Take This Job & Love It!

1. Take This Job & Love It! Presenter, Martha N. Bryan Bryan & Bryan Associates marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com

2. People Who Hate Their Job

3. People Who Love Their Job

4. Habits of People Who Love Their Job • Clarity and commitment to mission / goals • A passion for excellence • Lifelong growth / development • Creation / management of change • Ability to learn from mistakes, self-correct / move on • Commitment to mastery of a talent or skill • Strong sense of personal awareness / accountability • (continued)

5. Habits of People Who Love Their Job (continued) • Both healthy independence & interdependence • Ability to communicate for understanding • Empowerment of self & others • Ability to take care of themselves • Risk, experimentation & growth • Expectation of positive • Ability to be grateful • Ability to experience life to the fullest degree

6. "There are a thousand excuses for every failure but never a good reason." ~ Mark Twain • Blocks to Loving Your Work • Having no definition of success • Not knowing what you really want • Unclear goals / purpose • Lack of commitment to goals • Lack of self-discipline / putting off • Working first on what is due first • Doing only what is required / getting sidetracked • (Continued)

7. Blocks to Loving Your Work(Continued) • Excusitis (real creative with excuses) • Unable to work effectively with others • Negative thinking / problem conscious • Thinking something outside self will bring happiness • Lets mistakes defeat them • Tunnel vision • "Auto pilot" existence – too attached to comfort zone • Listlessness (no energy) “Your Life Does Not Get Better By Chance, It Gets Better By Change.” ~ Jim Rohn

8. Am I The Block? Yes No _____ _____Am I refusing to do anything distasteful? _____ _____ Am I hanging around the quicksand crowd? _____ _____ Am I putting off? _____ _____ Am I waiting around for things to get better? _____ _____ Am I whining and complaining? _____ _____ Am I talking too much? _____ _____ Am I making snap or slow decisions? _____ _____ Am I refusing to let others do their job? _____ _____ Am I taking on too much? _____ _____ Am I giving in to mood swings? _____ _____ Am I coping with change? _____ _____ Am I making realistic time estimates? _____ _____ Am I excited about my life?

9. Are We "Our Own Worst Enemy?" • Why do we get stuck just doing our job? • Why do we sleepwalk through life? • Why do we not pay attention to the "wake - up" calls? • Are we chasing our dreams or just putting in our time? • Are we chasing our dreams or working on other people's goals? • How can we put more joy and excitement into our life? "People are always blaming their circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want. If they don't find them, they make them." ~ George Bernard Shaw

10. What Does Success Mean To You? “Most of us will go to our grave with our music still in our soul.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

11. Success -- The Pieces • Peace of mind . . . freedom from • fear, guilt, anger • Good health & high energy level • Caring relationships • Commitment to worthy goals & ideas • Feeling of fulfillment

12. Success . . . Getting to do what you really want to do in --> love --> work --> personal life Doing it well. Being rewarded for it. Feeling good about yourself . . . in the process of doing it.

13. Getting Clarity About What Is Important . . . This Will Help Three Choices Personal Mission Retirement Speech Or Obituary

14. Let’s be Honest! • Why do you get up in the morning? • Why do you do the work you do? • Do you work at peak performance levels or do you "just get by”? • If you could have any job in the world, what job would that be? • If you knew you could not fail, what would you do with your life? • In reflecting back on all the jobs you have had throughout your life, which job brought you the most joy and satisfaction? • In reflecting on the job you now have, what part of your job do • you especially enjoy? • If you knew you had only one year to live, what would you do differently? • Are you living your life by design or by default?

15. Finding Your Passion Requires . . . • Answering Some Tough Questions • I feel at peace when I am . . . • I feel happy when I am . . . • I feel energized when I am . . . • I feel like a driver when I am . . . • I feel like I am chasing my dream when I am . . . • Time flies when I am . . . • My heart leaps when I am

16. What Is The Difference? How Does A Goal Start? Dream? Wish? Goal?

17. Steps To Making Plans • Identify the goal. • List the benefits. • List the losses. • List the obstacles to overcome. • List the people who can help. • Develop a plan of action. • Set a date for accomplishment.

18. Done Correctly, Your Plan Will Entail . . . Defining Your Mission, Clarifying Your Vision Of What You Would Like, Defining Your Values, Identifying Your Dreams, Then . . . Developing The Goals And Objectives (The Roadmap) That Will Guide You To Where You Want To Go.

19. You Don’t . . . make a cake without a recipe, take a trip without a map, You don’t build a house without a blueprint, And, You don’t get the most out of your work and life without a plan of action.

20. During Times Great Change . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Don’t Let Negativity Get To You

21. Negativity “Bad Attitudes” . . . • Where Do They Come From? Boss Family Individual Organization Culture Society

22. Do These Negative Workplace Issues Sound Familiar? • A lack of trust is keeping morale low. • Employees make preventable mistakes because they don’t care. • No one seems to have fun at work anymore.  • Employees spend too much time complaining and griping. • The rumor mill is out of control. • Employees talk badly about management and others • Workplace absenteeism is increasing. • Back-stabbing / biting are creating an adversarial environment. • People stop talking when the manager comes in.

23. Negativity . . . is the result of unbridled and uncheckedpessimism. An Optimistic Attitude Brings Hopefulness. A Pessimistic Attitude Brings Helplessness. “People aren’t disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.” ~ Epictetus

24. Thoughts Beliefs How “Bad Attitudes” Get Started Attitudes! Interpretations Perceptions

25. How Bad Attitudes Gets Started Beliefs . . . What we hold to be true Perceptions . . . Our impression of people and events Interpretations. . . How we give meaning to a situation

26. How Negativity Travels . . . The Catalysts Contagious Mood Non-Productive Communication Behaviors Conflicting Views

27. The Effects Of Negative Thoughts & Feelings Include . . . drains your energy. blocks positive thought and creative thought. causes stress and worry. causes anger and illness. reduces productivity. prolongs painful situations. affects the way you listen to others. affects the way you communicate with others. affects the way you deal with others. takes the fun out of your life. They . . .

28. “Everything can be taken from a person but one thing; the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ~ Victor Frankel, Auschwitz Prisoner Author Man’s Search for Meaning

29. Attitude . . . How we choose to think. Feeling . . . What we get for thinking the way we do. • We Know . . . • We choose our thoughts. • Thoughts create reality. • Reality determines behavior. • Behavior leads to results. • We’ve Learned . . . . . . . Life • Is A • Choice!

30. How To Overcome Negativity? Learn to Interpret . . . Events & People Optimistically.

31. Developing a Winning Attitude • Recognize your insecurities and take action to correct. • Control self-talk. • Don’t think about what you don’t have. • Identify successes and focus on your talents. • Offer name first in every conversation. • Don't underestimate your intelligence or overestimate others. • Practice speaking up every chance you get. • Become an expert in your profession. • Be thankful. Start a victory wall and file. • (Continued)

32. Developing a Winning Attitude(Continued) • Graciously accept compliments. • Help others to build confidence in themselves. • Maintain good body posture and walk faster. • Work to improve assertion skills. • Maintain good eye contact. • Be positive even when you don’t feel like it. • Make smiling a habit. • Strive for excellence and not perfection.

33. Eliminating Workplace Negativity . . . What The Individual Can Do

34. Quick Fixes For Overcoming Negativity • Set a time limit for negativity. • Focus on the big picture. • Set ground rules. • Look at quality criticism as a plus. • Use flip side thinking. • Stop the thought! – “Caught it and rethought it.” • Use a rubber band to snap away the negativity. • Use the win-win approach to resolve problems. • (continued)

35. Quick Fixes For Overcoming Negativity (Continued) • Surround yourself with optimistic people. • Be your own best friend - control internal dialogue. • Play your winners - your strengths. • Develop new skills. • Do something to help others. • Alter, Avoid, Accept. • Reward yourself for being positive. • Lock in the negativity at work (at home). • (Continued)

36. Quick Fixes For Overcoming Negativity (Continued) • Recognize the negativity trigger points. • Take a time-out. • Provide an attitude checkup. • Encourage laughter. • Use the tape recorder. • Keep thoughts in the present. • Keep future focused. • Have a favorite saying.

37. You Must Constantly Ask Yourself . . . • Who am I around? • What are they doing to me? • What have they got me reading? • What have they got me saying? • Where do they have me going? • What do they have me thinking? • And most important, what do they have me becoming? • Then Ask Yourself The Big Question: Is That Okay? • ~ Jim Rohn

38. Eliminating Bad Attitudes . . . • What the Individual Can Do • Avoid “neg-attacks”. • Shift focuses to the positive. • Practice forgiveness. • Ask yourself “What is the best / worst . . . ?” • Determine the source and avoid it. • Change your physiology. • Eliminate any benefit you might receive. • View every challenge as an opportunity. • Realize - You can only do what you can do.

39. “Bad attitudes have become mainstream. Irreverence, criticism, and disrespect are at the forefront of our humor, entertainment, media, political discourse, and everyday conversation. These personal attacks and ‘character assassinations’ occur so often, they are no longer shocking or noteworthy. We have become desensitized to such attacks. We do not just disagree with someone’s ideas and actions, we attack their intelligence, ethics, and morals. Managers have moved from guideposts to whipping posts and frequently bear the brunt of employees’ personal feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, outside problems that filter into the workplace, employees’ lack of personal preparation and failure to position themselves for tomorrow’s workplace opportunities as well as stalled careers.” ~ Harry Chambers, Author The Bad Attitude Survival Guide

40. Loving Your Work Takes Controlling . . . Stress?

41. Stress is . . . • 1. Our internal response to the outside world. • 2. Our inability to deal openly and honestly with self and others. • 3. Stress is the feeling you experience when you perceive a gap between what you want and what you have. • Stressoriginates . . . not out there, • But . . . Only in our mind.

42. Our Thinking . . . * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Makes it so!

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44. Balanced Life Wheel

45. Spirit Health Family Social Spirit Health Financial Career Family Social Financial Career Balanced Wheel Unbalanced Wheel

46. Your Wheel . . . The Walk, Talk & Sound • When it is Balanced When it is Not

47. Managing Stress Takes a Life In Balance What You How You Value Live

48. Habits . . . Standing In The Way Of Loving Your Work _____lack of clarity about what is important _____having no goals _____ getting up at the last possible moment _____ starting late, not allowing enough time _____ being late for meetings / appointments _____ getting sidetracked _____ having cell phone on all the time _____ surfing the internet, texting _____ not responding to e-mails or returning phone calls _____letting things pile up _____ not handling paperwork _____procrastination on everything from career planning to work assignments . . . to cleaning the garage (Continued)

49. Habits . . . Standing In The Way Of Loving Your Work • (Continued) • _____poor communication with boss and other staff • _____withdrawing - not reaching out to others • _____not listening • _____not appreciating the value of teamwork • _____power struggles • _____controlling every decision • _____not keeping promises • _____tunnel vision (not seeing the big picture) • _____problem conscious • _____constant doubt and fear • _____not enough sleep and / or exercise • _____lack of energy • _____negative thinking "We do not deal much in facts when we are contemplating ourselves." ~ Mark Twain

50. Maintaining Positive Attitudes By . . . • Keeping Cool, Calm and Collected • Have "escape routes.“ • Remind yourself of your good qualities. • Talk to yourself. • Set realistic goals and expectations. • Take care of number one. • Establish quiet time. • Accept change. • Focus on areas you can control. • Negotiate and re-engineer pressure situations. • (continued)