Differences Between Men & Women

1. Differences Between Men & Women

2. Tale of Two Brains

3. Perceived Traits: • Independent • Competitive • Decisive • Takes a Stand • Aggressive • Active • Adventurous • Dominant • Outspoken • Ambitious • Self-Confident • Meek • Loving • Emotional • Tactful • Considerate • Creative • Understanding • Aware of others feelings • Gentle, Kind • Grateful • Strong Conscience • Devoted • Meek • Enjoys Art & Music

4. The Husband Store A store that sells husbands has just opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch… you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.

5. On the 1st floor the sign on the door reads: These men have jobs and love the Lord. The 2nd floor sign reads: These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids. The 3rd floor sign reads: These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good-looking.

6. “Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads: These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework. “Oh mercy me” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!” Still, she goes to the 5th floor and the sign reads: These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.

7. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads: Floor 6 - you are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!

11. Romance Mathematics Smart man and smart woman = romance Smart man + dumb woman = affair Dumb man + smart woman = marriage Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy

12. Shopping Math A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs. A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t need. General Equations & Statistics A woman never worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

13. Happiness To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. Memory Any married man should forget his mistakes, there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.

14. Appearance Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed. Women somehow deteriorate during the night. • http://www.hulu.com/watch/699866#i1,p4,d1 Propensity To Change A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t. A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.

15. Discussion Techniques A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

16. Hooray for the Differences! President Boyd K. Packer said, “We should recognize that there is a distinct masculine nature and a distinct feminine nature essential to the foundation of the home and the family. By grand design, male and female are supposed to be different. Otherwise God would have made Addie and Eve or Adam and Steve. But then none of us would be here (“The Relief Society,” Ensign, May 1998, 72).

17. By acknowledging differences and working with and through them, couples can have very successful marriages. Baggage of Your Own: We each bring with us the baggage of the past, some of which is good and some of which needs to be discarded.

18. God-Given Traits of Men & Women as taught by Latter-Day Prophets Physical “Except Adam and Eve by nature be different from one another, they could not multiply and fill the earth. The complementing differences are the very key to the plan of happiness” (Boyd K. Packer, Ensign, Nov. 1993). “…We are created as men and women to fit together in such a union. In this ultimate physical expression of one man and one woman they are nearly as literally ‘one’ as two separate physical bodies can ever be” (Jeffrey R. Holland, “Of Souls, Symbols, and Sacraments”).

19. Social and Emotional “You were not created to be the same as men. Your natural attributes, affections, and personalities are entirely different from a man’s. They consist of faithfulness, benevolence, kindness, and charity. They give you the personality of a woman. They also balance the more aggressive and competitive nature of a man” (Ezra Taft Benson, TETB, 547-48).

20. INTELLECTUAL “The business world is competitive and sometimes ruthless. We do not doubt that women have both the brainpower and skills..to compete with men. But by competing they must, of necessity become aggressive and competitive. Thus their godly attributes are diminished and they acquire a quality of sameness with man” (Ezra Taft Benson, TETB, 548).

21. SPIRITUAL “I firmly believe that our dear faithful sisters enjoy a special spiritual enrichment which is inherent in their natures” (James E. Faust, Ensign, Nov. 1993, 38-39). “Women should maintain their spiritual superiority in marriage…She has…the opportunity to encourage, uplift, teach, and be the one who sets the example in the family for righteous living…Perhaps it is just a man’s viewpoint, but it seems to me that sweetness and spirituality in the home are often brought about by the conduct of the woman” (Howard W. Hunter, Teachings of Howard W. Hunter, 138-39).

22. Camilla Kimball, wife of President Spencer W. Kimball said: “Sometimes I almost feel in the press of your many responsibilities that I don’t matter very much any more. Anyone who thinks being the wife of one of the general authorities is a bed of roses should try it once, shouldn’t they? Theoretically I realize and appreciate all the blessings and advantages, but sometimes I selfishly feel it would be nice to not have to share my husband with a million others. I do love and appreciate you, dear, and admire your sterling qualities. I wouldn’t have you be one whit less valiant in the pursuit of your duty…but it is comforting to be reassured once in a while that you realize I am standing by..” (Camilla E. Kimball, “Camilla,” 130).

23. Men want to feel trusted, appreciated, admired, approved of, encouraged, and viewed as competent and needed. In the book, “Spencer W. Kimball,” (191) we find this example: “When President Kimball was called as an apostle, he and Camilla and their family were living in Arizona. The phone call from the First Presidency in Salt Lake City was so overwhelming to President Kimball that after hanging up the phone, feelings of inadequacy overcame him and he sank to the floor, sobbing. Camilla sat on the floor with him, stroking his hair, trying to quiet him. President Kimball wrote: ‘My wife is my salvation. She comforted me and encouraged me and continued to say there was only one road to follow.’”

24. We can learn from each other. Who better to learn how to be more nurturing than from one who has that God-given gift? Who better to learn how to be more kind, or charitable, or loving, than from one who has that God-given gift? God has perfected all these traits If we hope to become like God we, too, must develop all the attributes of Godliness. We can do that best by learning from those who can best teach us. This suggest that we each have a responsibility to emulate, for others, the qualities God has given us.

25. Elder Richard G Scott said that man’s natural tendency to be aggressive and competitive often cause him to want to be perceived as being as close to right as possible (Ensign, Nov. 1996, 73). “From my experience, It would seem that faithful mothers have a special gift that we often refer to as mother’s intuition. Perhaps with the great blessing of motherhood, our Heavenly Father has endowed them with this quality, since fathers, busy in priesthood callings and with the work of earning a livelihood, never draw quite as close to heavenly beings in matters that relate to the more intimate details of bringing up children in the home” (Harold B. Lee, “The Teachings of Harold B. Lee,” 291).

26. “All virtues listed in the scriptures – love, joy, peace, faith, godliness, charity – are shared by both men and women, and the highest priesthood ordinance in mortality is given only to men and women together…The woman, by her very nature…is the primary nurturer of the children. Virtues and attributes upon which perfection and exaltation depend come naturally to a woman and are refined through marriage and motherhood” (Boyd K. Packer, Ensign, Nov. 1993).