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You Professional !! Are you a Good Parent?...

You Professional !! Are you a Good Parent?. Dr. SHAVINDRA R.DIAS MBBS,MD Psych.( colombo ) Dip in Psychol.,BA (Oxon UK) Senior Lecturer in Psychiatry Department of Psychiatry Faculty of Medicine University of Peradeniya Kandy, Sri Lanka. What kind of a parent are you???.

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You Professional !! Are you a Good Parent?...

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  1. You Professional !! Are you a Good Parent?... Dr. SHAVINDRA R.DIASMBBS,MD Psych.(colombo)Dip in Psychol.,BA(Oxon UK)Senior Lecturer in PsychiatryDepartment of PsychiatryFaculty of MedicineUniversity of Peradeniya Kandy, Sri Lanka

  2. What kind of a parent are you???

  3. Being a parent is a wonderful thing..

  4. However, it’s notalways easy..

  5. We want our children to behave well, and to: ■ have respect for themselves and others; ■ be polite to others; ■ know how to behave in different situations; ■ be able to concentrate and pay attention; ■ share and to take turns; ■ know how to win and how to lose;

  6. But children often behave quite differently, and we may feel annoyed, frustrated and embarrassed. • Parents of teenage children or children with a disability may face additional challenges and pressures.

  7. Parenting Styles

  8. Authoritarian Style Parent • Children lack social competence • Mental illness and abuse • Obedient • Proficient (Good at what they do) • May view parent as enemy • May be confused about what is right/wrong • Have  levels happiness & self-esteem Child • Not involved or responsive, but set strict limits • Expect children to follow strict rules • Does not explain why rules should be obeyed • Punish children who disobey rules • Are controlling/power-oriented • Use verbal threats or spanking

  9. Permissive Style Parent • Dependent • Irresponsible / Lacks self-control • Immature • Experiences problems with authority • Experiences problems in school (i.e. completing projects) Child • Very involved and responsive, but don’t set limits • Has no firm rules, lenient • Accepts child as he/she is • Disciplines through love, praise and affection • Communicates and nurtures child • Acts more like a friend than parent

  10. Neglectful Style Parent • Children not well adjusted; resentful • Feel neglected / abandoned, have  self-esteem • Lack self-control Child • Makes few demands • Low responsiveness to child • Detached from child, but fulfills his/her basic needs • In extreme cases parents REJECT or NEGLECT needs of child

  11. Authoritative Style Parent • Well adjusted children • Good decision makers • Independent, but seek help when needed • Happy • Capable • Successful Child • Very involved and responsive, but set limits • Supportive of child’s decisions • Child centered; foster independence • Guides and shows by example • Willing to discuss choices they or their child makes and the reasoning behind these choices • Disciplinary methods are nurturing & forgiving

  12. Parenting Styles Demandingness (control) Low High High Authoritative Permissive Responsiveness (involvement) Low Authoritarian Neglectful

  13. You can be a good parent…

  14. Tip 1: Talk and Listen • Talking and listening to your child helps them to understand what’s going on. • Do not expect the near impossible; be understanding.

  15. Tip 2: Understand Changes As They Grow • Exploring: • Independence: • Encouragement • Consider the age of child. Use age-appropriate methods

  16. Tip 3: Set Boundaries • Set Reasonable limits; do not set them too high or too low • Children need clear rules, boundaries and routine. • Word the instructions positively. • Be consistent. • If you make promises keep them. Be true to your word.

  17. Tip 4: Reward and Notice Good Behaviour • Rewards do not have to be material things. • Real praise and encouragement is the best reward as it can boost a child and build self-esteem and confidence

  18. Tip 5: Build Self Confidence • Help them to try out new things, make friends and cope with the upsets and problems they meet as they grow up.

  19. Tip 6: Have Realistic Expectations and Allow Consequences • Children are children. • They will be messy, noisy and, at times, disobedient.

  20. Give them the freedom to make mistakes. • Encourage your child to think for themselves and take responsibility for their actions. • Let the children know the consequences of their behaviour

  21. Tip 7: When Things Are Getting Difficult • Stay calm.

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  23. Think practically about the applicability of disciplinary actions, and let children know that you are serious. • Flexibility is fine – life can be chaotic and having a flexible approach will help your children learn to do the same.

  24. Do not punish accidents. • Give a second chance. • Let bygones be bygones.

  25. Remember • All children are unique.

  26. The most important thing is that your child feels loved and happy even when sometimes things are difficult

  27. THANK YOU…

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