MH31 Principles of interviewing and group leadership

1. MH31 Principles of interviewing and group leadership BilliesSpring 2019

2. Group GuidelinesSpring 2019 MW What do you need to be your best student self in this class? • Respect • Don’t interrupt or make noises when someone is talking • Agree to disagree cordially (you do not have to fight) • Respect opinions and beliefs • If offended, explain why if you want • If you said something that offended someone, explain why if you want • Come with an open mind • Make eye contact, show you are listening with body language of paying attention • Encourage people to talk who don’t very much • Step Up/ Step Back

3. engagement and identity in counseling Name Game Name Video: Jose vs. Joe: Who gets a job? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PR7SG2C7IVU Name Reading: Workplace Discrimination Based On Names(hand out) What does this mean for you in looking for work? What does this mean for engaging clients?

4. multicultural Counseling in MH31 • Creating a multicultural classroom • Multicultural Counseling Competence • Mapping emotions and events in everyday life • Counseling theory and techniques • Pick a client population to focus on

5. Creating a Multicultural Classroom A Multicultural Classroom… • Thinks about how power affects relationships • Appreciates difference as a strength • Accepts that discussions will include debate and disagreement • Aspires to find connections across differences

6. What are Qualities of a Healthy Relationship?

7. Attachment theory Attachment Theory: How your childhood shapes you https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t57DCRFZA8A&t=4s Mr. T Parenting: Poor Crying Baby Https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ouzt5cs_zk&t=17s

8. Roadmap to helping

9. LGBTQ Youth of color in foster care Watch(Minute 0 - 6:11 of video)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuSikwpqazA Students fill in handout during video

10. LGBTQ Youth of color in foster care, continued Discuss in pairs • Can you relate to what the young people have gone through? • Can you relate to their feelings (even if they are for a different reason)? • If yes, what can you relate to? • If no, what is hard for you to relate to?

11. LGBTQ Youth of color in foster care, continued Discuss in whole class • What could you relate to? What couldn’t you relate to? • Do you think you could be a good counselor for any of these young people? Why or why not? • What would you need to learn to be a better counselor for them?

12. Counselor qualities Why is Carl Rogers important to counselors? Core counselor qualities 1. 2. 3.

13. tripartite model ofpersonality development

14. EMPATHY Free write Who in your life do you feel really understands you? Who in your life do you understand really well? Is there a particular type of person that you think you understand really well?

15. What is Empathy? Student definitions: Textbook definition: Empathy is expressed when the counselor communicates that he or she understands the facts, emotions, or special meanings of the client’s story.

16. Empathy versus Sympathy What is the difference between... Empathy: Sympathy: Which should counselors practice? Why?

17. Empathy for clientssimilar and different from you • Empathy is a remarkable human trait in counseling because it can transcend the obstacles that can get in the way of relating to our clients. • If you understand what the client feels because you've been through something similar, if you can put yourself in their shoes, or if you can be compassionate and humble when you don’t understand, empathy creates ahuman bond that deepens trust and promotes healing. • At the same time, empathy is a crucial skill to develop because cultural, religious, identity, family, and personality differences can make it hard for counselors to understand their clients. It is important to practice cultural humility. hand in free write

18. SKILL BUILDING: 3 ways to Show empathy 1. Personal Experience Can you personally relate to what the client has told you? If yes, use what you felt then as a guide to see if that is how the client feels now. 2. Put Yourself in the Client’s Shoes If you can’t relate through personal experience, put yourself in the client’s shoes and imagine what you would feel. Ask if that is how client feels. 3. Show Compassion & Acceptance If You Don’t Understand If you can’t relate to the client, use compassion to show that you accept the client’s feelings as genuine and valid even if you don’t understand.

19. To Show Empathy to a Client Do not “help” the client or try to make them feel better! The firststep is saying something that shows you understand how the client feels. Use this model: You sound __________________. Is that how you feel? (emotion word) This is also called an “empathic statement.” This is a specific therapist intervention that shows how you as the counselor can relate to the client’s emotion in a genuine way.

20. Model for Showing Empathy State the emotion you think the client is feeling and ask to see if you are on track: Client: I just don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything but my brother still won’t talk to me. Counselor: “You sound discouraged. Is that how you feel?” Stop there! Give the client time to respond. Also, yourself to be wrong. This gives the client a chance to refine the feeling he or she is actually feeling.

21. Example Ask student to read aloud, fill in the blank Client: I’m in my 3rd semester and I just can’t seem to keep up in any of my classes. I’ve been trying, but I know I could do better. My family keeps causing me problems and I feel like they are making me choose between them and school. Counselor: “You sound _________________. Is that how you feel?” (emotion word)

22. empathy practice In Pairs – empathy exercise Therapist: How is school going for you? Client: (Talk about how school is going for you.) Therapist: You sound ________. Is that how you feel? (emotion word)

23. paraphrasing Go to Paraphrasing slides

24. Tracking thoughts and feelings in a conversation • Read assignment description

25. Multicultural Counseling Competence the ability of a therapist to include cultural issues in all stages of helping (relationship building, assessment, goal setting, intervention, evaluation) with knowledge, skillfulness, and self-awareness.

26. 3 aspects ofmulticultural Competence • Knowledge:Informed knowledge about how a client’s culture relates to his, her, or their issues • Skill:Techniques tailored to a client’s cultural background that recognize how the therapist’s cultural background affects the therapeutic relationship • Self-awareness:Knowledge of one’s membership in cultural groups and how they have interacted with other cultural groups over time Also known as “Multicultural Responsiveness”

27. MCC: Counselor self-awareness Self-awareness • includes awareness of your emotions as well as your environment and social context • is part of developing multicultural competence • includes the ways society helps you move ahead OR gets in your way. This is also called “critical consciousness.”