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Discover how to nurture good relationships, manage conflicts, set boundaries, and enhance communication skills for a fulfilling social life. Learn the keys to successful relationships based on trust, respect, and empathy.
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FACS 56 life management getting along with others
begin with yourself • successful relationships are based on beliefs and values that support a positive self-esteem • three values that contribute to good relationships are: • trust • respect • empathy
begin with yourself trust: you can rely on someone else and they can rely on you respect: you value the other person and they value you empathy: you can experience another person’s feelings or ideas as if they were your own
conflicts and your values people value different things—sometimes do not agree on what is right and what is wrong most people do not give much thought to what is right or wrong until they are involved in a conflict of values
conflicts and your values laws and rules of society set a minimum standard to follow—ethical standards may be set higher when faced with an ethical dilemma ALWAYS take the time to clarify your values determine how you feel about the situation and what effect the questionable behavior has on others
conflicts and your values • life management skills that can help you with conflicts: • value clarification • setting standards • communication skills • active listening techniques • assertiveness
nurturing good relationships with some attention to the needs of others, most of our relationships can be successful really listen for underlying meaning—even though you are busy, give your FULL attention
nurturing good relationships • with some attention to the needs of others, most of our relationships can be successful • building relationships requires focus of BOTH individuals—people who focus on personal growth can handle negative feedback constructively • learn from negative feedback • realize that you don’t have to agree • consider the source • ask for specific information • think about it
nurturing good relationships • important to set CLEAR boundaries • physical—the right to control your body and your possessions • emotional boundaries—the right to respectful treatment from others • intellectual boundaries—right to express ideas and opinions • spiritual boundaries—the right to stand up for your values and beliefs • once we set the boundaries we need to be assertive and enforce them
conflict is normal it is normal and predictable that once two people have spent some time together they will disagree about something remember—everyone loses in a power struggle conflict can have healthy and productive results if handled in a fair assertive manner
four aspects of successful negotiation • when conflict arises good communication skills & boundaries are extremely important • separate the people from the problem • see ourselves on the same side—attacking the problem; not one another • focus on interests not positions • find areas of common agreement • invent options for mutual gain • brainstorm alternatives that allow each side to get what they need most • base results on objective criteria • agreed upon by all parties—expert opinion, law
conflict resolution options • as we go through the different options, ask yourself if you have ever used each option • dominance—one side gets its own way • voluntary submission—one side voluntarily gives in to the other • conversion—one side persuades the other & both parties are • satisfied
conflict resolution options • accepting differences—both sides accept the right of the other to choose & make an independent decision • compromise—choose an option acceptable to both sides; not the first choice of either party • integration—all parties strive to find mutual gains; arrive at a new, better solution to the problem
participation activity: what would you do? pg. 214 …form groups of four …each person in the group gets to play a certain role: bus driver, bus company manager, elderly woman, reporter …read the situation …complete the assigned task
FACS 56 life management functioning in groups
groups: an overview sometimes it is thrust upon you…sometimes you volunteer some last for only minutes…others will last a lifetime understanding how they work can help you to be an effective group member and expand your leadership skills
groups: an overview group dynamics is the study of how people interact in groups how do you interact? groups consist of two or more people that consciously interact with the intent of working to achieve a goal
groups: an overview • groups have: • roles for their members • norms and standards of behavior • communication patterns • a degree of cohesiveness • the more explicitly defined, the more formal • formal groups: families, businesses, schools • informal groups: movie audience, friends at a party • what groups are you currently a member of?
participating in groups: rules, norms & goals think about the last group you joined—were your first few interactions awkward? most likely you were observing the group dynamics and analyzing the roles & norms in order to fit in better
participating in groups: rules, norms & goals role set of expected behaviors for a particular position norms standards or rules that measure behavior you will be more comfortable if you choose behaviors that suit both the group & your role within the group
participating in groups: rules, norms & goals all groups have goals—stated or not cooperative goals—people in group work together to achieve common objective competitive—people work against one another to be the winner and gain the reward many times you will encounter a goal that is both cooperative & competitive examples?
participating in groups: rules, norms & goals cohesiveness is the emotional bonding that exists between group members cohesiveness connectedness separateness too connected—lose objectivity too separate—lack of commitment & interest balanced middle position is optimal
analyzing group structure and behavior • you can improve how you interact with others through analysis • how are goals established? • are they cooperative? competitive? both? • who is the leader? dominant? controlling? • is there a dependent worker? • a facilitator? • a few who seem to run the whole show? • a supportive leader who shares authority? • what are the norms? rules? • observe carefully
leading in groups a leader has more than a title each of us influences and leads people around us through our words and actions a leader has a vision and is able to communicate and share it with others leadership is a set of behaviors, beliefs and values that enable one person to persuade others to act
family compared to other groups unique—first group ever, membership is not voluntary, continues for a lifetime and beyond roles and norms of family change and evolve as the age and needs of the members change
family compared to other groups the goal of family is not profit—but quality of life—resource allocation based on different goals and values than those of business operates 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year…much more than any other group most cohesive group to which you will belong
homework activity: roles, roles, roles pg. 220 …use the chart on page 221 to identify a minimum of 12 different roles that you play …match each role to a group …identify at least one expectation or norm that goes with each role