Marriage and Family Headship of Christ God’s Plan for Family

1. Marriage and FamilyHeadship of Christ God’s Plan for Family Rev. Dan Domke

2. Introduction • Headship of Christ is God’s Plan For the Family

3. Topics of Discussion • The Traditional Marriage • The Egalitarian Marriage • Singleness • Relationships out side of Christ

4. Traditional Marriage- Leadership or Headship • Headship Chain - I Corinthians 11:3 • Husband Ephesians 5:23 • Male sex role identification Deut. 22:5

5. Egalitarian Marriage- Leadership or Headship • No Leader • Galatians 3:28 abuse of “Order of Redemption” • Mark 10:6-9 “Created male and female”. Created different.

6. Singleness- Leadership or Headship • Christ is the only leader or head assumes adult single children would be under their parents. • I Corinthians 7:32-34 • Live to please only the Lord. • Not concerned about pleasing husband or wife, or care of children. Totally give to service the Lord full time in their vocation.

7. Relationships Out Side of Christ- No Leadership or Headship • Matriarchy • Co habitation (living together without the benefit of marriage). • Homosexuality • Gays • Lesbians • Bi-Sexual • Trans gender

8. Traditional Marriage - Submission • Wife – • Ephesians 5:22-24 • Colossians 3:18 • Titus 2:5 • I Peter 3:1 • I Timothy 2:11

9. Egalitarian - Submission • No submission in home or mutual submission. • Ephesians 5:21 • Note context and progression

10. Singleness - Submission • Parents – How long? • Son- Genesis 2:24 • Daughter Numbers 30:3ff • Numbers 1:3 & Numbers 4:3 • Submits to Church Hebrews 13:17 • Submits to Church I Peter 5:5

11. Relationships Out Side of Christ-Submission • Ruled by Satan and Sinful Flesh • Romans 1:27ff • Romans 8:20-21 I Corinthians 6:9-11 • John 16:11 • Ephesians 6:12

12. Traditional Marriage-Economics and Division of Labor • Husband has responsibility, wife helps • Genesis 2:15 &18 • Proverbs 31 • Ecclesiastes 3:10 • Genesis 3:17-19 • Acts 18:3 • Titus 2:5 • I Timothy 3:4; 5:14

13. Egalitarian – Economics and Division of Labor • Equally shared • Responsible for income and home • More expensive

14. Singleness –Economics and Division of Labor • Total responsibility. • Less expensive

15. Out side of Christ – Economics and Division of Labor • Varies

16. Traditional Marriage – Government • Submission to all authority - I Peter 2:13-16 • Submission to the State - Romans 13:1 ff • Fourth Commandment – Exodus 20:12

17. Egalitarian – Government • Distorted image of sex role. • Inadequate sex role model.

18. Singleness – Government No direct role model required except in the church

19. Out side of Christ – Government • No authority recognized • Except for self • Romans 1:18

20. Traditional Marriage-Children • More likely – I Timothy 3:4-5 • More easily managed – Eph. 6:1-4; Col. 3:20-21, Ps. 127: 3-5 • Both parents equal in the image of God – Genesis 1:27, Malachi 2:15; see Philippians 2:5-9

21. Egalitarian – Children • Less welcome • No clear authority • Creates discipline problems • Less time for children but more money is available.

22. Singleness – Children • Relationship with Christian Aunts & Uncles, Teachers, Pastors, other Christian authorities. • John 21:15 • Completes image of God.

23. Out Side of Christ – Children • Emotionally damaged

24. Traditional Marriage – Purity • Faithful marriage more likely • Less stress and conflict • Related to attitude towards scripture • See – Matthew 5:27-28 • See – Matthew 15:19-20

25. Egalitarian Marriage-Purity • If scripture is used will disregard headship principle • Will follow situational ethics • More likely to dismiss God’s standards.

26. Singleness – Purity • More difficult…? • I Corinthians 6:18 • Yet, greater Grace? [gift of celibacy] • Matthew 19:10 • I Corinthians 7:8, 27 • I Timothy 4:3 • Revelation 14:4

27. Outside of Christ-Purity • Impure by biblical definition • Ephesians 5:5-7

28. Traditional Marriage – Abuses-Effects of sin within worlds point of attack. • Tyrannical husbands- demand obedience • Desertion of economically weak wife. • Withholding emotional supports. • Money (husband) used as weapon • Sex (Wife) used as weapon

29. Egalitarian Marriage – Abuses Effects of sin within worlds points of attack. • Selfishness not modified by role expectations. • Constant power plays. • Easier for women to fall into sin, not protected. They are missing their spiritual covering, [Christian] spiritual husband is a protection for wife and children from spiritual attack. Done by use of Word and prayer.

30. Singleness – Abuses Effects of sin within worlds points of attack. • Self-centeredness • No mate as corrective

31. Outside of Christ – Abuses Effects of sin within worlds points of attack. • Rampant effects of carnality • Living in the flesh • Cravings of the sinful man • Boasting of what one has • Lust of eyes • Forbidden sexual activities • I John 2:15

32. Traditional Marriage – Stability • Good track record • Security in defined roles • Expectation of success • God’s hierarchy works • Proverbs 27:7-8

33. Egalitarian Marriage-Stability • Social order disintegrating with this model • More emphasis on self • Wife has more options and more stress and pressures.

34. Singleness -Stability • What does Paul mean by “on account of the present distress”? • I Corinthians 7:26

35. Out side of Christ – Stability • Very little stability • Normally very promiscuous

36. Traditional Marriage – Spiritual Growth (eternal) • Help one another • Colossians 3:16 • Ephesians 5:25-28 (Wife) • I Peter 3:7 (Husband) • Joints heirs – Isaiah 57:15 • Will give spiritual protection and proper biblical direction.

37. Egalitarian Marriage – Spiritual Growth (eternal) • Can help one another but disobedience thwarts growth. • I Corinthians 11:10 • Proper authority gives spiritual protection and direction.

38. Singleness- Spiritual Growth (eternal) • Great opportunity for spiritual growth • If single minded as well as single

39. Out side of Christ – Spiritual Growth (eternal) • No Christian growth • No Biblical spirituality • Open to New Age? • Open to deception? • Open to false spiritual teachings. • Inclined to secular humanism and cosmic humanism.

40. Traditional Marriage –Personal Growth (Temporal) • Husband will achieve most • “Known at the Gates” Proverbs 30:25 • Genesis 2:23 Wife has more leisure options

41. Egalitarian Marriage – Personal Growth (Temporal) • Husband more limited by time demands. • Luke 9:24-25 • Wife achieves more temporal goals • Need to weight these goals eternally

42. Singleness – Personal Growth (Temporal) • Only limit are distractions • Energy expended in looking for growth opportunities.

43. Out side of Christ – Personal Growth (Temporal). • Limited on basis of limited vision because of secular world views. • Limited within context secular humanism. • Limited inspiration, thinking limited or distorted by secular world view

44. Traditional Marriage – Efficiency • Most efficient • Chain of command clear • Specialization • Concentration of effort for each person

45. Egalitarian Marriage – Efficiency • Less efficient • Constant negotiation • Scattered energies • Indecisions • Demands more time

46. Singleness – Efficiency • Motivation more difficult • No impediments • But no helper either • Hard to minister at home

47. Out side of Christ – Efficiency • Very inefficient • Much wasted time

48. Traditional Marriage – Satisfaction “Happiness Quotient” • Peace in home – Luke 10: • Servant – spirit is from Christ • Deep happiness • Philippians 2:2-8, Psalm 113:9

49. Egalitarian Marriage – Satisfaction “Happiness Quotient” • Uneasiness • Restless giving tends to be trade offs • Relationship of partners rather than lovers.

50. Singleness – Satisfaction “Happiness Quotient” • Shorter Life for bachelors • Loneliness • Lack of children • Yet, joy of total devotion to Christ.