1 / 37

2geda 4eva (marriage & relationship)

2geda 4eva (marriage & relationship). Appreciation . I thank you for inviting me to speak to you on this germane and all important topic – together forever. Departure. The creator gave the framework Mt 19: - 4-6 Let no one put asunder. Proximate potential sources of asunder. Both Parties

yves
Download Presentation

2geda 4eva (marriage & relationship)

An Image/Link below is provided (as is) to download presentation Download Policy: Content on the Website is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use and may not be sold / licensed / shared on other websites without getting consent from its author. Content is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use only. Download presentation by click this link. While downloading, if for some reason you are not able to download a presentation, the publisher may have deleted the file from their server. During download, if you can't get a presentation, the file might be deleted by the publisher.

E N D

Presentation Transcript

  1. 2geda 4eva(marriage & relationship)

  2. Appreciation • I thank you for inviting me to speak to you on this germane and all important topic – together forever.

  3. Departure • The creator gave the frameworkMt 19: - 4-6Let no one put asunder

  4. Proximate potential sources of asunder • Both Parties • Third party

  5. Relationship goes on in stages until it graduates to marriage. It is subsequently managed

  6. Stages in relationship: • Acquaintance / dating • Closeness • Intimacy/ courtship/engagement • Marriage

  7. What is dating? • Burgressand Wallin sees dating as a “social engagement of a man and a woman which is for the enjoyment of each other’s company and involves no matrimonial commitment” • J. R. Cavanagh sees it as “ the infrequent spending of time together for the purpose of companionship, getting acquainted, and the pleasure of the moment, usually without any present intention of marriage

  8. Characteristics of acquaintance /dating • No emotional attachment • Casual friendship • Just enjoying companionship • No jealousy/rivalry • Non-exclusive • No sharing of secrets • Open place dating

  9. Closeness • A deeper level of companionship where friends start getting interested in and closer to the other party. A stage of higher degree of proximity and togetherness.

  10. Characteristics Of Closeness • Higher degree of affinity • Still has no-go-areas • Stage of sharing general issues – family, school, office, daily events etc

  11. ADVANTAGES OF DATING • Social interaction • Personal development • Mature understanding of the opposite sex • Satisfaction of the human need for love • Selection of future partner • Spiritual growth and development

  12. ADVANTAGES OF COURTSHIP • Social security • Sense of belonging and self worth • Development of human relations skills • Cost-savings

  13. DANGERS OF COURTSHIP • Loss of personal identity • It tends to become a habit • Pre-marital pregnancy/early marriage • Pre-marital sex • Abortion

  14. DONTS IN COURTSHIP/DATING • Kissing and heavy hanging • Sleeping together on the same bed • Sexual intercourse

  15. HOW TO MAINTAIN PRE-MARITAL CHASTITY • Positive feeling of self worth • Have moral code and discuss • Avoid situations that stimulate sexual pleasure • Know the fact about sex • Learn to control your sexual desires. Jer 9: 21 Death comes up into the soul through the window of the eyes • Real presence/Universal presence • Flee…1 Cor. 6: 18 • Avoid time bombs

  16. WHEN TRAPPED? • Accept your mistake • Reconcile • Self forgiveness • Flee

  17. MATE SELECTION • Key to healthy marriage is to keep your eyes wide open before you look and half closed thereafter • Pray; pray again • Set criteria-story of my son • Compatibility: The ability of two objects or individuals to unite in such a way that there would be little or no friction in the union. Check age, religion, personality, health, education.

  18. MARRIAGE MAINTENANCE • Find below some of the things that help is maintaining the love in your marriage:

  19. Pray together always • The closer a man and his wife get to Christ, the clearer they see how important it is for them to stay close to each other. • Daily prayer diminishes your cares • Give your troubles to God, He will be up all night afterall

  20. Communicate: • A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short • Verbal communication • Discuss as a family • Learn to say I am sorry • Do not just talk about others, talk about yourselves

  21. Communication Continues • Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless • Ninety percent of the friction of daily life is caused by the wrong tone of voice • I love you – a magic statement

  22. NON VERBAL • Body language at all times • Be a good listener

  23. Appreciate one another • Reduce the use of “I”. Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from the neck saying “make me feel important”

  24. Enjoy each other sexually • Make every sexual session a memorable one.

  25. Things to do to enjoy good sex: • Develop close relationship • Be clean and neat • Spend time in love play before sex • Aim to reach orgasm together • Choose comfortable positions • Care for your partner. Know your cycle • Be faithful to your partner

  26. Serve one another • The great thing about being married a long time is falling in love with the same person again and again • Spouse who pet their partners first have marriages that last • Best friends make best partners

  27. ISSUES • Bath together • Beware of master bedroom • Be fond of each other • Personal greeting ritual • Be the first to forgive • Manage family financial obligations jointly

  28. CAUSES OF FINANCIAL PROBLEMS • Lack of prudence in spending • Lack of budgeting • Not placing needs above wants • Not planning within your income.

  29. MODELS FOR FAMILY MONEY MANAGEMENT • 1ST: The wife’s money as emergency fund • 2ND: The wife’s money for her needs • 3RD: The shared economy system • 4TH: The pooled or mixed economy • 5TH: The fifty-fifty system

  30. Be open to change • The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with the personality but must live with a character-Peter Devries • Success in marriage is more than finding the right person. It is also a matter of being the right person

  31. Handle your problems together • No marriage is all sunshine, but two people can share one umbrella if they huddle close – Nancy L. V. Pelt • The difference between smooth sailing and shipwreck in marriage lies in what you as a couple are doing about the rough weather

  32. Law of departure. . • Gen: 2 23 to 24: - “A man leaves and cleaves” • Build and break alliances

  33. Plan your family size • “If there are reasonable grounds for spacing births, arising from physical or psychological conditions of husband or wife, or from external circumstances, the church teaches that the married couple may take advantage of the natural cycles immanent in the reproductive system and use their marriage at precisely those times that are infertile, and in this way control birth”

  34. Keep good company • Bad pieces of advice could ruin a happy marriage: 2nd Sam 13 1-6 (Amnon and Tamar) • Friendship is the marriage of the souls

  35. Keep your promises

  36. Learn to laugh • Laughter is to life what shock absorbers are to auto mobiles. It wont take the pot-holes out of road but it sure makes the ride smoother

  37. Child Upbringing

More Related