Korean Presbyterian Church of St. Louis

1. Korean Presbyterian Church of St. Louis

2. Temperament on the Myers-Briggs Scale

3. 2% 7% 2% 7% 9% 9% 27% 25% 18% 16% 2% 2% 2% 7% 0% 11% 2% 4%

4. 2% 6% 6% 6% 0% 6% 0% 6% 0% 6% 18% 0% 12% 6% 18% 12% 12% 18% 30%

5. Preferred Comfortable Easier Automatic Natural Smoother Familiar Non-Preferred Uncomfortable like a right handed person having to function with their left hand • Temperament: A person's normal, preferred manner of thinking, behaving or reacting.

6. Temperament Does Not Indicate. . . Psychiatric Factors Ministry potential Emotions Maturity Stress Level Intelligence Skill Level

7. Temperament Does Indicate your Preferred Ways of Thinking and Behaving And can help you to: • Understand your specific calling from God, • Relate to other people more effectively, • Contribute more fruitfully, • Be more focused and purposeful.

8. Temperament Studies Help You Understand the “Real You” as Intended by God

9. Divine Design Prevents Projection of Ourselves on Others We usually think others should relate, decide,communicate, and work in the same way as we.

10. The Source of Most Conflict

11. Temperament Studies Help Us Understand Relationships

12. Conflict in the Church Crowell (1990); Tharp (1984); Leas (1980) Causes of Conflict% of congregations • Powerful minority of members 71% • Congregational stress 52% • Conflict over values 38% • Doctrinal differences 25% • Pastor’s people skills 24%

13. “Love Languages” Gary Chapman Physical Touch Adventure Partner Gift Giving Deeds of Service Affirmation Brainstorm New Ideas Quality Time Join the Team

14. Temptations SENSUALITY DEBT ADDICTION RECKLESSNESS DISCRIMINATION CONTROL CONSUMERISM SELFISHNESS PEOPLE PLEASING CONFLICT - AVOIDANCE COMPETITIVENESS ARROGANCE ANXIETY FEAR OF REJECTION AMBITION FEAR OF FAILURE

15. Diagnostic Questions on the Myers-Briggs Scale Sensing Thinking Intuitive Feeling Sensing Feeling Intuitive Thinking 17% 43% 30% 10%

16. From where is your energy naturally derived? • Extraverts'energy is directed outward primarily, towards people and things outside of themselves. • Introverts'energy is primarily directed inward, towards their own thoughts, perceptions, and reactions.

17. Extraverts: Speak and then listen Prefer a public role Like to be around people a lot Prefer to do lots of things at once Introverts: Listen and then speak Prefer "behind-the-scenes” work Feel more comfort-able being alone Prefer to focus on one thing at a time

18. Extroverts Have high energy Can sometimes be easily distracted Think out loud Act then think Are outgoing and enthusiastic Introverts Have quiet energy Have good powers of concentration Think quietly inside their head Think then act Are self-contained and reserved

19. This tale of love and values unfolds in the class-conscious England of the late 1700’s. The five Bennet sisters include strong-willed Elizabeth (ENFJ). • A wealthy bachelor, Mr. Darcy (INTJ), takes up residence in a nearby mansion, but when Elizabeth meets up with the prideful Mr. Darcy, the battle is joined.

20. Extrovert (Elizabeth) Introvert (Mr. Darcy) Elizabeth Bennet Mr. Darcy

22. 2. What kind of information do you notice and remember? • Sensors notice the facts, details, and realities of the world around them. • Intuitives are more interested in patterns, relationships between facts as well as the meaning, or possibilities of the information.

23. Intuition Sensing “Look at that fabulous house” “This would make a great safari park”

24. Sensors: Like practical solutions Notice each element that makes up the whole Live in the here-and-now Like step-by-step instructions Intuitives: Admire creative ideas Notice anything new, different or what does not fit Think about future implications Like to figure things out for themselves

25. Sensors Focus on the finer points Trust actual experience Like to use established skills Are pragmatic - see what is Work steadily Intuitives Focus on ideas and the big picture Trust their gut instincts Prefer to learn new skills Are imaginative - see what could be Work in bursts

26. Looks at information from a global perspective, identifying patterns and relationships, then applies Deductive Reasoning iNtuitive Principle The Forest Systematic Theology Inductive Reasoning Sensing Conclusion The Trees Biblical Theology Looks at facts and details that provide information to explain the world

27. Sensors with strong grounding in reality can make Intuitives feel impractical and unobservant Intuitives with quick insights can make Sensors feel slow and mundane Type Differences in Close Relationships (S vs. N) How about a wild garden instead? Let me fix it….

28. Intuitive types benefit from Sensing types: • They enjoy good experiences, focus on pertinent facts, reality. • Sensing types benefit from Intuitive types: “I’ve just had a great idea for next week’s meeting” “FANTASTIC!” • New possibilities, future trends, long-term goals.

29. 3. How do you decide or come to conclusions? • Thinkers make decisions based primarily on objective and impersonal criteria —what makes the most sense and what is logical. • Feelers decide primarily on issues of harmony, empathy and relational dynamics.

30. Thinkers: Make decisions objectively Take few things personally Are more straight-forward and direct Argue or debate issues for fun Feelers: Decide based on relationships Take many things personally Are diplomatic and tactful Avoid arguments and conflicts

31. Thinkers Value honesty and fairness Appear cool and reserved Are motivated by achievement Are most convinced by rational arguments Feelers Value harmony and compassion Appear warm and friendly Are quick to compliment others Are motivated by appreciation

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35. Feeling Types can Improve Relationships with Thinking Types by: • Stating their wishes clearly so that the Thinking type does not have to guess about their needs and desires • Learning to differentiate between the Thinker’s intended critical assessments that sound like personal criticism • but are merely impersonal observations from the viewpoint of the Thinker

36. Mutual Helpfulness • F types benefit from T types: • Consequences, critical feedback, stand firm, fair. • T types benefit from F types: • How others feel, praise, teach and coach, harmony

37. 4. What environment is best for you? • Judgers prefer a struct- ured, ordered, and fairly predictable environment, where they can make settleddecisions. • Perceivers prefer to experience as much of the world as possible by keeping their options open and by adapting.

38. Judgers: Make decisions quickly Pay attention to time and are prompt Flourish with schedules Want things decided Perceivers: Make decisions deliberately Are less aware of time and run late Want to keep their options open Want spontaneity

39. Judgers Work first, play later See the need for most rules Like to make and stick with plans Prefer to finish projects Perceivers Play first, work later Question the need for many rules Like to keep plans flexible Prefer to start projects

40. Where are You? • Flexible Focused P J J P Rigid Ambiguous

41. In 1957 in a mining town called Coalwood, Homer Hickam is inspired when the first artificial satellite, Sputnik goes into orbit. With that event, Homer becomes determined to learn how to build rockets.

42. Homer Hickam: JudgmentFriends: Perceiving Homer Friends

44. Phil (P) and Rebecca (R) Douglass E I S N T F J P P P P P R R R R

45. Douglass’ Temperament on the Myers-Briggs Inventory | P | P | P P Monday morning Sunday morning E I Conversing with Rebec S N Conversing with Kara T F Sermon prep Relaxing J P

46. Four different types of people Sensing Feeling Thinking Intuition

47. Personality Type—INFJ • Understanding the feelings and motivations of others. • Finding creative ways for people to accomplish tasks, making the process enjoyable. • Modeling integrity and follow through. • Lending future oriented ideas to planning and development.

48. MBTI Guesses by Douglass 10% ISFP ISTJ 34% 5% ESFJ 5% ENFJ 5% ENTJ 10% INFJ 14% INTJ INTP 14% 5% ENFP 10% INFP

49. 2% 7% 2% 7% 9% 9% 27% 25% 18% 16% 2% 2% 2% 7% 0% 11% 2% 4%

50. 2% 6% 6% 6% 0% 6% 0% 6% 0% 6% 18% 0% 12% 6% 18% 12% 12% 18% 30%