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TOOL TIME: CLUB IMPROVEMENT. 9 TOOLS EVERY DÉJÀ VU LEADER MUST HAVE. WHAT IS A DÉJÀ VU LEADER?. SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP SEEN OVER AND OVER AGAIN WHEN WE SEE IT IN ACTION, WE ASK: WHY DOES THIS SEEM SO FAMILIAR?. THREE REALIZATIONS. THEY WERE ALL SUCCESSFUL IN WHAT THEY DO
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TOOL TIME: CLUB IMPROVEMENT 9 TOOLS EVERY DÉJÀ VU LEADER MUST HAVE
WHAT IS A DÉJÀ VU LEADER? • SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP SEEN OVER AND OVER AGAIN • WHEN WE SEE IT IN ACTION, WE ASK: WHY DOES THIS SEEM SO FAMILIAR?
THREE REALIZATIONS • THEY WERE ALL SUCCESSFUL IN WHAT THEY DO • THEY ALL REACH THEIR GOALS • WHAT IS THE CONNECTION?
REALIZATION NUMBER ONE: • THE ANSWER TO “Who is this person?” was not a person at all • It was a way of behaving • A clear pattern • A path • A certain set of good choices
REALIZATION NUMBER TWO • People who found what they were looking for in life seem to do a certain set of things in common
REALIZATION NUMBER THREE: • If you were not born with these patterns for leadership in place, you can learn them • They exist on their own and are available to all of us
WHY USE THE NINE TOOLS OF DÉJÀ VU LEADERS? • THEY ARE UTTERLY DEPENDABLE • MAKE A DIFFERENCE WHEN USED • WHEN AVOIDED, DISASTER OCCURS • BRING SUCCESS AND HELP
TOOL ONE: EXCAVATE YOUR SOUL • DÉJÀ VU LEADERS EXPLORE THEIR DEEP HEARTS • THEY INVEST IN THEIR INNER DESIRES AND AMBITIONS
OPTIMIZE OPPORTUNITIES • Become aware of dreams and talents • Listen to them and value them • Develop them • Seek coaching • Find the buried treasure
Put on Your Hard Hat And Take the Appropriate Risks • There is very little growth and reward in life without taking risks • Avoidance of risk is the greatest risk of all • Healthy risk occurs after much preparation
Grasp Your Dreams • Reach for them • Take appropriate risks • Potential is something to be realized, so dig it up!!! • Life comes from the inside out
Tool Two: Yank The Diseased Tooth • Déjà vu leaders do not allow negative things to take up space in their lives • If they can’t fix the bad stuff, they get rid of it • They get rid of negative energy
Cavities to Fill, Teeth to Pull • Déjà vu leaders fill the cavities in the minor bad stuff and yank out the major bad stuff • Clear out clutter & dead weight that take up space and don’t help us • Get rid of the things you are not using • Fill the cavity or pull the tooth
When to Call the Dentist • When all hope for the desired outcome has been exhausted • New things that actually have hope for the future cannot appear until you get rid of what was taking up the space that the new thing needs
The Cringe Factor • What’s the Cringe Factor? • Déjà vu leaders don’t get into energy- drains to begin with • What is the little voice inside telling you?
Tool Three: Play the Whole Movie • Déjà vu leaders evaluate their decisions in the present based on how they will affect the future • “If I do A, not only will B happen, but C will too. And D and E and F and G and on and on” • What will happen in the end?
Give an Oscar-Winning Performance • Plot a movie…a vision of your life • See it, plan it and evaluate it in light of where the movie is supposed to end • Make sure you have the right supporting cast • You will be a successful leader and have a life well lived
Tool Four: Put Superman Out of a Job • Déjà vu leaders continually ask themselves, “What can I do to make this situation better?” • They call on themselves as the first source to correct difficult situations
Déjà Vu Leaders Make a Move • They live out the “get moving approach” • They get out of the phone booth • They do something SUPER • Send Superman to the unemployment line!
Tool Five: Embrace Your Inner Insect • Déjà vu leaders achieve big goals by taking small steps over time • Every feat ahead of us is really no more complex than one step at a time, one grain of sand at a time
Déjà Vu Leaders Achieve Big Goals By Taking Small Steps Over Time • They achieve their successes by embracing their inner insect and acting like an ant • They don’t have ‘all or nothing’ thinking • They realize that wanting it all keeps you from having any • They know that wanting it now keeps you from having it
What Are Your Ant Farms? • We get overwhelmed by the obstacles standing between us and our goals • Take a one-grain-at-a-time approach • Enjoy success as a leader like you never thought possible
Tool Six: Earn a Black Belt in Hate • Déjà vu leaders develop the ability to hate the right things well • What we hate says a lot about who we are • Character is in part formed by what we hate, because we move to be different from whatever it is
Hate or Tolerate? • What will you tolerate? What will you not? • Make your values intentional • Deal with your subjective hatred • Mix hate with love and respect=an integrated character • Build your skills • Choose to respond in a constructive way
Tool Seven: Forget About Playing Fair • Déjà vu leaders give back better than they are given • The fault with fairness is that the other person must be good so I can be good • Fair is good, but it does not work
Getting Beyond Fair • To succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores • Get rid of anger • Ask yourself what is helpful • Get past your own need • Ask how you have contributed • Give the opposite • Don’t play fair, play right
Tool Eight: Quit Self-Exaggerating • Déjà vu leaders do not strive to be or to appear more than they really are • They live by the humility principle: They know they are who they are • Humility is being insignificant, unpretentious
Everybody Screws Up!!!! • Leaders know that failures are part of the path to success and even successful people go through loss, failure and crises • Admit quickly when you are wrong • Receive correction from others well • The way of the déjà vu leader is basically to be “real”
Tool Nine: Ignore the Popularity Polls • Déjà vu leaders do not make decisions based upon the fear of other people’s reactions • They know the difference between hurting someone and harming them • It’s like surgery • They go against the odds if the odds are against what is right
Set Your Heading • To be a successful leader, you may not keep everyone around you happy • If you are successful you will tick some people off!!! • Don’t count your critics, weigh them • Make sure you are upsetting the controlling, irresponsible and manipulative people, not the kind and honest and responsible people
Becoming A Déjà Vu Leader 11 honing and polishing tools: • Don’t go it alone • Seek wisdom • Receive feedback and correction • Find models • Review your patterns • Deal with impediments • Practice, practice, practice, and fail • Change your beliefs • Quarantine your weaknesses • Put your vision and goals on paper • Be accountable
Be a Déjà Vu Leader • Put these tools to work for you • Look forward to the time when you do or say something that seems familiar to you-it’s not the Twilight Zone-IT’S DÉJÀ VU!!!!!