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HELP FOR CHILDREN FROM DYSFUNCTIONAL HOMES. It’s a family that doesn’t satisfy the necessities of its members , nor promote the integral development of each one . WHAT IS A “ DYSFUNCTIONAL ” HOME?. In a D ysfunctional Home….
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It’s a familythatdoesn’tsatisfythenecessities of itsmembers, norpromotethe integral development of eachone. WHAT IS A “DYSFUNCTIONAL” HOME?
In a Dysfunctional Home… First, theparentsdon’tfulfilltheirown roles as parents; they’renothealthy & happy. Thus, thekids are aloof/stunted in theirowngrowth, as parentshaven’tencouraged & modeledtypicaldevelopment & behaviors.
Beforewe look at theprofile of a dysfunctional home, let’s look at theprofile of FUNCTIONAL home. WHAT IS THE PROFILE OF A “DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME?”
*Familyrelationships are clearlyestablished and are positive forallthemembers.*Thefamilydynamicspermitfordevelopment of a personal identity and autonomyforallitsmembers. PROFILE OF A FUNCTIONAL HOME:
*Favoritism, partiality, and “unspoken alliances” don’t exist. * Family limits are clear, and everyone is secure within them. Roles are clearly defined. *There’s a process for communication and conflict resolution that is clear and permits quick restoration of members. PROFILE OF A FUNCTIONAL HOME…
* There is empathy. * There is emotional support. * Family members are able to recognize & resolve personal issues through open, clear, and direct conversations. PROFILE OF A FUNCTIONAL HOME…
* There is little regard given to the feelings and opinions of others.* Generally, these people are psychologically rigid, bossy, critical, and easily discouraged. IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME…
There is no “reconciliatory attitude”* There’s a climate of DENIAL. ¿ IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME… ?
* No oneknowshowtoopenlydiscussproblemsthat come up in thefamily. Ifproblemsreoccur, themethodistodenyor “stuff” theproblems.*Thereisdisorder and confusion in eachperson’s individual roles. IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME…
* Limits are notrespected. IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME…
-Parentsmaybemarried, separated/divorced, butraised in dysfunctionalhomesthemselves.-Parentsdon’tfulfillthe role properly; many times single parents become dictators.-Parentsdon’tpermitproperdevelopment of theirchildrentoindividuate, become theirownperson. PARENTAL CHARACTERISTICS OF DYSFUNCTIONAL HOMES
-Their homes are characterized by an infinite number of rules and inflexible norms.- Thesedysfunctionalparentsdon’tcommunicate, they MANDATE.- One or both parents explode on the child or treat him as if s/he were a possession. PARENTAL CHARACTERISTICS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME
HOW DO WE DESCRIBE A CHILD FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME? Childrenfromthesetypes of homeshavedifficultydevelopingemotionally and socially. There are 3 rulesthatpermeate and dominatedysfunctionalhomes. Theyinfiltrate and moldtheminds of thesechildren. What are they?
THE 3 RULES IN A DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME ARE: DON’T SPEAK DON’T FEEL DON’T TRUST THE 3 RULES:
CHILDREN FROM DYSFUNCTIONAL HOMES… TEND toadoptcertain “roles” of howtofunctionwithothers.
THE “ROLES” A DYSFUNCTIONAL CHILD LEARNS ARE: -The “good or perfect” child. -The “black sheep” or problem child.
ANOTHER ROLE A CHILD LEARNS… • BE A PEACE-MAKER- • & DON’T “ROCK THE BOAT”
LASTLY…A CHILD FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME LEARNS: • TRY TO WIN LOVE & APPROVAL BY SUCCEEDING IN SCHOOL
PRINCIPLE 1Itistheparents’ responsibilitytoformtheirchild’spersonality, NOT YOURS. AS TEACHERS, LET’S LOOK AT SOME GENERAL PRINCIPLES…
PRINCIPLE 2: OUR JOB IS TO PROVIDE ACADEMIC EDUCATION. GENERAL PRINCIPLES-CONTINUED
PRINCIPLE 3:AS EDUCATORS, WE STILL MUST REMEMBER WE HAVE AN INFLUENCE ON OUR STUDENTS & WE SHOULD BE GOOD EXAMPLES IN WORD, DEED, & LIFESTYLE. GENERAL PRINCIPLES-CONT’D. ?
PRINCIPLE 4 “YOUR ACTIONS & ATTITUDES SPEAK LOUDER THAN YOUR WORDS.” GENERAL PRINCIPLES – CONT’D.
PRINCIPLE 5SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. GENERAL PRINCIPLES – CONT’D.
PRINCIPLE 6Theteacher’s personal and emotionalmaturityis CRUCIAL themoment a dysfunctionalstudentisprovokedortemptedto “meltdown” publicly. GENERAL PRINCIPLES- CONT’D.
PRINCIPLE 7-9-Theteacheris a facilitator of learning,not a “jack of alltrades.”- Encouragethestudenttosee a schoolcounselororpsychologist.- Teacher’sgoalshould be toenlistparents as stakeholdersfortheirchild’swellbeing AND academicsuccess. ¿ A FEW LAST PRINCIPLES…cont’d: ?
…whentospeak…whentonotgiveadvice……whento listen. A TEACHER SHOULD KNOW…
Withallyou do in teaching, rememberthefollowing… KNOWING & APPLYING
* Encouragethe art of active, involvedlistening. * Acceptoneanother’sdifferences, viewpoints, and faults, withoutpassingjudgment. * CELEBRATE eachperson’sindividuality! YOU MUST STRIVE TO:
* Demonstrate and encourageinteractivelessonsonewithanother. * Plan, encourage, & enjoysharingand workingtogether!* Encouragehonesty and sincerityamongstudents and teachers. KNOW & APPLY…lastly,
References • Lamar, S., & Gatfield, T. (2007). The early impact program: An early intervention and prevention program for children and families at-risk of conduct problems. Journal of Early and Intensive Behavior Intervention, 4(4), 703-713. • Kayfitz, A.D., Gragg, M.N. & Orr, R. (2010). Positive experiences of mothers and fathers of children with autism. Journal of Applied Research in Intellectual Disabilities, 23(4), 337-343.
References-Cont’d • Samms, G. (2012). Causes and effects of the dysfunctional family. Retrieved January 10, 2012 at: http://www.elium.com/items/849180-causes-and-effects-of-the-dysfunctional-family/print. • Suarez, Gonzalo. (2011). Ayuda real a ninosquevienen de hogaresdisfuncionales. Presented at ConferenciaInternacionalparaEducadores, 12 march 2011. Quito,Ecuador.
References – Cont’d. • Sugbu, L. (2012). Causes and effects of the dysfunctional family. Retrieved from Helium, Inc. on January 15, 2012 at: http://www.elium.com/items/.../print.