Family

1. Today Relationships Family Structure Parenting 3 theories Due next class: ½ page reflection about Religion article on website Family

2. Cycle of Abuse Timing: • Each phase can be as short as a few seconds • As long as years • Explosions can become more violent and dangerous

3. Young people face unique obstacles What prevents some people from getting help? • Difficulty recognizing abuse • Lack of resources. Money, transportation, or safe places to go. • Fear of abuser/family/ friends • Fear of sending abuser to jail • In some states, teens may not apply for restraining orders/get domestic violence services without parent or guardian. • Children with abuser • Embarrassment • Low self esteem • Hoping the abuser will change • Cultural religious reasons No one likes to be abused… abuse is unwanted behavior or contact.

4. A PLAN Safety Planning-What to have before leaving? • Contact person, code word • Safe place to go • Safe time to go • Financial planning • Important paperwork • Taking a leave from work/school • Protective order, save evidence (texts, photos of bruises, e-mails) • Self-defense classes • Avoid contact, change phone number, change e-mail, change or delete Facebook profile • Share tips for support on LoveIsRespect.org with family/friends

5. More info www.BreakTheCycle.org www.LoveIsRespect.org (866) 331-9474

6. Finding your significant other4 factors sociologists are interested in

7. 1. Propinquity (spatial nearness)

8. 2. Homogamy: tendency to chose a mate who is similar to you 3. Heterogamy: choosing a mate that is different than you Factors: hobbies, education, personality traits (outgoing versus introverted), spending habits, age, political beliefs, etc.

9. 4. Endogamy: choosing a mate of the same racial, ethnic, or religious background 5. Exogamy: choosing a mate outside of your race, ethnicity, religion

10. Defining Family • Social institution found in every human society • Two or more people, who consider themselves related by blood, marriage, or adoption

11. Defining Family • Nuclear family: Parents and their children • Extended family: parents, children, other kin

12. What changes do you think have occurred in the structure of families in the United States since the 1950’s?

13. Has divorce increased, decreased, or stayed the same since the 1980’s?

15. Number of divorces per 1,000 married women, age 15 and older Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.

16. Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.

18. Pros and Cons of Changes in Family StructureAnswer questions in groups of 1-3

19. Changes in structures of U.S. families: 1. Delayed childbearing • Today 1 in 5 women are having their first baby after age 35 What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

20. Changes in U.S. family structures 14% of U.S. married couples never have children. Why? 2. Not having children • Expenses • Career focus • Unstable relationships • Inability to have children

21. Changes in U.S. family structures 59% of married U.S. couples depend on two incomes About one in five children is cared for in day care centers. What are positive and negative aspects of this change? Nannies have become popular among upper-middle class parents. What are positive and negative aspects of this change? 3. Increased employment of married mothers Cosby Show

22. 4. Increase in the number of children being raised by grandparents Changes in U.S. family structures 6.5 million children o are being raised by grandparents or other relatives (U.S. Census Bureau) What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

23. Changes in U.S. family structures Modern Family 5. Increased divorce and blended families

24. Changes in U.S. family structures 6. Increased single-parent families One on One (Single dad and teenage daughter)

25. Changes in U.S. family structures Friends 7. Older age at 1st marriage Sex and The City

26. Changes in structures of U.S. families: Older age at 1st marriage U.S. men and women are staying single longer

27. Changes in U.S. family structures The Willis Family from the TV Show The Jeffersons 8. Increased interracial families

28. Changes in U.S. family structures 9. Increased cohabitation-couple living together that is not married Grey’s Anatomy

29. Most unmarried partners:California, Alaska Least unmarried partners:Utahat 4% and Alabama5%

30. Changes in U.S. family structures 10. Less people getting married. Why? 1.Marriage must now compete with school career living with a partner having children outside of marriage self-fulfillment 2. Less of a need to marry 3. Time and money - children 4. Fearful of commitments and constraints.

31. Other changes U.S. family structure • Increased births to unmarried women • Fewer children with married parents • Increase in families with same-sex parents • Increase in families with adopted children

32. Has teenage pregnancy increased, decreased, or stayed the same since 1990’s?

34. Source: Center for Disease Control and Prevention http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/hestats.htm

35. 1. Re-read Amy Chua’s article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” 2. Underline 3 points that you agree or disagree with 3. Underline any parenting techniques that you experienced or use as a parent Parenting • What did you underline and why • Do you agree with the author’s parenting style? Why or why not? • What parenting techniques do you think are best? Chua family From Ms. Chua's album: 'Mean me with Lulu in hotel room... with score taped to TV!'

36. Parenting Effective Discipline Techniques: Alternatives to Spanking Which of these techniques do you think are effective? Which do you think are ineffective? 1. Be a positive role model. 2. Set rules and consequences. 3. Encourage and reward good behavior. 4. Create charts. 5. Give time-outs.

37. Structural Functionalist Perspective Family is the back bone of society Performs functions that help society: • Replenishes population • Socializes children • Provides emotional and physical care • Traditional roles keep families together

38. Conflict Perspective Focuses on power distribution in marriages • Why do women take husbands last name? • Why do children take father’s last name? • Traditional roles require “domestic slavery” of the wife- no income or status • Even today working women still do more of the housework

39. Symbolic Interactionist Perspective Look at social meanings of divorce, single parenthood, and cohabitation • “Visitation rights” • “Single mom” • “Living in sin”

40. Next class A#8 Due: Read the article Misconceptions About Islam posted on the course website and type half a page to one page describing your personal reflection (What stood out to you most? What did you find most interesting? Discuss something specific from the article) 4 points

41. Extra CreditImportant Sociologists • 5 minute Power Point Presentation • Select a sociologist. Describe the following: brief background of their life, 2 major contributions to sociology, how is their work relevant today?  • 4 points possible • Present next week  • Choose the sociologist in class today by signing up • View sample on website

42. Silent Dialogue Partner Activity Purpose of the activity: 1. Develop critical thinking skills (there is no right or wrong answer, no right or wrong question to pose). The goal is to ask your partner a question that will invite them to look at their own thoughts in a deeper manner 2. Allow shy/quiet students sharetheir thoughts 3. Allow students to be the ones asking the questions instead of the teacher 4. Allow students to get feedback from peers instead of the teacher 5. Allow the teacher to assess the background knowledge students have on the topic (what do you already know about changes in family structure?)

43. Partner activity • Answer the question above. Write NEATLY • Example: “One way I think families have changed since the 1950’s is ____” • 2. When you hear the buzzer, pass your paper to your partner • 3. Read their statement and write an OPEN-ENDED thought provoking question for your partner that requires them to think about the topic more deeply or look at it in a different way • 4. When you hear the buzzer, switch papers and respond to you partner’s question thoughtfully. • 5. When you hear the buzzer switch papers and read the response • Write your names on both papers, turn into red folder at the end of class for your participation points for today What changes do you think have occurred in the structure of families in the United States since the 1950’s?

44. Defining Family • Family of orientation is the family in which a person grows up (your parents and siblings) • Family of procreation is the family formed when a couple’s first child is born (your partner and children).