Pathways to Success Building Self Esteem (lesson # 4)

1. Pathways to SuccessBuilding Self Esteem(lesson # 4) By Sissy Osteen, Ph.D., CFP PowerPoint by Cindy Clampet Revised 2017

2. Self Esteem is • What you believe you are worth as a person

3. Checklist • Fill out the Self Esteem Check list on page 2 of your booklet. • Where do you rank? (see score at the bottom of the page) • Everyone can learn to feel better and more confident about themselves.

4. Improving Self Esteem • It can take some work, but there are ways you can improve your self esteem. Pick one item off the checklist and try to do that item every chance you get. • Say “Hi” to people working in stores or neighbors in your building • Say “Thank You” when complemented, rather than “not really” or “its nothing.” • What are some other things you can do?

5. More Ways… • Learn to give to others… • Help others… • Develop your own support group. Get a group of friends who like you and care about what happens to you. Know who they are and keep in touch with them weekly and let them know you care about them as well.

6. Take Action • Do what you can do and don’t worry about what you can’t do. • Don’t make fun of other people or join in when others are • Take care of yourself— • Eat right • Take time for yourself • Do what you think is right • Don’t worry about pleasing others Doing things you know are bad for you lowers your self esteem!

7. Others… • Try new things • Be Proud of your Success!! • I really like this person’s self care plan … • What would you add?

8. Use Positive Self-Talk • Self-Talk is that little voice we all have. It either say: “you are a loser!” or “You CAN do this…no problem!” • You can UNLEARN the bad messages. Every time you hear a negative message, rephrase it in your head to a positive message! • If you feel funny or fake doing this, just keep doing it! You will become more comfortable and happy as talking positively to yourself becomes a habit.

9. Volunteers need for next activity.

10. How did you feel? • What were you thinking about when you thought the instructor needed volunteers? • Were you happy and anxious to volunteer? • Or were you shrinking down in your seat hoping not to be noticed? • If you were thinking negative thoughts, write them on page 8 of your booklet.

11. Consequences of Negative Thoughts • Depression • You start and continue to believe yourself • Your self-confidence drops • You are less likely to try to learn new things • You are less likely to be outgoing and friendly • Your self-respect drops • You don’t believe the best about yourself • You may expect to fail, so you don’t even try • Do the activities on page 9 & 10 of your booklet

12. Build Each Other UP!! • Take turns saying 1 nice thing about another person in the class • Take a card from the instructor and put your name on the top. • Pass the card to the right. Each person will write something good about the person whose name is at the top of the card. Keep passing the cards until everyone has written on each card. Keep your card in your purse or pocket to remind you of the good things others see in you!!