TND Session 4

1. TND Session 4 CHEMICAL DEPENDENCY GATEWAY SCHOOL MRS. WORTHY

2. CHAMPS: Mrs. Worthy is Teaching Answer and ask questions Raise you hand…I have a question. Complete Assignment Stay seated Follow directions, look up, write, pay attention

3. CAN SOMEONE DEFINE DYSFUNCTIONAL? • RESORTING TO UNHEALTHY BEHAVIORS TO GET NEEDS MET

4. WHAT ARE SOME EXAMPLES OF DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIOR IN A CHEMICALLY DEPENDENT FAMILY? • AVOIDANCE OF SOCIAL GATHERINGS • CHILDREN TAKING ON ADULT ROLES • FIGHTS

5. Family Roles p. 20-21 in workbook, teacher book p. 84 • Read scenario on page 22 • Questions: • Who is the Chief enabler or co-Dependent? Why? • Who is the Lost Child? Why? • Who is the Hero? Why? • Who is the Scapegoat? Why? • Who is the Mascot? Why? • Who has the drug problem? Why? • **people my take on many roles within the family***

6. Chemical Dependency affects the entire family • In a chemically dependent family, why or how do… • Family secrets begin to develop? lack of trust, violence, abuse, etc • Family members begin to feel ashamed and isolated • Feel embarrassed about a problem, don’t talk to anyone about it, feel alone, etc.

7. Chemical Dependency affects the entire family • Children in the family experience role-reversal with their parents? • Kids taking care of parent and or other siblings Emotional needs go unmet? No nurturing, care, attention, listening, acknowledgement Family members become more tense, angry and frustrated? too much conflict, lack of communication Family members deny that there is a problem? Dad’s just tired or stressed. We are OK, No big deal

8. Enable=helping the drug user to use • Refusing to confront the addict • Refusing to get outside help • Refusing to acknowledge his/her need to change behavior patterns • Helping the addict to avoid dealing with consequences (making things easier) • Ignoring his/her use • Giving him/her money • Making excuses for him/her

9. If and how is this enabling behavior? • You are extremely high and drunk. You ask me to call your girlfriend and make up a lie about where you are? Am I enabling you? How?

10. If and how is this enabling behavior? • Your best friend is constantly smoking weed and skipping school. You never say anything because you are afraid he/she will get mad at you. Are you enabling him/her? How?

11. If and how is this enabling behavior? • Your mom buys your cigarettes for you when she does the regular grocery shopping. Is she an enabler? How?

12. Questions: • Without mentioning any names, raise your hand if you know anyone who is currently chemically dependent? • What is an example of how you enable this person? • Did you know that person when he/she was in early stages of dependency? How was he/she different than he/she is now? • Do you know anyone who is in recovery? What is life like for that person? How does this affect his/her family and friends?

13. Questions • Why do you think people never think of future consequences of their actions until after they already suffered a lot of consequences? • No one ever thinks it will happen to him/her. People are in denial and refuse to face the problem and deal with them • Sometimes family problems decrease when the user stops using. In other words, it’s not just that the family enables use, but also the user disables the family.

14. Where can the family go for help? • P. 22 in student workbook- make a referral for the family members in the scenario. Use page 23-24 in workbook • In the scenario we read, how was the dad’s drinking affecting his family? • Ray was modeling Dad’s behavior, Mom was walking on egg shells, and Heidi was modeling Dad’s avoidance of the family

15. Summary • Substance abuse affects the whole family and all of our relationships. The only solution is the get the help you need. Even is no one else in the family sees that there is a problem, you can get help you yourself. Not only will you feel better, but you will also learn how to quit playing the role that enables the dysfunction to continue.