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Strategies for Keeping Our Children Safe from Bullying/ Cyberbullying. Safe and Drug Free Schools January 24, 2011. Why Stop Bullying?. Look around you…. An estimated 160,000 students miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation by other students. Times Have Changed….
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Strategies for Keeping Our Children Safe from Bullying/Cyberbullying Safe and Drug Free Schools January 24, 2011
Why Stop Bullying? Look around you…
An estimated 160,000 students miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation by other students
Times Have Changed… Video: “Wally’s Surprise Phone Call”
Millennial Generation Takes Multitasking to a New Level…
Adolescents and the Internet • 91% have an email address • 60%have an IM screen name • 73% have their own cell phones • 72% have a profile on a social networking site Cox Communications Teen Online&Wireless Safety Survey (2009)
Teen Media Use Over Time • Teens average 10.45 hours of media content per day • Music/audio • Video • Online • TV content • Movies • Print
Average Monthly Teen Texts? 3,146 text messages per month Neilson 2009
Bullying vsCyberbullying • Terms have expanded • Regardless of location, it’s all bullying • Same dynamics • Different delivery system • It’s All about power • All bullying is damaging • It can be stopped with a cooperation and a concerted effort
Bullying Defined A willful act or course of conduct on the part of one or more pupils which is not authorized by law and which exposes a pupil repeatedly and over time to one or more negative actions which is highly offensive to a reasonable person and is intended to cause and actually causes the pupil to suffer harm or serious emotional distress.
Bullying is NOT… • A normal childhood activity • A rite of passage • The target’s fault
Bullying Happens in Four Ways • Verbal Teasing, jokes, ignoring/isolation, gossip, threats • Physical Blocking someone’s path, physical restraint, pushing/kicking, hazing • Sexual Teasing, touching, slapping, pictures, emails,graffiti, sexual assault • Property Hiding belongings, theft, arson, extortion, vandalism, destruction
Definition of Cyberbullying • Cyberbullying is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. • Stop Cyberbullying Now. org
Student Definition Bullying using technology
Conditions of Cyberbullying • It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least • have been instigated by a minor against another • minor. • Once adults become involved, it is cyber- • harassment or cyberstalking. • Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is • NEVER called cyberbullying.
Cyberbullying: Breaking It Down • Cyber Bullying can take many forms. These are a few: • A threatening e-mail • Nasty instant messaging session • Repeated notes sent to the cell phone • A website set up to mock others • Borrowing someone’s screen name and pretending • to be them while posting a message. • Forwarding supposedly private messages, • pictures, or video to others. • I –SAFE America Inc.
Cyberbullying by Proxy Getting someone else to do the dirty work Warning Wars Posing as victim Control of a victim’s account Reporting a victim to a website- lose their access Endangering the victim through posts
High Risk Behaviors Online • Disclosing Personal Information • Internet Addiction • Suicide and Self-harm Communities • Hate Group Recruitment and Gangs • Risky Sexual Behavior • Violent Gaming
Do You Know….Netlingo? Griefers Dead Tree Version Biobreak Legacy media Meatspace Cornea-Gumbo Double-Geeking Fram Typo-Squatting Leet-Speek 1-3-3-7 • DBEYR • IRL • OIC • ROTFLMAO • 420 • ASL • CD9 • KPC • LMIRL • POS • netlingo.com
DIFFERENCES • BULLYING • DIRECT • Occurs on • school property • Poor relationships • with teachers • Fear retribution • CYBERBULLYING • ANONYMOUS • Occurs off • school property • Good relationships with teachers • Fear loss of technology privileges • Further under the radar than bullying From ‘Demystifying and Deescalating Cyber Bullying’ by Barbara Trolley, Ph.D. CRC, Connie Hanel, M.S.E.d & Linda Shields, M.S.E.d. http://www.nyssca.org/CYBERBULLYING-pp-BT28th.ppt
CyberbullyingPrevalance • According to the National Crime Prevention Council : • 43% of children 13-17 report being cyberbullied in the last year • Most victims "know" but cannot see the bully • 53% of teens admit sending a nastygram • Only 10% of victims told their parents • Common Sense Media, 2010
Why Do Kids Bully? • Jealousy • Boredom • From example • Attention & Approval • Reputation • Anger • Power • Control • Entertainment • Status
Words Do Hurt • When teens were asked why they cyber bullied, • they responded: • They think it’s funny (81%) • They don’t think it’s a big deal • They are encouraged by friends • They think everybody cyber bullies • They think they won’t get caught They don’t think about the consequences • www.cyberbullying.us
Bullies like what they do most of them have strong self-confidence So, if we tell the whole student body to be nice,the bullies won’t listen
What Are They Thinking? “You can’t see me, I can’t see you” “Life online is just a game” “Look at me—I’m a star” “It’s not me. It’s my online persona” “What happens online stays online” “On the Internet, I have the free-speech right to write or post anything I want, regardless of the harm it might cause to another”
FOR THE TARGET, BULLYING IS A “LOSS” EXPERIENCE: LOSS of safety LOSS of self-esteem LOSS of belonging LOSS of control over their life
Effects of Bullying on Victims • Health Problems • Loss of appetite • Nervousness • Frequent trips to the nurse • Stomach aches, vomiting • Depression • Headaches • Loss of sleep
Effects of Bullying on Victims • Adjustment Problems • Emotional distress • Anxiety • Depression • Lowered self-esteem • Homicidal ideation and attempts • Suicidal ideation and attempts • Loneliness
Effects of Bullying on Victims • Academic Problems • School avoidance, truancy • Lowered grades and reduced learning • Diminished academic risk-taking
The Good News: • 85% of children are not bullies 85% of kids are not bullies and can be enlisted to STOP THE BULLYING
Encourage Reporting of Bullying
Why Kids Don’t tell… Reporting bullying to parents: • Children frequently do not tell their parents that they are being bullied because they are embarrassed, ashamed, frightened of the children who are bullying them, or afraid of being seen as a “tattler.” If your child tells you about being bullied, it has taken a lot of courage to do so. • Your child needs your help to stop the bullying.
Why Older Kids Won’t Report Bullying Incidents Majority of incidents go unreported • Children fear loss of technology so they do not report to parents or adults • Fear of retaliation/making situation worse • Most reports come through concerned friends
Cyberbullies Can be Traced • A Each time the Internet is accessed, an • IP (Internet Protocol) address, a type of electronic fingerprint, is established. • This IP address can be used by • the authorities to trace all electronic communication between computers and/or mobile phones. • Postings in cyberspace are traceable, downloadable, printable, and sometimes punishable by law. • Cyberstalking is a crime!! • From wiredsafety.org
Where to Start • Communicate your values– and how they apply online: You’re the only one in a position to guide your kids this way. Be very clear with kids about this. It’ll help them make smarter decisions when they’re faced with tricky situations. • Be patient: Most kids need small bits of information repeated – and often – for it to really sink in. Keep talking; chances are it’ll pay off. Net Cetera 2010
Plan of Action for Families • Have family discussions where every member’s opinion is respected • Reassure children that it is OK to tell you without fear of reprisals • Develop Family Media Usage Guidelines • Develop Family Pledge
Support Targets ∙ Mentor them and connect with them. ∙ Increase supervision to protect them. ∙ Help them get support from others with similar histories. ∙ And — most importantly — help them connect with a network of peer support and friendship.
Teach children to: STOP: Don’t respond to the bully. BLOCK: The bully or limit all communication to those you can trust. TELL:A trusted adult.