Affection + Intercourse =SEX! COIN.

1. Affection + Intercourse =SEX!COIN. Part 1. The First Thing She Can’t Do Without! Affection!

2. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. • The husband (1) should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife (2) to her husband. • The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband’s. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

3. Verse 5 • Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourself to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you, because of your lack of self-control.

4. What is Affection? • A feeling of warm liking and tender attachment; fondness, tenderness. (World Book Dic.) • Songs of Solomon: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth-for your love is more delightful than wine.” 1:2

5. Richard and Jane! • Richard= 195 pounds, handsome, strong, silent type, when he held her in his arms. • After Mar, when she cuddled for a hug or a little kiss, Richard became sexually aroused almost immediately. Physical contact led straight to bedroom.

6. Richard’s background! • Mother died when he was ten. • Raised by his father and two older brothers. • Father never displayed affection b4 his mother died, • He never received affection as a child. • Affection synonymous to sex.

7. Jane’s Need not Met! • Bob at work! • Draping his am over shoulders of everyone male and female. • Hugs, addiction (Jane). • Greetings “Hi, Jane, how ya doing? • Jane’s Comment!

8. Continued! • Kiss. • Special Notes & notes in return. • Flowers. • Lunched together. • Smiles, Lunch picnic in isolation • Hand Squeeze • Sex = Celebration of love?

9. Skills to Learn! • Hugging! • Back Rubs. • Holding Hands. Flowers. • Phone Calls, Notes. • Conversations. • Special date/ Meal. • Remember Special Days. • Tell her: “I Love You!”

10. Important Lessons! • “From a woman’s point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man. Without it, a woman probably feels alienated from her mate.”

11. What Affection Means! • I’ll take care of you. • You are important to me, • I don’t want anything to happen to you. • I’m concerned about the problems you face, & I’m with You. • I think u’ve done a good job, & am proud of you.

12. Affection not Sex! • Men have a tendency of confusing affection with sex. • “He sees showing affection as part of sexual foreplay, and he is normally aroused in a flash.” • Affection should be a lifestyle not what u do to get sex.

13. Harley’s First Law • “When it comes to sex and affection, you can’t have one without the other.” • Affection is the environment of the marriage while sex is an event. • Affection is a way of life, a canopy that covers and protects a marriage.

14. Any Man Can Learn! • Let wife be your coach. • Learn sexless affection. • Be patient it takes time. • Learn new habits. • Write them down, & practice.

15. Learn Few New Habits. • Hug & kiss every morning while still in bed. • Tell her that you love her while having breakfast together. • Kiss her before you go to work. • Call her during the day • Surprise flowers. • Gifts for special occasion.

16. Cont… • After work, call her before you leave for home.. • When get home, hug, kiss and talk to her about her day. • Help with the dishes after dinner. • Hug & kiss every night, before you both go to sleep.

17. Truth to Remember. • “In most cases, a woman needs to feel a oneness with her husband before she has sex with him.” • A couple achieves this feeling through the exchange of affection and undivided attention.

18. Men’s Question? • “Why doesn’t she get turned on the way she did before we were married?”

19. The Bridge! • “When it comes to sex and affection, you can’t have one without the other.”

20. PART 2. • “The First Thing He can’t Do Without.” • “Remember, affection is the environment of the marriage, sex is the special event.” • #A man cannot achieve sexual fulfillment in his marriage unless his wife is sexually fulfilled as well.

21. Men & Women’s views of Sex. • To the typical man, sex is like air or water. He can’t do without it very well. • The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the typical husband understand his wife’s deep need for affection.

22. Power of Sex to Men. • Bank managers, Presidents, Pastors of flourishing churches, leaders from all walks of life. • They seem to be possessed.

23. Facts! • Being ready for sex and being prepared to make love are two different things. • Men experience sexual arousal and climax with relative ease. Precisely the opposite it true for the majority of women. • Most women who were sexually active before marriage never experienced a climax prior to marriage.

24. Some women fake sexual arousal and a climax when in fact they do not. • A man cannot achieve sexual fulfillment in his marriage unless his wife is sexually fulfilled as well. • Men connect from outside in, women from inside out.

25. A woman does her husband no favors by sacrificing her body to his sexual advances. • He can feel sexually satisfied only when she joins him in the experience of lovemaking. • Men and women differ greatly in the way they come to enjoy sex.

26. How to Achieve Sexual Compatibility. • 1. Overcome your sexual ignorance. A husband and wife must each understand their own sexuality and their own sexual responses. • 2. Communicate your sexual understandingto each other. Learn to share what they have learned about their own sexual responses, so that they can each achieve sexual pleasure and fulfillment together.

27. Human Sexuality. • Many sexual conflicts are resolved when a husband and wife learn what actually happens – emotionally and physiologically – when they make love to each other.

28. Arousal. • During arousal the man and woman begin to sense sexual feelings. • His penis usually becomes erect, and her vagina usually begins to lubricate. • If a man’s penis and a woman’s clitoris are stimulated properly, they pass into the plateau stage.

29. Plateau Stage. • In this stage his penis becomes very hard and her vagina contracts, providing greater resistance and a heightened sensation during intercourse.

30. Climax! • The climax, lasts only a few seconds. • It is the peak of the sexual experience. • At this time the penis ejects semen in bursts (ejaculation), and the vagina alternately contracts and releases several times.

31. Recovery. • The recovery period follows, in which both partners feel peaceful and relaxed; the penis becomes soft, and the vagina, no longer secreting lubricating fluid, relaxes.

32. Watch Out! • “While men and women experience the same four stages, they do not do so in the same physical and emotional ways. • What works for a man does not work for a woman, and visa versa. • Couples who wish to experience sexual compatibility need to appreciate and understand the differences.

33. The Marital Golden Rule! • “Meet your spouse’s needs as you would want your spouse to meet yours.” • Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. • Stop selling fish! …Selfish!