Bully Prevention: Part III

1. Bully Prevention:Part III What to do about Gossiping… Let’s put an end to bullying now!

2. Current Expectations- for review

3. Review of Lesson One • Say “STOP” and use the hand signal • If that doesn’t work, “WALK” away • If that doesn’t work, “TALK” to an adult

4. Student Matrix- review Respecting Others

5. What do the expectations have to do with gossiping? • Being Respectful means saying only nice things about other students • Being Kind means encouraging others and making them feel good even when they are not present

6. What do the expectations have to do with gossiping? • That means NOT: • Telling a negative story about someone else, regardless of whether or not it is true • Sharing secrets that someone told you • Blaming negative behavior on someone else

7. Review the Social Responsibility Skills (Stop/Walk/Talk) • Say “STOP” and use the hand signal • If that doesn’t work, “WALK” away • If that doesn’t work, “TALK” to an adult

8. Think, Pair, Share • How can Stop/Walk/Talk be used when someone says something disrespectful about another student? • Often, the target of gossip will not hear the negative remark, so it is important for others that DO hear the remark to say “STOP” • Sometimes this means saying stop to your friends, which can be very difficult

9. Practice Time (5 minutes) • Your teacher will divide you up into groups of 2 • Practice using the “STOP” signal with each other when the other person says something unkind or disrespectful about another person (DO NOT USE ANYONE’S REAL NAME , for example, you could use the names of the Snow White 7 dwarfs) • Possible scenarios to act out: • Student A says something about Sneezy’s hair • Student B says something rude about Doc’s shoes

10. Practice Time (Part II, 5 minutes) • Bring the class back together and discuss questions and comments that arose during practice • Now we need groups of 3 (one cafeteria supervisor, one instigator of gossip, and one bystander) • Instruct the students to practice the entire Stop/Walk/Talk sequence to be used with gossip, how to reply when someone uses the “stop” signal with you, and how adults will respond to reports of gossip (on next 2 pages)

11. Responding to “Stop, Walk, Talk” • If you are doing something and someone uses “stop”, “walk”, or “talk” your response should be: • 1. Stop what you are doing • 2. Take a deep breath and count to 3 • 3.Go on with your day

12. Adult responses • When you report a problem to an adult, they will: • Thank you for coming to talk to them • Ask you what the problem is • Ask if you said “stop” • Ask if you “walked away” calmly • Practice Stop/Walk/Talk with you if needed

13. Stop – Walk – Talk Method Review Dipsticking: • How should you respond in situations that involve gossiping? • Reward students displaying active participation and Appropriate behavior (Bulldog Bucks?)