Teenage Marriage - A Social Concern

1. Teenage Marriage - A Social Concern But this is very hard to do. It takes great courage and perseverance. Difficult as it is, divorce is a whole lot easier. Many people opt for multiple divorces. If divorce were the answer to happiness, our society with its more than 50% divorce rate would be 50% happier than before divorce was the easy option. Is it? All the research shows that despite all our modern advances, the average person reports less happiness and satisfaction with life than they did before 1960. The depression rate is skyrocketing. No wonder this woman is considering divorce. Our culture no longer supports marriage or the family as the basic unit of civilization. This culture supports the individual as the basic unit of civilization. And thus marriage is seen, not as an institution which is the sanest way for people to live, and the surest way to achieve a sustainable civilization, but rather, marriage is seen as an instrument to promote individual happiness. A symbol of this attitude is the woman's counselor who is "mystified as to why you stay married." Most counselors advise people the same way "Dear Abby" does. If your marriage gives you more grief than happiness, then leave it. Modern day therapists counsel: "If your needs aren't being met by the marriage partner then you must negotiate with your marriage partner so that they will be met. If your marriage partner will not negotiate, then to be happy, you must leave." I find this deplorable advice. What about commitment to the major decisions of your life, duty, sacrifice. What about meeting your own needs? Modern psychology focuses you on what life owes you, and how you can get it for yourself. Modern psychology does not focus you on what you owe life; what marriage owes you, not what you owe marriage. You should read Viktor Frankl's book "Man's Search for Meaning," if you haven't read it yet. He only learned to be happy while confined in German concentration camp. I believe most divorce is the quick-fix cop-out for a harder-won self-understanding. Or, as my seven-year old son told me one day. "Mom, I think I've figured out what divorce is. Divorce is when you're unhappy and you think its the other person's fault." That son has now been married for more than 25 years. I myself have to admit that I bought into my own marriage counselor's advice about meeting my own needs, and was divorced for 9 months. During that time I realized that I had never really made a commitment to my marriage. My view of marriage was always dependent upon what I got out of it. It was based not on the satisfaction of what I was able to put into it, but my assessment that I had a reasonable return on my investment. Like that woman, I wasn't asking for great happiness. I, too, was just wondering if I should get out of a situation where I was miserable, even if it was my own fault. https://healthinfluencer.net/1-week-diet-review/ https://wedoreviewforyou.com/language-of-desire-review/ https://losconcepto.com/text-chemistry-review-review/ https://wedoreviewforyou.com/meet-your-sweet-review/