Counseling in Community

1. Counseling in Community OBJECTIVES Colossians 1: 28-29 28 He is the one we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ.29 To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me.

2. Counseling in Community Describe what fully immature looks like? 3 And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual men, but as to men of flesh, as to infants in Christ. 2 I gave you milk to drink, not solid food; for you were not yet able to receive it. Indeed, even now you are not yet able, 3 for you are still fleshly. For since there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not fleshly, and are you not walking like mere men? 1 Corinthians 3:1-3

3. Counseling in Community Describe what fully mature looks like? 9 Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love.10 If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. 11 These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full. 12 “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. John 15: 9-12

4. Counseling in Community Describe what fully mature looks like? Relational Maturity=Godly Relating • A joyful commitment to the well-being of another at any cost to self • An openness to receive love rather than demand love • Ongoing awareness and repentance of commitment to self

5. Counseling in Community What is needed to be relationally mature? Godly Relationships!!!!

6. Counseling in Community • 21 I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me. • 22 “I have given them the glory you gave me, so they may be one as we are one. 23 I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me. John 17: 21-23

7. Counseling in Community That means we DON’T NEED • Healing from our wounds • Rather we need the right perspective • To stop sinning • Rather to allow God to continue to reveal the depth of our sin and depth of his grace

8. Counseling in Community That means we DON’T NEED • Ministry “success” defined by “me” • Rather have ministry fruitfulness defined by God People don’t need fixed to become mature in Christ, they need to live in Godly relationships, loving communities

9. Counseling in CommunityGodlyRelationships What do we need to become relationally mature? • What is God’s role? • What is the Body of Christ’s role? • What is a clinical counselor’s role? • What is a Xenos counselor’s role?

10. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships God’s role • Stir a longing and a conviction in us to want to be in a relationship with Him • Took upon Himself our relationship with sin so we can be released from it. • Give us a relationship with the Holy Spirit

11. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships God’s role: • Give us a relationship with His word (the word made flesh as a model and His written word that is alive in us) • Place us in the relationships He has sovereignly ordained as the ones we need

12. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships Your Role: To offer the love relationship that Christ has given you. List the aspects you enjoy most about your relationship with Christ. What do you learn from the gospels about discipleship?

13. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships What do you needto be able to give this? Colossians 1:29 Labor and strive according to Christ’s power Hebrews 12: 1-2, lay aside and fix our eyes Ongoing awareness and repentance of commitment to self

14. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships 16 Pay close attention to yourself and to your teaching; persevere in these things, for as you do this you will ensure salvation both for yourself and for those who hear you. 1 Timothy 4: 16

15. Counseling in CommunityGodly Relationships To present everyone mature in Christ • God does the heavy work • You are the one He entrusted to be his main partner How does this change your view about when to refer to counseling?

16. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling Clinical counseling is conducted by people who are educated, trained and licensed by the state, to address issues of neglect, abuse, addiction, trauma, diagnosable problems (depression, anxiety, OCD, ADHD, mood and personality disorders and so on) Clinical counselors develop treatment plans to manage and reduce symptoms

17. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling Christian clinical counseling is conducted by people who are educated, trained and licensed by the state, to address issues of neglect, abuse, addiction, trauma and diagnosable disorders within the context of biblical truth.

18. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling People need clinical counseling for A diagnosis Medication Ongoing and serious symptoms of a diagnosed issue.

19. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling • The mental and emotional symptoms are varied in nature. • The duration of the symptoms last for longer than a couple of months. • The frequency of the symptoms have stayed the same, or have become worse.

20. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling • They do not yet have sufficient education of what to expect and what they need to manage symptoms • Do not yet have healthy coping skills to manage • They are not yet able to take advantage of the relational support God has given them • You don’t know how to instruct, support and motivate them in these areas.

21. Counseling in CommunityClinical Counseling There is some impairment in at least two areas of a person’s life: • Occupationally (work or school) • Socially (family, friends, church) • Mentally (ability to focus, memory, concentration, etc.) • Physically (sleep, diet, exercise, sicknesses, etc.) • Spiritually (apathy, isolation, doubt, confusion, etc.) 

22. Counseling in Community Scope of Xenos Counseling Biblical counseling you receive at Xenos Christian Fellowship will be different from that of the mental health community. Biblical counseling is a form of discipleship to help people respond to God as taught in the Bible in the areas of lifestyle, love relationships, and serving others. Our biblical counselors are not licensed mental health counselors. If your needs are beyond the scope of biblical counseling, you may want to seek a licensed mental health provider.

23. Counseling in Community Scope of Xenos Counseling Xenos counseling addresses spiritual, attitudinal, relational issues both from the perspective of wounds (how people have sinned against you) and the hurtful way within you (your sinful response)

24. Counseling in Community Scope of Xenos Counseling Xenos counseling can work within the realm of clinical issues but is only qualified to address the spiritual, attitudinal and relational problems. Abuse Depression Anxiety

25. Counseling in Community Scope of Xenos Counseling You should refer to Xenos counseling • After you have given all that God wants you to give in bearing their burdens. • If you don’t have the knowledge they need

26. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Workers should: • Be informed • Educate new leaders and workers on what kind of counselors to recommend • Know how to use the counseling web page for resources and information about counseling.

27. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Be informed • Understand the scope of our knowledge of the client

28. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Workers should: • Initiate contact with counselors if they want to be involved with counselor’s work • Maintain contact through email to give any important information

29. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Counselors should: • Initiate contact if something comes up that leaders or disciplers should know • Not make decisions about home church matters (living in a house, being removed from cell, discipline) (Input yes; opinions no)

30. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Conferral should: • Not be gossip (Do not say anything or say it in a way that would be any different if the client was listening in) • In most cases the client should be aware that we are conferring and about what.

31. Counseling in CommunityThe Best working Relationship Complaints made by client about home church or counselor need to be investigated prior to reacting to client. Differences of opinion between home church and counselor should be discussed directly rather than with client