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“Working with Families in Times of Crisis”

“Working with Families in Times of Crisis”. Ari Hoffman MA, LPC Psychotherapist 720-446-6506; a.hoffman@communityreachcenter.org. Ed-u- cate Your Kids! Come on!! Education. The Brain and the Heart. - How to appropriately answer questions about difficult topics

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“Working with Families in Times of Crisis”

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  1. “Working with Families in Times of Crisis” • Ari Hoffman MA, LPC • Psychotherapist • 720-446-6506; a.hoffman@communityreachcenter.org www.CommunityReachCenter.org 303-853-3500

  2. Ed-u-cate Your Kids! Come on!!Education

  3. The Brain and the Heart • - How to appropriately answer questions about difficult topics • - How and when to make children feel better when they are upset

  4. The Brain • Tell children what they need to know and nothing more • Why do you want to know? • Sex, Drugs, and Rock & Roll • Have you heard? • The walls are thin and Charlie is listening • Blood and Fire • Acts of People • Acts of G-d

  5. The HeartorHow and When to make a child feel better • Safety • Consistency • Trust, Trust, and more Trust • Physical Touch • Cuddling vs. Coddling • You take up space in my hard drive • Kiss the tears

  6. Educate Thyself • Ignorance is only bliss until someone asks you a question • Prepare, prepare, prepare • Make like a boy scout

  7. Crisis Survival Guide Global and Personal

  8. Your Challenge:How to relax on an inflatable life boat in the middle of the ocean with no food or water surrounded by sharks

  9. Your Solution: • Interrupt reactionary brain processes • Promote proactive brain processes

  10. Your (and my) Brain Off Stress On stress

  11. Reactive vs. Proactive • Critical Thinking • Thoughtful • Future oriented • Patient • Calm • Effective • Will save your life in situations that involve chronic stress • Survival oriented • Decisions without thought • More likely to include: anger, upset, stress • Will save your life in a tiger attack

  12. Ways to kick your proactive brain in to action: • Anything that makes you happy, calm(er), and/or relaxed: • Friends • Music • Beautiful things • Hobbies • Deep Breathing

  13. “When you go out to battle against your foe…” • Stress/Anxiety/Anger Proactive thinking/ Calm

  14. The difference between you and a firefighter You can be a firefighter too!!

  15. Self Care You can leave the lecture now because you won’t do this anyway

  16. The Messiah Complex&The Parenting Reality • The calling is noble but not any nobler than you are • Discretion and valor • Scene Safe??? • Am I protected • 3 am parties not by choice Hey! Let me help you

  17. All’s fair in love and war, so cheat! • Parents and Caregivers alike must take care of themselves. • If you want to do this work well, you don’t have a choice.

  18. Cheat List • 98% vs. 2% • Eat well • Less: sugar, poison (caffeine), processed foods, soda (G-d save us) • More: fruits and vegetables, nuts, water (what’s water?), eggs, poultry, meat (it should also look like meat) • Exercise • You will be smarter, nicer, and better looking

  19. Cheat List, cont. • Go out with friends • Laugh • Jim Gaffigan“hot pockets” • Jeff Dunham “Walter” • Hobbies • Things you enjoy doing for the sake of doing them. • Get counseling (we don’t normally bite and when we do its not that hard) • Sleep Ahem!!!!

  20. In sum: • Only answer what your child needs to know • Make sure the child knows he or she is cared for • Look at beautiful things and try to engage the proactive part of the brain • Take care of yourself!

  21. To learn more about services and programs available at Community Reach Center, please visitwww.CommunityReachCenter.org or 303-853-3500

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