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“AFFAIR PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE” VALUES THAT BUILD STRONG FAMILIES - PART 7

“AFFAIR PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE” VALUES THAT BUILD STRONG FAMILIES - PART 7. Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.” . I. THE PROBLEM – WHAT CAUSES AFFAIRS / ADULTERY? Lack of intimacy Excessive separation

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“AFFAIR PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE” VALUES THAT BUILD STRONG FAMILIES - PART 7

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  1. “AFFAIR PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE” VALUES THAT BUILD STRONG FAMILIES - PART 7

  2. Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.”

  3. I. THE PROBLEM – WHAT CAUSES AFFAIRS / ADULTERY? • Lack of intimacy • Excessive separation • Overly scheduled and busy lives • Poor Sex life • The ‘I Have a Right to Be Happy’ existential philosophy • Relaxed Divorce Laws • Unresolved Marital Challenges • Unrealistic Expectations

  4. Hebrews 13:5 "Husbands and wives be faithful to each other. God will judge those who are immoral and commit adultery."

  5. Proverbs 22:14 (GNB) "Adultery is a trap..."

  6. II. THE PREVENTION: SIX STEPS 1. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO GOD'S STANDARDS. Ps. 119:9 “How can a person keep his way pure? By living according to Your word.” Proverbs 5:15b says "Be faithful to your own wife. Give your love to her alone."

  7. 2. MAGNIFY THE CONSEQUENCES Proverbs 6:32 "The one who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul." Proverbs 6:26 (GNB) "...adultery will cost a man all he has."

  8. 3. MAINTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE 1 Corinthians 7:3 "A man should fulfil his duty as a husband, a wife should fulfil her duty as a wife and each should satisfy the other's needs."

  9. THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST MEN ARE: 1. Sexual fulfilment 2. Recreational companionship 3. An attractive spouse 4. Domestic support 5. Admiration THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST WOMEN ARE: 1. Affection 2. Conversation 3. Honesty and openness 4. Financial support 5. Family commitment

  10. 1 Corinthians 7:5 “Do not cheat each other of normal sexual intercourse or you will expose yourselves to the obvious temptation of Satan.”

  11. 4. MANAGE MY MIND STEP ONE. ACCEPTING SINFUL THOUGHTS IN MY MIND. James 1:14-15 "Temptation is the pull of a person's own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts lead to evil actions, and afterwards to death." 2 Timothy 2:22 “Turn your back on lustful desires and give your positive attention to goodness, integrity, love and peace.” Romans 16:19 "I want you to be wise about what is good and innocent about evil."

  12. STEP TWO: EMOTIONAL NON-PHYSICAL INVOLVEMENT. STEP THREE: PHYSICAL INVOLVEMENT STEP FOUR: RATIONALIZING THE AFFAIR Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. Who can know it?"

  13. 5. MAINTAIN PROPER RELATIONSHIPS. 1. DON'T LISTEN TO A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX TELL YOU HIS OR HER MARRIAGE PROBLEMS. 2. DO NOT GO FISHING FOR COMPLIMENTS. 3. BE AWARE OF A SENSE OF ELECTRICITY BETWEEN YOU AND A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. 4. AVOID A PROLONGED STARE. 5. AVOID A LINGERING TOUCH. Ephesians 5:3 "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality."

  14. 6. MINIMIZE THE OPPORTUNITY 1 Corinthians 10:12 (LB) "So be careful! If you are thinking, ‘Oh, I would never behave like that’: let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin." 1 Corinthians 15:33 "Bad company corrupts good character." Malachi 2:15 "Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with your wife."

  15. III. THE PATHWAY BACK TO PURITY Three steps: 1. ACKNOWLEDGE THE SIN. 2. END THE RELATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY. 3. AVOID ALL CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON FROM NOW ON.

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