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Explore how narrative therapy shapes LGBT identities, addresses relationship challenges, and fosters lifelong intimacy for lesbian couples. Learn strategies to rewrite old narratives and cultivate lasting love. Discover the mnemonic LESBIAN guide to thriving relationships.
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The Honeymoon is OverNarrative Sex Therapy for Long-Term Lesbian Partners Marny Hall, Ph.D.
Marny Hall, Ph.D. • Therapist • Researcher • Writer • Producer • Participates in seminars worldwide • In 1998, she was designated a “Fellow” of the gay and lesbian division of the American Psychological Association
“Change our sexual stories… and we change our erotic lives” (p. 285). • Narrative therapy can provide LGBT clients with specificskills and strategiestobuildtheiridentity. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naF8FPPQJXg
Lesbian Identity: The Forever-After Factor • Lesbian couples do not have the same benefits as heterosexual couples. • Marriage is based on an axiom; “What is real must last” vs. “What lasts must be real” • Lesbian couples believe in pscyhotherapy. Surveys have shown that 73% of self-identified lesbians have sought therapeutic help. • During the process of therapy, therapists and clients work together re-scripting and building new love stories that will certify the couple’s togetherness.
The Mnemonic L.E.S.B.I.A.N. Guide toForeverAfter and Beyond • L: Long-Lasting Love • E: Equality • S: Sex • B: Balance • I: Intimacy • A: Achievement • N: Never Again
Changingthe Narrative How do therapistsgetfromoldnarrativesto new ones? • Context-ShiftingQuestions • UntanglingStorySnarls • InflectionStrategies • Resisting Narrative Pulls • DisruptingNarratives • MultiplyingNarratives • Performance Strategies
Case Study Michelle and Julie: Forever-After and Never Again Julie = “the problem” Michelle = “unhappy” • Different histories (narratives) • Treatment (goals, process vs. content, homework) • Anger = taboo • Re-scripting narratives • Negotiation
Personal Viewpoint “We dream in narrative, day dream in narrative, remember, anticipate, hope, despair, believe, doubt, plan, revise, criticise, construct, gossip, learn, hate and love by narrative”. • Barbara Hardy • Changing narratives and editing stories • Challenging and empowering clients • Applies to any population • Sex Education
Reference Kleinplatz, P. J. (2012). New Directions in Sex Therapy: Innovations and Alternatives (2nd ed.). New York, NY: Routledge Taylor and Francis Group.