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BLACK FAMILY. We Will Cover: What is Marriage? What is Family? The Four Duties of a Father The Characteristics of a Good Wife & Mother. MARRIAGE. Marriage The Long-term Decision & Efforts of more than one persons to maintain a household & build a family Types of Marriage:
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BLACK FAMILY We Will Cover: • What is Marriage? • What is Family? • The Four Duties of a Father • The Characteristics of a Good Wife & Mother M. OTEP
MARRIAGE Marriage The Long-term Decision & Efforts of more than one persons to maintain a household & build a family Types of Marriage: Polygamy – involves more than two people Polygyny: marriage to multiple women (eg. Father Abraham, King Solomon & King David) Polyandry: marriage to multiple men (eg. The Lele of the Congo, The Masai in Kenya, The Shoshone of Nevada, the Todas in India,, and the Yanomanis in Venezuela.) Monogamy – involves only two people M. OTEP
FAMILY • The Fundamental Unit of any Society • Foundation of a Great Nation • What is Family to you? • Who is Family? M. OTEP
Responsibilities of a Father The Four Duties of a Father • Populate • Educate • Provide • Defend *Can you think of any others? M. Otep
Responsibilities of a Father Populate How do I Populate? • Pregnancy • Adoption • Mentoring • Teaching Take personal responsibility for raising at least one child; either yours or someone else’s. M. Otep
Responsibilities of a Father Educate Who do I Educate? • YOUR-Self , why? [Blackman, who am I?] • YOUR-Women, so that they may better support you • YOUR-Children [Every family should have Ten Heroes] • YOUR-Friends, Family, Neighbors and Society as a whole In that order! “Man Know thyself!” ~The Hon. Marcus Mosiah Garvey M. Otep
Responsibilities of a Father Provide How & What do I Provide? • LOVE, RESPECT & Consistency • Responsible LEADERSHIP • FAMILY • The Five basic needs (food, clothing, shelter, Love & Education) • A Supportive Environment • Encouragement &Understanding • CLEAR & Loving Communication • Gainful Employment for yourself & your women “Many times, it is a Woman who will lift you up when your are Down & Nurse you back to Health.” M. Otep M. Otep
Responsibilities of a Father Defend Who do I Defend? What do I defend? Who: • Your Women, Your Children & Your People What: • Their Physical Safety • Their Mental & EDUCATIONAL Integrity • The Honor of your Women & your Brother’s Women I am my Brother’s Keeper! “Teach the children the truth.” Bob Marley M. Otep
Responsibilities of a Father Recap:The Four Duties of a Father • Populate • Educate • Provide • Defend ] M. Otep
Wife and Mother Characteristicsof a Good Wife & Mother • Loving & Nurturing • Supportive & Encouraging • Effective Communicator: Tactful & Unafraid • Understanding –not simply forgiving- of a man • Creative • Resisting!!! “Black Woman, Mother of My Creation and Queen of My Universe, I Thank you.” M. Otep
Wife and Mother Loving and Nurturing Loving to Who? What does Nurturing Mean? Love: • Your-Self : The Greatest Love of All :) *Whitney • Your-children • Your-Man & Family Nurture: To Help Grow!!! Nurturer: One who is committed to Building and Maintaining a Family “A Man’s Love will get the fire started; but, only a Woman’s Love can keep the fire Burning.” M. Otep M. Otep
Wife and Mother Supportive & Encouraging Who should I support? Who should I Encourage? M. Otep
Wife and Mother Effective Communicator Tact: To speak skillfully without causing offense Unafraid: The Absence of Fear Why Tactful & Unafraid? M. Otep
Wife and Mother Understanding What is the Difference between Understanding & Forgiving? Can someone be both Understanding & Forgiving? Which one is Better? M. Otep
Wife and Mother Creative The Ability to MAKE it Work!!! Why is Creativity important in a Mother? M. Otep
Wife and Mother Resisting!!! CONSTRUCTIVE vs DESTRUCTIVE 1. Strengthens 1. Causes Damage 2. The Gym: Lifting Weights 2. Psychological Abuse 3. 3. Provide a Healthy Challenge & Balance for your man. Be Constructive not Destructive. M. Otep
Wife and Mother Recap: A Good Wife & Mother • Loving & Nurturing • Supportive & Encouraging • Effective Communicator: Tactful & Unafraid • Understanding –not simply forgiving- of a man • Creative • Resisting!!! “African Woman, Mother of My Creation and Queen of My Universe, I Thank You” M. Otep M. Otep
Summary We Have Covered: • What is Marriage? • What is Family? • The Four Duties of a Father (Populate, Educate, Provide & Defend) • The Characteristics of a Good Wife & Mother (Understanding vs Forgiveness) And (Constructive vs Destructive Resistance) M. OTEP