Lesson 8Wives Submit Husbands Be Considerate

1. Lesson 8~Wives Submit!Husbands Be Considerate! Good evening ladies and gentlemen. Tonight we will be continuing in our study in the epistle of 1 Peter. Tonight we will start into chapter 3 where wives are commanded to submit to their husbands. And husbands, be considerate to your wives. But before we continue, let us pray�Good evening ladies and gentlemen. Tonight we will be continuing in our study in the epistle of 1 Peter. Tonight we will start into chapter 3 where wives are commanded to submit to their husbands. And husbands, be considerate to your wives. But before we continue, let us pray�

2. Introduction Eph 5:22-23 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Women, what are the things that can make it hard to obey this command? (read slide)(read slide)

3. Introduction Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Men, what are the things that can make it hard to obey this command? (read slide)(read slide)

4. Scripture Reading In tonight's lesson, Peter gives a straight forward command for wives and husbands to submit to one another. But who am I to teach this when I am so hopelessly single? And I'm not the only one. Half of this group is not married either. I was thinking that it would be better for Warren to teach this lesson to the married couples while the rest of us go to Lollicup and get a boba. But this lesson has as much relevance for single people as as it does for married couples. Most of you singles will marry your "soul mate" and step head long into the controversy of submission. And those who are already married, need to be reminded daily to submit to one another. So without further delay, let's begin tonight's lesson by having someone read the next slide please:In tonight's lesson, Peter gives a straight forward command for wives and husbands to submit to one another. But who am I to teach this when I am so hopelessly single? And I'm not the only one. Half of this group is not married either. I was thinking that it would be better for Warren to teach this lesson to the married couples while the rest of us go to Lollicup and get a boba. But this lesson has as much relevance for single people as as it does for married couples. Most of you singles will marry your "soul mate" and step head long into the controversy of submission. And those who are already married, need to be reminded daily to submit to one another. So without further delay, let's begin tonight's lesson by having someone read the next slide please:

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6. For Women Only! In the previous two lessons, Peter gave us specific examples how we are to live holy lives in an unrighteous world. There we learned that we are to submit to our government and to our employers for the sake of the Lord. Tonight's lesson continues in that vein: Wives submit to your husbands for the sake of the Lord.In the previous two lessons, Peter gave us specific examples how we are to live holy lives in an unrighteous world. There we learned that we are to submit to our government and to our employers for the sake of the Lord. Tonight's lesson continues in that vein: Wives submit to your husbands for the sake of the Lord.

7. For Women Only! ��� 1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Submit to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: to submit to a conqueror. Hupotasso~under; agreed position (read verses) I had a conversation with Maria Wong this past Sunday who had taught from this exact same set of verses in the women's class. She said that of all the lessons she had taught, this one was the most contentious. All the women understood what this verse said, but none of them thought it was easy to obey. Why? Because of the world's definition of Submit. Dictionary.com defines it as to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: i.e., to submit to a conqueror. I can see why women hate this definition~there's very little choice here: you will submit, by force if necessary. But that's not what Peter means here. Submit comes from the Greek word Hupotasso (hoop-ot-as'-so)~From Hupo, meaning under; And Tasso meaning an agreed upon position. In other words, this is all about choice. It's like taking a new job: You agree to take a position to work under the authority of a manager. I know my analogy is not perfect: marriage is not a job, though it is a lot of work. But the point is wives are to willingly choose to submit� even when their husbands don't deserve it. Peter is addressing a specific type of marriage: What if the woman is a believer and her husband is an unbeliever? The apostle Paul minces no words:(read verses) I had a conversation with Maria Wong this past Sunday who had taught from this exact same set of verses in the women's class. She said that of all the lessons she had taught, this one was the most contentious. All the women understood what this verse said, but none of them thought it was easy to obey. Why? Because of the world's definition of Submit. Dictionary.com defines it as to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: i.e., to submit to a conqueror. I can see why women hate this definition~there's very little choice here: you will submit, by force if necessary. But that's not what Peter means here. Submit comes from the Greek word Hupotasso (hoop-ot-as'-so)~From Hupo, meaning under; And Tasso meaning an agreed upon position. In other words, this is all about choice. It's like taking a new job: You agree to take a position to work under the authority of a manager. I know my analogy is not perfect: marriage is not a job, though it is a lot of work. But the point is wives are to willingly choose to submit� even when their husbands don't deserve it. Peter is addressing a specific type of marriage: What if the woman is a believer and her husband is an unbeliever? The apostle Paul minces no words:

8. For Women Only! ��� 1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 2 Cor 6:14 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers Christians shouldn't marry unbelievers But sometimes it happens! 2 Cor 6:14 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers In other words, "Christians shouldn't marry unbelievers." This is a wise commandment supported by hard statistics. In one study I read, 72% of unequally yoked marriages resulted in the unbeliever convincing the Christian spouse to stop following Christ. That means less than 30% of the time the believer successfully convinces the unbeliever to follow Christ. But sometimes it happens! Peter is saying that if you wives find yourself unequally yoked to an unbeliever, submit to him because (read red verses) There are three couples I've met in our church where the Christian wives won over their pagan husbands to the gospel. The women didn't nag, bully or blackmail their hubbies into the kingdom of God. Instead, the husbands accepted Christ due to the pure and reverential lives of their wives. And for a woman, purity and reverence towards God is a beautiful thing, for� 2 Cor 6:14 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers In other words, "Christians shouldn't marry unbelievers." This is a wise commandment supported by hard statistics. In one study I read, 72% of unequally yoked marriages resulted in the unbeliever convincing the Christian spouse to stop following Christ. That means less than 30% of the time the believer successfully convinces the unbeliever to follow Christ. But sometimes it happens! Peter is saying that if you wives find yourself unequally yoked to an unbeliever, submit to him because (read red verses) There are three couples I've met in our church where the Christian wives won over their pagan husbands to the gospel. The women didn't nag, bully or blackmail their hubbies into the kingdom of God. Instead, the husbands accepted Christ due to the pure and reverential lives of their wives. And for a woman, purity and reverence towards God is a beautiful thing, for�

9. For Women Only! 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. Adornment Kosmos~decoration, i.e. the arrangement of the stars Outward beauty is good Inward beauty is better! (read verses) Adornment comes from the word Kosmos~where we get the word, Cosmos, meaning decoration, i.e. the arrangement of the stars. Women of the first century liked to have their hair done, wear shiny jewelry and pretty clothes that sparkled like the stars in the sky. But Peter reminds women that their beauty should not come from the outside, but the inside. Now ladies, I'm not saying to neglect your outward appearance. Outward beauty is good. I think all the men here can agree to that. We like it when you females do your hair, wear sparkly things and dress good. So keep it up. But, Inward beauty is better! It says here that God really likes a woman to have a gentle and quiet spirit. And I think all the men here can also agree that we like that too.(read verses) Adornment comes from the word Kosmos~where we get the word, Cosmos, meaning decoration, i.e. the arrangement of the stars. Women of the first century liked to have their hair done, wear shiny jewelry and pretty clothes that sparkled like the stars in the sky. But Peter reminds women that their beauty should not come from the outside, but the inside. Now ladies, I'm not saying to neglect your outward appearance. Outward beauty is good. I think all the men here can agree to that. We like it when you females do your hair, wear sparkly things and dress good. So keep it up. But, Inward beauty is better! It says here that God really likes a woman to have a gentle and quiet spirit. And I think all the men here can also agree that we like that too.

10. For Women Only! 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. Submission is: Impossible! With God all things are possible! (read verses) Verse 5 is a key verse in tonight's lesson. Submission to you husband is not difficult, It's impossible if you depend upon your own understanding. After 40 years of radical feminism in the western world, women have achieved parity with men in both education and earning potential. How could you consciously give that up and submit to your husband as your master? It's against your nature. Yet Jesus said in Mat 19:26: With God, all things are possible! Only by putting your hope in God will you be able to willingly submit to your husband, thereby making yourself beautiful by letting God shine through you.(read verses) Verse 5 is a key verse in tonight's lesson. Submission to you husband is not difficult, It's impossible if you depend upon your own understanding. After 40 years of radical feminism in the western world, women have achieved parity with men in both education and earning potential. How could you consciously give that up and submit to your husband as your master? It's against your nature. Yet Jesus said in Mat 19:26: With God, all things are possible! Only by putting your hope in God will you be able to willingly submit to your husband, thereby making yourself beautiful by letting God shine through you.

11. For Men Only! Next Peter addresses the men. The apostle doesn't command men much in tonight's verses. 75% of the verses are devoted to the ladies, but only 25% address the men. Why is this? I don't know. But let's study it anyway.Next Peter addresses the men. The apostle doesn't command men much in tonight's verses. 75% of the verses are devoted to the ladies, but only 25% address the men. Why is this? I don't know. But let's study it anyway.

12. For Men Only! �� 7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Considerate: Gnosis~with understanding Respect: Time~honor, treat as expensive (read verses) Men are called to be Considerate: Which comes from the word Gnosis (gno'-sis)~which means "with understanding". This means that you men are to show kindly awareness or regard for your wives. Everything you do or say must be done carefully and deliberately because you are to treat her with Respect: which comes from the word Time (tee-may')~honor, which means to treat as expensive. Tee-may is not a spiritual term which would be a difficult concept for men to grasp. Instead, Peter uses an economic term: Treat her as if she's valuable! As if she's a brand new Lexus, or a Dell XPS gaming laptop, or A Sharp 65" LCD Widescreen HDTV ($15k). How do men treat these expensive items? We keep them in good shape, we protect them and we show them off to others. Likewise we are to care for our wives because they are the:(read verses) Men are called to be Considerate: Which comes from the word Gnosis (gno'-sis)~which means "with understanding". This means that you men are to show kindly awareness or regard for your wives. Everything you do or say must be done carefully and deliberately because you are to treat her with Respect: which comes from the word Time (tee-may')~honor, which means to treat as expensive. Tee-may is not a spiritual term which would be a difficult concept for men to grasp. Instead, Peter uses an economic term: Treat her as if she's valuable! As if she's a brand new Lexus, or a Dell XPS gaming laptop, or A Sharp 65" LCD Widescreen HDTV ($15k). How do men treat these expensive items? We keep them in good shape, we protect them and we show them off to others. Likewise we are to care for our wives because they are the:

13. For Men Only! �� 7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Weaker Partner Asthenes skeuos~weak vessel Physically weaker Men protect your woman! Weaker Partner: which comes from the words Asthenes skeuos, which means weak vessel. This is specifically talking about women being physically weaker than men. Therefore men it is your duty to protect them.Weaker Partner: which comes from the words Asthenes skeuos, which means weak vessel. This is specifically talking about women being physically weaker than men. Therefore men it is your duty to protect them.

14. For Men Only! �� 7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Context: Christian husband Unbelieving wife Goal Make her a co-heir; a believer. Husbands submit: So that nothing will hinder their prayers� For her salvation. � and treat them with respect (read verses) I thought this last sentence was very odd. Would God be so human as to ignore your prayers simply because you dis' your wife? Others have interpreted this by saying that all sin, including being insensitive to your wife, hurts your relationship with God and that's why your prayers are hindered. But that doesn�t fit here because if that's what Peter meant that's what Peter would have said. But then it dawned on me Context is King. If we go with the assumption that this entire section is talking about winning unbelievers to Christ, then this has new meaning. Imagine that A Christian husband is married to an Unbelieving wife. His ultimate Goal, besides controlling her spending and putting up with the mother-in-law would be to Make her a co-heir of the gracious gift of life; a believer. Therefore, Peter is telling Husbands to submit to their wives by being conciderate and showing respect So that nothing will hinder their prayers� For her salvation. � and treat them with respect (read verses) I thought this last sentence was very odd. Would God be so human as to ignore your prayers simply because you dis' your wife? Others have interpreted this by saying that all sin, including being insensitive to your wife, hurts your relationship with God and that's why your prayers are hindered. But that doesn�t fit here because if that's what Peter meant that's what Peter would have said. But then it dawned on me Context is King. If we go with the assumption that this entire section is talking about winning unbelievers to Christ, then this has new meaning. Imagine that A Christian husband is married to an Unbelieving wife. His ultimate Goal, besides controlling her spending and putting up with the mother-in-law would be to Make her a co-heir of the gracious gift of life; a believer. Therefore, Peter is telling Husbands to submit to their wives by being conciderate and showing respect So that nothing will hinder their prayers� For her salvation.

15. Application Believing spouses need to submit to their unbelieving spouses to win them over to Christ with love. If both are believers, they should be submitting to each other already Eph 5:33~However, each one of you (husbands) also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. All this is done for the sake of the Lord. Let's bring this to a point of application: (read slide)Let's bring this to a point of application: (read slide)

16. Next Time: Lesson 9~Live in Harmony (read slide)(read slide)