Chapter 11 Lessons 1: Getting Along with Others Lesson 2: Communicating Effectively Farwah Haq

1. Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 11 Lessons 1: Getting Along with Others Lesson 2: Communicating Effectively Farwah Haq Alesia Apana Brittany Lane Maya George Tania Paracha

2. Target Audience • The target audience is 9th grade students • The setting is a classroom

3. Introduction 1. Healthy relationships -Types of healthy relationships -Components of a healthy relationship 2. Communication -Speaking -Listening - Non-verbal Communication

4. Relationships • Bond or connection between people • Affects your physical, mental, & social health • Different types • Family relationships • Friendships • Community relationships

5. Family Relationships • Provide the strongest bonds • Last a lifetime • Usually with people you turn to when sick or injured • Parents/guardians provide love & care, teach values, & give guidance

6. Friendships • Relationships based on caring, toleration, & trust • Vary in importance based on how challenging & complicated they are • Lots of work to maintain • Usually with people you share interests or hobbies with

7. Community Relationships • Community leaders & businesses provide services to meet the citizens’ needs • Can be formed in community classes, book clubs, & recreational activities

8. Choosing Relationships • Choose people who: • Support you • Encourage your best qualities • Healthy relationships satisfy your basic human needs of safety, security, value, & recognition

9. Role • A part that you play in a relationship • Examples: • Brother • Daughter • Student • Band Director • Employee

10. Role • Roles switch suddenly or change gradually depending on needs and some situations • Can have more than one role at a time • Roles can be confusing in a relationship

11. Healthy Relationships • Increase self-esteem • Improve mental and emotional health • Help you have fuller lives

12. Mutual Respect Trust Honesty Support Cooperation Fairness/Equality Separate Identities Good Communication Compromise Traits of a Healthy Relationship A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior.

13. COMMUNICATION • Speaking • Listening • Non-verbal Communication

14. Speaking • Say CLEARLY what you mean • Do not assume anyone else can read your mind • Use of “I” messages • A statement in which a person tells how her or she feels using the pronoun “I” • Helps to avoid blaming or name-calling.

15. Speaking • Changes in your tone and voice and its pitch and loudness play an important role • Kind words in a sarcastic tone • Speaking too loudly may make others see you as arrogant and bossy • Speaking too softly may make others think you are not too sure of what you are saying

16. Listening • Most often overlooked • Hearing is not the same as listening • Skilled Listeners use active listening skills

17. Listening • Active listening skills • Reflective listening: rephrase what the other person has said • Clarifying: ask questions to gain a better understanding • Encouraging: give signals to show interest • Empathizing: feeling the other’s feelings as you listen

18. Nonverbal Communication • Sending messages through gestures, behaviors, and facial expressions • Subtle • Often take place subconsciously • Helps to make sure you are sending the messages you intend. • It is important that your body language and intended message match

19. Nonverbal Communication • Examples of GOOD and BAD body language

20. Barriers to Communication • Unrealistic Expectations • The need to Project a Superior Image • Prejudice

21. Unrealistic Expectations • Your intended message is not received as expected. • Not being prepared for reality. • A person may feel attacked

22. The need to Project a Superior Image • Usually occurs during puberty • Makes individuals hard to reach • Impedes progress

23. Prejudice • A prejudice is an unfair opinion or judgment about a person or a group of people • Free communication is difficult to attain • Neither side is heard • Clouds judgment

24. Solutions to Communication Barriers • Accept the situation for what it is • You are not always going to be able to solve every problem • Encourage both parties to let down their guards • Ex. Through peer mediation • Try to set realistic expectations • This will prevent both parties form getting frustrated • Educate people in order to get rid of existing prejudice

25. Communication Video

26. Trust Support Honesty Cooperation Compromise Separate Identities Fairness/Equality Mutual Respect Good Communication Review • Types of Relationships • Family Relationships • Friendships • Community Relationships • Role • Traits of a Healthy Relationship

27. Review • Communication • Speaking • Listening • Nonverbal Communication • Communication Barriers • Unrealistic Expectations • Need to project a superior image • Prejudice

28. Conclusion Proper communication leads to sustaining healthy relationships

29. How would you react? Reaction Scenarios • You just found out that your younger brother/sister just read your diary. What would you do to react? • Your parents found some drugs in your bag, they’re not your drugs, but your parents are really furious at you. What do you do? • Your best friend is going to cheat on her next exam. She/He asks if they can cheat off of you. You know it’s wrong, how do you explain it to them?