4 Biblical Compass Points for Biblical Counseling, Part 2: Nouthetic Biblical Counseling for

1. 4 Biblical Compass Points for Biblical Counseling, Part 2: NoutheticBiblical Counseling for Sin and Sanctification

2. Tim’s Story • Has anyone ever ministered to you like Tim’s first counselor? If so, what was the result? How did it feel? Has anyone ever ministered to you like Tim’s second counselor? If so, what was the result? How did it feel? • What map, process, or model do you think guided Tim’s first counselor? What guided Tim’s second counselor? • How would you have ministered to Tim? Where would you have started? Why? What map, process, or model would guide you?

3. Biblical Counseling for Suffering and Sanctification • Sustaining: “It’s Normal to Hurt”—Empathize (Romans 12:15) • Healing: “It’s Possible to Hope”—Encourage (Ephesians 3:20)

4. Biblical Counseling for Sin and Sanctification • Reconciling: “It’s Horrible to Sin, but Wonderful to Be Forgiven”—Enlighten (Romans 5:20) • Guiding: “It’s Supernatural to Mature”— Empower (Philippians 3:10)

5. Gospel-Centered Care-fronting For Sin & Sanctification • Care-fronting: Nouthetic—Care-fronting out of Concern for Change (Growth)

6. Gospel-Centered Care-fronting For Sin & Sanctification • “You must be aware that you have become cold, have given your heart to idols… I am concerned about your soul. I cannot permit myself to cease praying for you and being concerned about you. For then I am convinced I would cease being the Church.”

7. Gospel-Centered Care-fronting For Sin & Sanctification • Reconciling Grace for Sin/Sanctification: Rom. 5:20 • Guiding Grace for Sin/Sanctification: Titus 2:11-14

8. Reconciling • “It’s Horrible to Sin!” • In Love and Humility, Load the Conscience with Guilt • “You have fallen away from such good beginnings and become a very different person. You are sharply and severely oppressive to your subjects. God will not suffer this.”

9. Reconciling • Expose the HeartSin by Probing Relational Patterns

10. Reconciling • Catch Them Red-handed: Hebrews 3, 4 • Leave the Conviction to God: 2 Timothy 2:24-26

11. Reconciling • “It’s Wonderful to Be Forgiven:” Romans 5:20 • Lighten the Conscience with Grace: 2 Corinthians 2:5-11

12. Reconciling • “You say that the sins which we commit every day offend God, and therefore we are not saints. To this I reply: Mother love is stronger than the filth and scabbiness on a child, and so the love of God toward us is stronger than the dirt that clings to us.”

13. Reconciling • Recognize the “Quadrolog”: Matthew 4 • “To tell the truth, Satan sometimes assails me so mightily and oppresses me with such heavy mental temptations, that he utterly shadows Christ from me, and, in a manner, takes Him out of my sight.”

14. Reconciling • Be aDispenserof Grace • “For who is able to express what a thing it is, when a man is assured in his heart that God neither is nor will be angry with him, but will be forever a merciful and loving Father to him for Christ’s sake? This is indeed a marvelous liberty to have the most high and sovereign Majesty so favorable to us.”

15. Reconciling • Provide Tastes of Grace • “The word of a fellow-Christian has wonderful power. The voice of brethren and fellow Christians are to be heard and believed as the word and voice of God himself, as though God was speaking to them.”

16. Reconciling • Pen Psalms of Home Coming: Engage in Reconciling Gospel Trialogues

17. Engage in Reconciling Gospel Trialogues • “What does God’s Word say concerning your current way of relating? Thinking? Choosing? Handling your feelings?” • “Could we explore James 4:1-4 to understand what might be going on in your heart?” • “How would you compare the way you are relating to me right now to how you generally relate when someone offers you feedback?”

18. Engage in Reconciling Gospel Trialogues • “Tell me about a time when you’ve experienced God’s forgiveness?” • “What role do you think Satan has been playing in tempting you to dismiss God’s gracious forgiveness?” • “We’ve just read the story of the return of the Prodigal son (Luke 15). What desires for God’s forgiveness does this stir up in your heart?” • “What would it be like for you to write a Psalm 32 or a Psalm 51?”

19. Maturing As a Gospel-Centered Ambassador of Reconciliation • Who has reconciled you by helping you sense “it’s horrible to sin, but wonderful to be forgiven”? Who has “dispensed Christ’s grace to heal your disgrace?” How? How did it minister to you? 2. How could you use these 9 reconciling compass points to help God’s people experience God’s conviction for their sin and receive Christ’s grace and forgiveness? • How can we equip God’s people to offer one another biblical counseling reconciling?

20. Guiding • Guiding—“It’s Supernatural to Mature” • Gospel Foundation: The Grace That Saves Is the Grace That Sanctifies

21. Guiding • Envision: Who He/She Is in Christ: Eph. 1-3; 2 Tim. 1:5-7 • UniversalIdentity

22. Identity in Christ Maria Stewart “Many think, because your skins are tinged with a sable hue, that you are an inferior race of beings; but God does not consider you as such. He hath formed and fashioned you in his own glorious image, and hath bestowed upon you reason and strong powers of intellect. . . .

23. Identity in Christ Maria Stewart . . . He hath made you to have dominion over the beasts of the field, the fowls of the air, and the fish of the sea (Genesis 1:26). He hath crowned you with glory and honor; hath made you but a little lower than the angels (Psalms 8:5).”

24. Guiding • UniqueIdentity

25. Guiding • Empower: Be Like Christ: Ephesians 4:17-24; 2 Timothy 1:8-18 • Putting Off: Mortify—Do Not Be Conformed… • Putting On: Vivify—Be Transformed…

26. Spiritual Nobility: From Hellcat to Heaven Saint “I love you as though you never hit me a lick, for the God I serve is a God of love” (Charlie).

27. Spiritual Nobility: From Hellcat to Heaven Saint “I had felt the power of God and tasted his love, and this had killed all the spirit of hate in my heart years before this happened. Whenever a man has been killed dead and made alive in Christ Jesus, he no longer feels like he did when he was a servant of the devil. . . . (Charlie).

28. Spiritual Nobility: From Hellcat to Heaven Saint . . . Sin kills dead, but the Spirit of God makes alive. I didn’t know that such a change could be made, for in my younger days I used to be a hellcat” (Charlie).

29. Guiding • Equip: To Minister for Christ: Ephesians 4:11- 16; 2 Timothy 2:1-10

30. Guiding • Enlighten: Through Christ’s Word: Romans 5- 8, 12-15

31. Engage in Guiding Gospel Trialogues • “I know you tell others about it, but for you, deep in your soul, who are you in Christ? What is unique about how God has designed you?” • “What Scriptures could we turn to in order to see your identity in Christ?” • “So, what would it look like for you to apply Ephesians 4:17-24 and to put off turning to the Internet and to put on turning to God and others when you are tempted?”

32. Engage in Guiding Gospel Trialogues • “Thinking about Ephesians 3:20-21 and 2 Timothy 1:5-7, what strengths do you have that if you surrendered them to God, you would powerfully advance His Kingdom?” • “As you leave here today, connected to Christ’s resurrection power (Eph. 3:19-23; Phil. 3:10), what will you be doing differently?” • “Imagine that over the next six months, God continues to do a mighty work in your life (Phil. 1:6). How will your life be different?”

33. Guiding • Guiding Pictured: Stir Up the Gift of God

34. Maturing As a Gospel-Centered Mentor/Discipler • Who has guided you by helping you sense “it’s supernatural to mature”? Who has “stirred up the gift of God” in you? How? How did it minister to you? 2. How could you use these 4 principles of guiding to empower God’s people toward growth in grace? 3. How can we equip God’s people to offer one another biblical counseling guiding?

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