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Chapter 8 . Marriage, A Private and Public Relationship. Chapter Outline. The Marriage Premise: Permanence and Sexual Exclusivity Marriage and Kinship Social Change: From Marriage As Institution to Pluralistic Families. Chapter Outline. Same-Sex Couples and Legal Marriage
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Chapter 8 Marriage, A Private and Public Relationship
Chapter Outline • The Marriage Premise: Permanence and Sexual Exclusivity • Marriage and Kinship • Social Change: From Marriage As Institution to Pluralistic Families
Chapter Outline • Same-Sex Couples and Legal Marriage • Marital Satisfaction and Choices Throughout Life • Creating Adaptable Marriage Relationships
The Marriage Premise • Expectation of Permanence - Wanting to stay married and feeling morally obligated to stay married. • Expectation of Primariness- Includes expectation of sexual exclusivity.
Social Change: From Marriage As Institution to Pluralistic Families • Social scientist William Doherty (1992), documented an historical change from marriage as a social institution to marriage as “psychological.” • Doherty characterizes families in today’s industrialized societies as pluralistic, a term he uses to describe a situation similar to the “postmodern family”
Marriage As a Social Institution • The institutional family represented the tradition of a family organized around economic production, kinship network, community connections, father’s authority, and marriage as a partnership rather than a romance. • As urbanization and individualism emerged, kinship ties weakened while values of self actualization and individual achievement emerged.
The Psychological Marriage • The psychological marriage aspired to something unprecedented in human history: • a family based on the personal satisfaction and fulfillment of its individual members in a nuclear, two-parent arrangement. • The chief value of the psychological marriage was satisfaction.
Marriage Relationships Within The Psychological Family • In the interactional relationship pattern, partners expect companionship and intimacy as well as more practical benefits. • In a parallel relationship, the husband was expected mainly to be a hardworking provider and the wife was expected to be a good housekeeper and cook.
“Do you think marriages between homosexuals should or should not be recognized by the law as valid, with the same rights as traditional marriages?”
Extramarital Sex • 1/4 of all husbands and 15% of wives report having had at least one affair. • 37% of men in their 50’s report having had at least one affair. • Women are more likely to have an affair if their marriage is emotionally distant. • Men have affairs for sexual variety.
Factors in Extramarital Affairs • Opportunity • Willingness to take advantage of the opportunity. • Expectations for satisfaction. • Likelihood of the affair being discovered.
Recovering from An Affair • Offending spouse apologizes sincerely without defending the behavior. • Offending spouse needs to allow and hear the anger and rage of the offended partner. • Offending spouse needs to allow trust to rebuild gradually (possibly 2 years or longer).
Recovering from An Affair • Offending spouse needs to do things to regain trust. • Offended spouse needs to decide whether to stay committed to the marriage and if so to let go of resentments. • Couple must consider marriage counseling.
1. Social scientist William Doherty has documented a historical change from marriage as a social institution to marriage as • “sociological.” • “psychological.” • “biological.” • “physical.”
Answer: b • Social scientist William Doherty has documented a historical change from marriage as a social institution to marriage as “psychological”.
2. The _____________ Act is a federal statute declaring marriage to be a “legal union of one man and one woman,” and relieving states of the obligation to grant reciprocity or “full faith and credit” to marriages performed in another state. • Take a Stand on Marriage • Fidelity • Defense of Marriage • Polyamory
Answer: c • The Defense of Marriage Act is a federal statute declaring marriage to be a “legal union of one man and one woman,” and relieving states of the obligation to grant reciprocity or “full faith and credit” to marriages performed in another state.
3. Role __________ refers to modifying or adjusting the expectations and obligations traditionally associated with a role. • adaptation • taking • making • reflection
Answer: c • Role making refers to modifying or adjusting the expectations and obligations traditionally associated with a role.
4. According to the text, in comparison with women, men who have extramarital affairs are likely to do so • because they feel emotionally distanced by their wives. • for the sexual excitement and variety they hope to find. • in order to persuade their wives to engage in certain sexual acts. • as direct retaliation for perceivedtransgressions of their wives.
Answer: b • According to the text, in comparison with women, men who have extramarital affairs are likely to do so for the sexual excitement and variety they hope to find.