Unit 4 – Conflicts

1. Unit 4 – Conflicts How do you handle conflict? Positive?

2. Quote “Violence kills so many Americans and sends so many others into the healthcare system that we must consider it a public health problem. Reducing the incidence of violence is a major priority for our nation……We must pay attention to the forces that fuel violence so that we can keep it from happening, rather than simply taking care of the consequences of violent acts.” Peter Edelman and David Satcher Health Affairs

3. Quote Questions • What is your interpretation of the quote? • Why is violence considered a public health problem? • Can violence be prevented? • Page ___________

4. Violence –pg _____ • Serious problem in our society • Child Abuse, Spouse Abuse, Rape, Suicide, Homicide, Assault, Weapons in school, Drug and Gang Wars, etc. • Can be prevented through education • Conflict if not handled healthfully can lead to very harmful behaviors. • Root of many mental and social health issues.

5. Styles of Resolving Conflict – pg 98 • Competing – Pursuing own goals; seeing conflict as a contest (one wins-one loses) • Avoiding – Not addressing the conflict; neglecting own needs (no one wins) • Accommodating – Giving in to the wishes of the other person. (lose-win) • Compromising – Satisfying some of the needs • Cooperating – Satisfying as many needs • Collaborating – a win-win way of dealing with conflicts How I resolve conflicts activity Identifying the Conflict

6. Scenario – pg _____ • Tim and Jake are friends. Jake lent Tim $50.00 for a present for his girlfriend. Tim has not paid back Jake the money yet. You are to write examples of how this conflict might be handled using the 6 styles of conflicts; competition, avoidance, accommodation, compromise, collaboration, and cooperation Please answer in complete sentences!

7. Resources • Conflict Resolution • Conflict Resolution • Conflict Rap • Respect • How to resolve conflicts

8. Peace of Mind Group (3-4)Activity • What are the main sources of conflict among students here at School? • Who are the typical people in conflict? Friends, BF/GF etc. • What form do the conflicts typically take (behaviors)? • How could these conflicts be avoided? • What are the main sources of conflict amongst teens in general?

9. Resolving Conflicts • Step 1 – Be a good Listener (let the other person speak –relax) many conflicts are just misunderstandings/lack of communication • Step 2 – Say what’s on your mind. (use I statements- 3 parts = I feel_____ When_____ Because_______) speak clear and calm – be polite but direct on how you feel. • Step 3 – Look for the Win-Win. Compromise. How much of these things you are arguing about is really that important to you? • Step 4 – if conflict gets worse – stop, GET OUT, Visit it later.

10. Activity • "How many of you have ever had a big argument or fight with a friend, or at least someone you knew pretty well?" • Ask students why they think that they fought rather than settled a conflict peacefully. • Create a skit with your group using the topic on the card selected. Utilize Conflict Resolution Skills that would promote a realistic, positive and non-violent resolution for both parties.