Conducting Weddings

1. Conducting Weddings

2. Weddings: Before the Wedding • Know the Base, Post, Installation Chapel SOP • Preparation for marriage is a powerful teaching time for service member and spouse. • Have some standards in which you will implement as part of your willingness to marry your soldiers, airmen/women, sailors, coasties, and marines. • Make sure that they understand the sacred nature of being married in a chapel ceremony.

3. Weddings: Before the Wedding • Have some standards in which you will implement as part of your willingness to marry your soldiers, airmen/women, sailors, coasties, and marines. • Examples of standards: • Chastity • Pre-marital Counseling

4. Weddings: Before the Wedding • Pre-marital Counseling-Elements • Family History (Geno-gram) • Communication Styles • Intimacy • Expectations • Problem Solving (what is your style)/Conflict Resolution • Open Ended Questions • Wedding (process) How do they view a traditional wedding? • Some Installations will have programs for pre-marital counseling

5. Process of a Wedding • Irish Priest/ The Princess Bride /Watch Father of the Bride/ Saber Arch • Military Wedding • License to Perform Marriage Ceremony

6. Weddings: Steps in a Wedding Ceremony • Prelude Music is playing and guests are seated. Normally, special guests are last to be seated, i.e., escorted by the usher. Seated first grandparents, then parents of the groom, and lastly mother of the bride. Prelude time for mediation and thought. (Groom-Left/Bride Right) • Processional or Entrance Time for those in the wedding party to enter the sanctuary. Usually the groom and the best man enter with the chaplain. Groomsmen and Bridesmaids enter escorting one another. Maid of honor follows the bridesmaids, followed by the ring bearer and follower girl.

7. Weddings: Steps in a Wedding Ceremony • Processional or Entrance (Cont’d) After the flower girl there is a change in the music, the bride and her escort enter—All guests stand as the bride and her escort slowly walk down the aisle. The groom is watching the bride and escort come down the aisle. The escort hands off bride to groom and they approach the chaplain. • *The Greeting or Welcome from LDS Chaplain At this time I would like to welcome friends, and family members of John Doe and Sally May as we gather here together to celebrate in the sight of God and these witnesses this marriage. For me, it is indeed a privilege to be part of this sacred ceremony (You can have a prayer or not)

8. Weddings: Steps in a Wedding Ceremony • The Greeting or Welcome/Flows into Marriage Homily and or statement on marriage (remember this flow can change if there is special music, poems, or readings). • Areas the chaplain may review w/couple in giving counsel/Homily: (can be used to prepare homily) • Marriage is a sacred covenant • Joys of marriage: companionship, joy, trials, and tribulation • The purpose of marriage, i.e., this is a permanent relationship • Share a scripture—1 Corinthians 13:4-13, Faith, Hope, and Love, but the greatest of these is love.

9. Weddings: Steps in a Wedding Ceremony • Expound on the scripture, i.e., main point, how is this passage relate to their marriage. • Vows: Explain-significance of to include the importance of the ring: it’s color, covenant, circularity and the wearing of the ring. • General counsel: As influenced by the Spirit. • Before the homily, there may be special music, reading of a scripture, song, poems, etc. Once the chaplain begins his homily, he is in charge of the service to include the recessional (a arched saber ceremony may be added).

10. Weddings: Vows Church handbook #1 3.5.4 Please take each other by the right hand. Chaplain repeats the bride groom’s full name and the bride’s full name….You have taken one another by the right hand in token of the covenants you will now enter into in the presence of God and these witnesses. John Doe, do you take Sally Mae as your lawfully wedded wife, and do you of your own free will and choice covenant as her companion and lawfully wedded husband that you will cleave unto her and none else; that you will observe all the laws, covenants, and obligations pertaining to the holy state of matrimony; and that you will love, honor, and cherish her as long as you both shall live? Answer: Yes or I do.

11. Weddings: Conducting the Ceremony Church Handbook of Instructions 1 #3.5.4 Sally Mae, do you take John Doe as your lawfully wedded husband, and do you of your own free will and choice covenant as his companion and lawfully wedded wife that you will cleave unto him and none else; that you will observe all the laws, covenants, and obligations pertaining to the holy state of matrimony; and that you will love, honor , and cherish him as long as you both shall live? Answer: Yes or I do.

12. Weddings: Conducting the Ceremony Ring Ceremony After the I Do’s: (not in the church handbook of instructions) The chaplain invites the groom and bride to place the wedding ring on the ring finger of the left hand: Comments that are appropriate.

13. Weddings: Conducting the Ceremony Church Handbook of Instruction 3.5.4. By virtue of the legal authority vested in me as an elder of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and as a United States Military Chaplain, I pronounce you, John Doe and Sally Mae, husband and wife, legally and lawfully wedded for the period of your mortal lives. (Blessing/Benediction) May God bless your union with joy in your posterity and a long life of happiness together, and may He enable you to keep sacred the covenants you have made. These blessing I invoke upon you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen. You may kiss each other as husband and wife. Will the audience please rise, I present to you Mr. and Mrs. John and Sally Doe. (Recessional)