Self Harm

1. Self Harm Children and Youth Leader Training January 2011

2. 1. What is self harm? • Who does it? • Why do it? 2. How can I help a self harmer? • How can I tell if someone is self harming? • What do I say? 3. What about you?

3. ‘Self-injury is any deliberate, non suicidal behaviour that inflicts physical harm on your body and is aimed at relieving emotional distress.’ 2009 Self-Injury Guidance & Network Support

4. Neurotransmitter produced during stress / distress Initiates ‘fight or flight’ response. Increases heart rate. Also known as Adrenaline, this is a very powerful hormone.

5. Why Self Harm? Why Self Harm? • To cope • A way of connecting to reality • Self punishment • A sign of pain • To push others away

6. Signs to Look Out For Signs to Look Out For • Unexplained, recurring cuts / bruises. • Long sleeved clothing in warmer weather. • Traces of blood on clothing. • Itching arms and wrists through clothing. • Emotional rollercoaster.

7. Do’s and Don’ts Do’s and Don’ts Do…. • Acknowledge their pain. • Distract them. • Bring up the subject, if you have a good relationship with them. • Be aware of what triggers them. • Be aware of your own behaviour. • Educate yourself. • Liaise with Jon Knight/Chris Kidd/Lydia Sheard.

8. Do’s and Don’ts Don’t… • Ignore the subject. • Draw up a no harm contract, or ask them to stop. • Confiscate sharp implements. • Pressure them into uncomfortable situations; dressing up, swimming etc.

9. But what about you? • Don’t take self harm personally. • Spend time understanding your own feelings. • It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, confused, angry, helpless, repulsed. • Take care of yourself. Recharge your batteries. • Receive prayer.