Practicing High Sex A report on Margo Anand’s The Art of Sexual Ecstacy

1. Practicing High SexA report on Margo Anand’sThe Art of Sexual Ecstacy by Natalie Royster FHS 20xxx-999 2011

2. What is “High Sex”? High Sex is the term used by the author to describe a path to sexual ecstasy. • It is attainable by anyone • Combines many practices and teachings in a modern and accessible way • Connects the mind, body and spirit through sexual union • Is a contemporary practice of Tantric Sex • Teaches techniques and rituals to enhance the sexual experience

3. Tantric Lessons • Begin with self-love • Let go of guilt • Enjoy spontaneity • Cultivate pleasure • Quiet the mind • Focus on the practice, not the outcome

4. Honoring the Body Anand believes in treating your body as a temple in order to fully enjoy Higher Sex. Trying to fit into a “stereotypical ideal” is unhealthy, and not advised. However, the author recommends that you “achieve optimum physical well-being though a healthy diet, physical exercise, deep breathing, and relaxation.”

5. The Inner Lover The first lesson in High Love is the cultivation of your “Inner Lover.” Before you can truly love another, and experience ecstasy, you must first love yourself. Exercises to achieve self-love include: • “Breath of Life” • A conscious breathing technique to calm and focus the mind • “Awakening Your Inner Lover” • A visualization exercise focusing on self-acceptance • “Heart Salutation” • A ritual honoring the “Inner Lover” with a partner

6. Self Pleasuring Through innocent childhood explorations, we become aware of how good it can feel to touch our genitals. However, many of us are discouraged or even shamed for such behavior. Anand believes that these feelings of guilt linger on, and can inhibit our ability to express ourselves sexually as adults. In order to repair feelings of guilt try the following: • Examine your genitals with a mirror • Explore what you find pleasurable alone • Masturbate while your partner watches or masturbates themself

7. Creating a Sacred Space High Sex should be explored in a “Sacred Space” to add dimension to the art of lovemaking. This space can be created in any room by simply removing clutter and adding sensual touches such as candles, plants, and music.

8. Enhancing Intimacy Many feel that the ultimate expression of intimacy is sex. However, sex does not create intimacy. Rather, creating intimacy allows for better sex. Some ways to promote intimacy include: • “Sensory awakening” • A ritual to enhance sensory experiences such as taste, smell, touch and sound. • “Dancing Gods” • A ceremonious sensual dance. • “Soul Gazing” • A shared meditation in which you gaze at your partner.

9. To cultivate trust and deepen closeness, couples are encouraged to discuss fears and describe fantasies and shared sexual experiences with one another. It is important that each person is able to speak freely and openly without fear of judgment. Trust and Closeness

10. “Expanding Orgasm” Readers are encouraged to explore their partners bodies through manual stimulation and massage, using a variety of techniques to help each other experience a variety of orgasms.

11. Types of Orgasms Female Orgasms Male Orgasms • Clitoral • Vaginal (or G-Spot) • “Blended” • Involving clitoral & vaginal stimulation • Anal • With Ejaculation • Without Ejaculation • Multiple Orgasms • Penile • Prostatic • “Blended” • Involving penile and prostatic stimulation • Anal • With Ejaculation • Without Ejaculation • Multiple Orgasms

12. “Riding the Tiger” One of the most important principles of Tantric Sex is delayed ejaculation for men. The method of delaying ejaculation involves redirecting the orgasmic energy from the genitals, up through the body; a practice the Taoists refer to as “Riding the Tiger.” While this may seem contrary to what many have learned, there are many benefits for both partners. By delaying ejaculation, the man can focus on guiding his partner through multiple orgasms. Furthermore, when he does finally ejaculate, the orgasm is much stronger.

13. Ecstasy for Women Contrary to the recommendation for men, women are encouraged to experience multiple orgasms. Some ways to help achieve this are: • Manual stimulation • Oral sex • Trying new positions • Changing positions frequently

14. Summary This book is a great guide for couples and individuals to expand their sexual experience. Readers are guided through exercises to develop love for themselves, and expand their sexuality through self-pleasure. Couples enhance their sex lives by creating a special room in which to make love, and by opening up to each other and discussing their desires. Finally, sex is taken to new levels of excitement when men delay their orgasm while focusing on helping their partner achieve multiple orgasms. This is achieved, in part by expanding the couples repertoire of sexual positions, and practices.