Truth and Service for Holistic Living

1. Truth and Servicefor Holistic Living The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey

2. Who is someone you know that “has it all together?” What is it about that person that makes them the way they are? What makes someone “effective?” i.e. - Is it who they are, what they do, or something else? Brainstorm

3. The 7 Habits of HighlyEffective People:Powerful Lessons in Personal Change ebookee.net

4. “It’s a principle-centered, character-based, “inside-out” approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness.” (p.42) About the Book gurteen.com

5. What’s a paradigm? “a model, theory, perception, assumption, or frame of reference” (p.23) ”the lens through which we see the world” (p.32) Two Social Paradigms

6. The “Personality Ethic” Paradigm: “Success is a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human interaction” (p.19) “Keeping up appearances” Two Social Paradigms

7. The “Character Ethic” Paradigm: There are basic principles of effective living, and people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character (p.32) e.g.- fairness, integrity and honesty, human dignity, service, quality, excellence, growth, patience, encouragement, nurturance (p.34) Two Social Paradigms

8. (Classroom experiment) Time for a Paradigm Shift?

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11. How old is this woman? exced.net

12. “We need to be responsible for being aware of our paradigms” (p.29) Covey advocates a “character ethic” Map analogy to living under a particular paradigm (p.23) Time for a Paradigm Shift?

13. “Inside-out” means: Start first with yourself...the most inside part of yourself (i.e. - your paradigms, character, and motives) Private (personal) victories precede public (interpersonal) victories (p.43) Inside-out Approach lukechueh.com

14. “It’s a principle-centered, character-based, “inside-out” approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness.” (p.42) Does it make more sense now? gurteen.com

15. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” (quoted from Aristotle, 384-322B.C.) “Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits.” (p.46) Why 7 Habits?

16. A habit is the intersection of: Knowledge (what to do) Skill (how to do) Desire (want to do) What’s a Habit? joselise.com

17. Habits are fundamental to the development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness (p.49) Habits move us progressively along the “Maturity Continuum” dependent (“You take care of me.”) independent (“I can do it.”) interdependent (“We can combine our efforts and create something greater together.”) What’s a Habit?

18. Habits 1-3: Dependence -> Independence(Private Victories) Habits 4-6:Independence -> Interdependence(Public Victories) Habit 7:“Sharpening the Saw” Outline of 7 Habits

19. Habit 1: Be Proactive acne.treatmentblog.com canada.proactiv.com

20. Paradigm 1: Determinism (p.68)“We are determined (we have no control).” Genetic determinism Psychic determinism Environmental determinism Habit 1: Be Proactive

21. Paradigm 2: Proactive Model “We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.” Responsibility = “Response-ability” Behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions (p.71) Habit 1: Be Proactive

22. Habit 1: Be Proactive (Covey, p.71)

23. Uniquely human endowments that give us the ability to choose (p.70): Self-awareness - ability to think about our thought process and examine the way we see ourselves Imagination - ability to create in our minds a reality outside the present Conscience - awareness of right/wrong and the degree to which our actions are in harmony with our understanding of “right” Independent will - ability to act, free of all other influences Habit 1: Be Proactive

24. Grow in Self-awareness! Task: What’s in your circle of concern (p.81)? Habit 1: Be Proactive Circle of Concern

25. What’s in your circle of influence? Habit 1: Be Proactive Circle of Concern Circle of Influence Proactive people focus their time and energy within their circle of influence!

26. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind bundlesofblossoms.blogspot.com

27. Task:visualization exercise (p.96) Begin today with the picture of the end of your life as your frame of reference by which everything else is examined “All things are created twice” 1. mental 2. physical Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind randomrefractions.com

28. Personal Management Managers ask: “How can I best accomplish certain things?” 2nd creation Doing things right Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind • Personal leadership • Leaders ask: “What are the things I want to accomplish?” • 1st creation • Doing the right things

29. Are you doing more leading or managing in your life? Efficient management without effective leadership is like: “straightening desk chairs on the Titanic” “climbing the ladder of success, but not realizing it’s leaning against the wrong wall” Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind betterschoolfood.com

30. What are you leaning on? i.e. - What’s at the center of your life? Whatever is at the center of your life will be your source of security, guidance, wisdom, and power Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

31. Security: sense of worth, identity, and emotional anchorage Guidance: source of direction in life Wisdom: perspective on life Power: capacity to act Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind (Covey, p.110)

32. Possible centers: Spouse-centeredness Family-centeredness Money-centeredness Work-centeredness Possession-centeredness Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind • Pleasure-centeredness • Friend-centeredness • Enemy-centeredness • Religious institution- • centeredness • Self-centeredness

33. Covey: “principle-centered” living Principles are deep, fundamental, timeless truths (p.122) e.g.- fairness, integrity and honesty, human dignity, service, quality, excellence, growth, patience, encouragement, nurturance (p.34) Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

34. What are YOUR principles? Task: Brainstorm your own principles, then write them in a Personal Mission Statement (p.106) a fundamentally changeless document the standard by which every action is measured Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

35. Habit 3: Put First Things First trustit.ca

36. Question: In your life, what is one thing you could do (that you are NOT doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life? Habit 3: Put First Things First

37. Habit 1: You have the choice. You can be responsible (“response-able”). Habit 2: Make a vision that will guide your choices (mental creation). Habit 3: Take the steps to fulfill your vision (physical creation). Habit 3: Put First Things First

38. Habit 3: Put First Things First “The degree to which we have developed our independent will in our everyday lives is measured by our personal integrity...it’s our ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves, to “walk our talk.” (p.148)

39. How can I find the time to fit everything in? “Time management” is a misnomer The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves! (p.150) Habit 3: Put First Things First bluesteps.com

40. Habit 3: Put First Things First (Covey, p. 151)

41. Implications: Continual focus on “Urgent” Activities in Quadrants 1&3 leads to stress and burnout, and makes us feel victimized. “Finding Relief” often leads to an escape to Quadrant 4 activities. Habit 3: Put First Things First

42. “Quadrant 2 is the heart of effective personal management” (p.153) Results of a Quadrant 2 focus: Take care of things that are important to you (put your principles into practice) Fewer Quadrant 1&3 “crises” develop Habit 3: Put First Things First

43. How do we move into Quadrant 2? Identify what quadrants your daily activities generally fall under Learn to say “no” to some activities -- even sometimes apparently urgent things. “The way to say no is to have a bigger yes burning inside” (p.157) Habit 3: Put First Things First

44. Organizing for a Quadrant 2 Focus: 1. Identifying Roles 2. Selecting Goals 3. Scheduling (4. Daily adapting) Habit 3: Put First Things First hadith-elmadina.com

45. Task: 1. Take 2 minutes to write down the different roles you have in your remaining time as a Payap student (e.g. - family member, friend, student, worker, sports club member, etc.) 2. Take 4 minutes to write down 2-3 goals for each of those roles (goals to achieve by the time you graduate). Habit 3: Put First Things First

46. Habits 1-3: Dependence -> Independence(Private Victories) stores.homestead.com • Habits 4-6: Independence -> Interdependence(Public Victories) imageshack.us

47. Habit 4: Think Win/Win sagestone.files.wordpress.com

48. Some Paradigms of Human Interaction: Win/Win Win/Lose Lose/Win Lose/Lose Win Habit 4: Think Win/Win kmbeing.files.wordpress.com

49. Task (in groups): 1. Read Covey’s explanation of the paradigm you have been given. 2. Prepare the following about your paradigm: A one-sentence summary A real-life example of this paradigm Strengths and weak points you see within this paradigm 3. Delegate one team member to share your group’s information with the class. Habit 4: Think Win/Win

50. “Character is the foundation of Win/Win” 1. Integrity - the value we place on ourselves (“walk the talk”) 2. Maturity - expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others 3. Abundance mentality - the belief that there is plenty out there for everyone (not a zero-sum world) Habit 4: Think Win/Win