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Campus Ministry United

Campus Ministry United. Real Sexual Purity in Your Campus Ministry Harding University July 10-11, 2009. Who Am I? An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field. Niels Bohr Danish physicist (1885 - 1962) . Who am I?. 1. Christian Family

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  1. Campus Ministry United Real Sexual Purity in Your Campus Ministry Harding University July 10-11, 2009

  2. Who Am I? An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field. Niels Bohr Danish physicist (1885 - 1962) ...

  3. Who am I? • 1. Christian Family • 2. Zealous Teen • 3. Harding • 4. Married • 5. Ministry • 6. Secular Career • 7. Recovery

  4. Why am I here? • For You. • For the guys in your ministry. • For the men you will study with on campus. • My mission.

  5. Outline of Class Day One • God’s Dream • Satan’s Attack • Purity Defined • Sexual Purity Defined • Discussion • Why We Struggle • The Cycle • Activity Day Two • Biblical Principles • Discussion • Where to Begin • What it will take • Questions and Answers

  6. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God Matthew 5:8 God’s Dream

  7. God’s Dream I Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

  8. Satan’s Attack • Sodom • Joseph • Sampson • Baal Worship • David • Solomon • New Testament Church • Today

  9. Our destiny is tied to our purity!Job 31:1-4I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl. For what is man's lot from God above, his heritage from the Almighty on high? Is it not ruin for the wicked, disaster for those who do wrong? Does he not see my ways and count my every step?

  10. Destiny "To the angel of the church in Thyatira write: These are the words of the Son of God, whose eyes are like blazing fire and whose feet are like burnished bronze. 19I know your deeds, your love and faith, your service and perseverance, and that you are now doing more than you did at first. 20Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols. 21I have given her time to repent of her immorality, but she is unwilling. 22So I will cast her on a bed of suffering, and I will make those who commit adultery with her suffer intensely, unless they repent of her ways. 23I will strike her children dead. Then all the churches will know that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds. 24Now I say to the rest of you in Thyatira, to you who do not hold to her teaching and have not learned Satan's so-called deep secrets (I will not impose any other burden on you): 25Only hold on to what you have until I come. 26To him who overcomes and does my will to the end, I will give authority over the nations—  27'He will rule them with an iron scepter;       he will dash them to pieces like pottery— just as I have received authority from my Father. 28I will also give him the morning star. 29He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.

  11. Satan’s Attack Proverbs 7:26 Many are the victims she has brought down; Her slain are a mighty throng.

  12. Satan’s Attack Those not killed are often severely weakened. Become compromised in the consciences. Spiritually Impotent Unable to lead. Need for some heroes!

  13. Purity Defined • Unmixed, unpolluted, 100% with no additives • Genesis 2:7-9, 15-25 • God Alone • Beasts of the Field – 4,500 • Birds of the Air – 10,000 • Seth • All Sin Originates Here

  14. Purity Defined “Addiction is the refusal to cling to God as the only person who can fill our deepest longings and ease our relational pain.” Harry Schaumberg – False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction

  15. Sexual Purity Defined Sexual Purity: 100% of your sexual gratification to be found in your spouse. Back to the Garden: Adam and Eve Every Man’s Battle

  16. 100% • Ephesians 5:1-4 • Matthew 5:27-29 • I Timothy 5:1-2 • Hebrews 13:4

  17. Sexual Purity Defined Ephesians 5:1-4 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.  But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.

  18. Purity Defined Matthew 5:27-29 (NIV) "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

  19. Purity Defined 1 Timothy 5:1-2 (NIV) Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.

  20. Purity Defined Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

  21. God’s standard for sex: “Unselfish act of unity between a man and his wife.”

  22. Discussion • What have I personally gained from the discussion thus far? • How do you feel about God’s standard?

  23. Why We Struggle Doug Weiss Steve Gallagher Promise Keepers Chicago Church

  24. Why We Struggle • Trained to objectify from youth. • Not trained emotionally. • Biological factors. • Spiritual factors.

  25. Training • Trained to objectify from youth. • Trained by media. • Trained by friends. • Trained by examples.

  26. No Emotional Training • Your Training • Feelings • Emotional Pain • Role Models • Medication • False Intimacy

  27. Biological Factors • Brain • Chemical Reward • Pre Frontal Cortex • Mid Brain • Neuro Pathways • I Corinthians 6:18-20

  28. Spiritual Factors “Addiction is the refusal to cling to God as the only person who can fill our deepest longings and ease our relational pain.” Psalm 103:5 John 4:13-14 II Corinthians 1:3-5 Hebrews 3:12-13

  29. Sexual Cycle

  30. Sexual Cycle Broken

  31. Activity • Purity Restored Survey • Opened My Heart (II Corinthians 6:11-13) • Anonymous • Helpful • Leadership by example • Student?

  32. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God Matthew 5:8 God’s Dream

  33. “Blessed”MakariosIsland of Cyprus

  34. Process .  The power to change lies in doing the small and simple things consistently.  Holding yourself accountable each and everyday is the beginning of the process of change.  Gordon S. Bruin MA, L.P.C. Inner Gold Inc.

  35. Principle # 1 Brokenness • Godly Desperation • Willingness to do “Whatever it will take” to be free. • Psalm 51 • Resistance/Denial • Matthew 5:27-30 Amputation • Mike Cleveland

  36. Brokenness • If you are not willing to be embarrassed, you are probably not ready to be free.” • “Half measures availed us nothing” • II Corinthians 7:10-11 • Study those who were healed. (Mark 2, 5) • Lift up the holiness of God (Isaiah 6)

  37. Principle # 2 - Light • I John 1:5-9 • James 5:16 • Hebrews 3:12-13 • Sexual survives and thrives in darkness. • Double Life • Life of Shame • Life of Fear

  38. “Light” Opportunities • Groups • Renewal Partner • Spouse • God

  39. Principle # 3 - Truth • John 8:31-32 • Psalm 119:9 • Psalm 1

  40. Truth Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. . . They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Sexaholics Anonymous Handbook

  41. Lie #1 It is not possible to be totally free of pornography, lust and masturbation.

  42. Lie #2 I Need Sex!

  43. Lie #3 You are not a “man” if you are not having sex!

  44. Lie #4 “I can’t go to sleep if I don’t masturbate.”

  45. Lie #5 “The Big fantasy”

  46. Lie #6 Marriage will “fix” my lust issues.

  47. Lie #7 Since the Bible does not mention masturbation, it is “no big deal.”

  48. Masturbation • Misses the mark. • Steals from Spouse • I Corinthians 6:19-20 • Janitor

  49. Principle #4 – The Holy Spirit • I Thessalonians 4:3-8 • I Corinthians 6:18-20 • John 16:7 • Acts 2:38 • John 14:16 • John 14:26 • Psalm 32:3-4 • John 15:26

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