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Self worth is something we all struggle with from time to time. And when you’re having an off day and the self criticism is flying, the last thing you want is a lecture on how to respect yourself. <br>But self worth and self respect walk hand in hand. Without them, you’re more likely to make decisions that won’t serve you in the long run.
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4 Ways To Respect UnconditionalConfidence YourselfFor Self worth is something we all struggle with from time to time. And when you’re having an off day and the self criticism is flying, the last thing you want is a lecture on how to respect yourself. But self worth and self respect walk hand in hand. Without them, you’re more likely to make decisions that won’t serve you in the longrun. Is there a shortcut to pumping up your self worth? Learning to respect yourself is an important firststep. What Does It Mean To Have Respect For Yourself?
We’re all familiar with what it means to show respect for others. We show respect to our teachers, bosses, and mentors. We respect those we look up to andadmire. But what does it mean to respectyourself? Being able to respect yourself as you respect others comes down to the way you view yourself. It boils down to your sense of self, your self concept, and your selfworth. Having respect for yourself means valuing your opinions, thoughts, and ideas. It means recognizing that you bring something important to the table, and your voice should be heard. It means treating yourself with dignity and compassion, and expecting the same fromothers. If you find that you criticize more often than you celebrate yourself, you’re likely struggling with self respect. So, how can you learn to begin practicing more self love to respect yourselfmore?
4 Ways To Respect Yourself For Greater Confidence And Self Love Confidence is a product of self love and respect. And when you respect yourself, you teach others to do thesame. If you want to feel more confident, here are four things you can do to supercharge your self respect: Grow From Constructive Criticism There will always be naysayers and critics. But that doesn’t mean you have to bear the brunt ofcriticismandsufferasaresult. Marisa Peer, Author of Mindvalley’s Uncompromised Life Program, explains one of the best ways to deal with constructive criticism is to look for the growthopportunity. “Look for the compliment,” says Marisa. “And decide that even the negative part is there is help you grow. You can’t grow unless you acknowledgeit.” Shut Down ToxicCriticism Marisa Peer’s approach to constructive criticism is excellent: seek the good within the bad andviewitasanopportunityforchange. But what about toxic criticism? Some people really can be hurtful, and when there’s not muchgoodtobefoundintheircritique,whatdoyoudo? Marisa has a great strategy for this too. “Try not to get defensive. Just thank them for their opinion,” she explains. “Don’t give them anything to arguewith.” Simply say: “Thank-you for sharing that.” And do your best to let the rest roll straight off your back. Define YourValues
It’s not easy to respect yourself when you’re not willing to stand up for your moral code. The thing is, sometimes we’re not entirely sure what thatis. As we grow and mature, oftentimes our values shift. The best way to respect yourself and your values is to have a firm grasp on what your valuesare. What do you believe in? If you’re not sure, then trust your gut. Your instincts won’t lead you astray. No matter your cause, whether it’s animals, volunteer work, being an ally, or advocating for another group, know your ideals, know your morals, and know where your valueslie. 4. Check Your SelfTalk It’s true that we teach others how to treat us. And when we don’t respect ourselves, it just opens up the door for others to do thesame. One of the ways we show others that we don’t respect ourselves is with negative self talk. Internally criticizing yourself is one thing. But running yourself down in front of others is entirelydifferent. All of us struggle against that critical voice in our heads. But when that voice starts airing out our self criticism for all to hear, the consequences can bedisastrous. The most insidious part? We often don’t even realize we’re doing it. A little self-deprecation never hurt anyone. But when the negative self talk becomes chronic, it can debilitate our self esteem. See if you can catch yourself the next time you engage in self criticism. And instead of letting that voice bully and belittle you, try confronting that voice with a little bit of cool logic. You see, most of the negative scripts we let run in our heads just aren’t true. But we’re so usedtohearingthemthatweletthemslide.
The next time you’ve got some poor feedback for yourself, see if it can hold up against the hard light of logic. Chances are that self criticism willcrumble.