The victim feels to frightened, confused, and even embarrassed to leave

4. Different types of relationship abuse • Emotional • Verbal • Physical • Sexual • Financial • Mental

5. What is physical abuse? • Physical abuse is Any Intentional unwanted contact with the other person’s body. Physical abuse does not have to leave a mark or a bruise. Examples: • Scratching • Choking • Kicking • Using a Weapon • Pulling Hair • Biting • Pushing • Burning • Shoving • Strangling • Punching • Slapping • Pinching

6. What is mental abuse? • Mental abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or psychological abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder]Such abuse is often associated with situations of Power imbalance, such as abusive relationships. Bullying, and abuse in the workplace.

7. Warning signs!! • Extreme Jealousy • Constant put-downs • Telling the other person what to do • Has an Explosive temper • Threats • Possessiveness • Preventing the other person from doing what he or she wants to do. • Severe mood swings • Making false accusations about the other person • History of violence • Isolating the other person from family and friends • Seeking financial control over the other person

8. What are some effects of this? • Loss of appetite • Fear • Terror • Depression • Shame • Mistrust of one self and others • Self-blame

9. Sexual coercion and peer pressure Is this considered abuse? If so, what type? Anger/Emotional Abuse & Social Status You are such an idiot, that’s why I have to make all the decisions! I love you so much that I don’t want to live without you. I’ll kill myself if you leave. Threats Isolation Minimize, deny, & Blame I didn’t mean to hurt you; You made me upset; You deserved it! “We have been dating for 6 months and we haven't had sex, is there something wrong with me? Our other friends say they usually have sex after a few weeks.” Do you have to go to your friends b-day party, I wanted to spend time with you this weekend, I should be more important than your friends

10. Friends Do’s and don’ts DO: Don’t • ASK IF SOMETHING IS WroNG • EXPRESS CONCERN • LISTEN AND VALIDATE • OFFER HELP • SUPPORT HIS OR HER DECISIONS • Wait for him and her to come to you • Judge or blame • Pressure him or her • Give advice • Place conditions on your support

11. DON’T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU! • Go to a safe place -remove yourself from the situation • Get help - call police, friend, family it is possible for the police to arrest the abuser and will escort you to a safer place • Talk to someone and let them know what’s going on! • Think seriously about your situation - you may think you can handle it … but think twice to be sure. • Don’t let it be too late to get help!

12. Videos: • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmIhF__sM6o • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_lWQJPLd-8 • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3aH-Rxme1RU • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oM8PZxsq1V4

13. Work cited: • Burleigh, Nina L. "A High School Student's Nightmare: Dating Violence." - Physical Abuse, Real People Stories : People.com. People Magazine, 10 Sept. 2007. Web. 20 May 2014. • Painter, Kim. "Teen Dating Abuse Is Common and Complex, Studies Say." USA Today. Gannett, 31 July 2013. Web. 21 May 2014. • Smith, Melinda. "Domestic Violence and Abuse." : Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships. Help Guide, 12 Feb. 2014. Web. 20 May 2014.