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Overcoming Career Indecisiveness

Overcoming Career Indecisiveness. A WORKSHOP FOR LAWYERS ABOUT CAREER DECISION MAKING. What causes Indecisiveness?. “Waiting for something to come up”-this is a passive approach-nothing will come up-you must be proactive

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Overcoming Career Indecisiveness

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  1. Overcoming Career Indecisiveness • A WORKSHOP FOR LAWYERS ABOUT CAREER DECISION MAKING

  2. What causes Indecisiveness? • “Waiting for something to come up”-this is a passive approach-nothing will come up-you must be proactive • “Looking for the perfect option”-perfectionism is a neurosis not a desirable belief-it will result in endless procrastination • “Fear of change-this will look bad on my resume” change is normal and necessary in a legal career especially in the first few years

  3. What causes Indecisiveness? • “Living in potential”-having a number of options but not following up on any of them • “Hoping it will get better over time”-frustration, disappointment and anger is the universe telling you a change is needed-getting used to suffering is not helpful • “Hoping for a blinding flash of inspiration”-this happens in movies not real life-you will find out buy doing some inner work and taking action • “Over thinking the Situation”-many lawyers think that if they think about it enough an answer will appear-you need to act your way into a new way of thinking not think your way into a new way of acting • The best way to learn about a new career or practicing a different type of law is to talk to people already doing it

  4. “Too bad to stay but too good to leave” • If you are in this situation a real decision has to be made-not a pseudo decision • Many people have a hard time making decisions • Obsessing and ruminating are 1.symptoms of poor decision making ability 2.trying to think your way out of the situation 3. ways of avoiding fear and risk 4. looking for the perfect decision5 hoping to avoid consequences of your decision

  5. Real Decisions • Translate thought into decisive action • Break through inhibition and paralysis • Success is directly proportional to the willingness to make decisions • Chronic procrastination is a result of abdication of decision-making

  6. Abdication • Will severely limit accomplishment in any area of our lives • i.e.-indecision about career change-fear of change vs. value of change • Results in a deadening of self • Parts of ourselves are unavailable to be felt, reached, or used

  7. Real Decisions • A free,unconditional,total and personal commitment to a choice or option • Involve logic and feelings • A full commitment to one road only • Enhance self esteem • Increase self confidence

  8. Pseudodecisions • Appear to be a decision but are not • Paralysis, undermining commitment and avoiding con flicting feelings are all forms of indecision • Procrastination is often really a form of indecisiveness • Ambivalence-”waiting for something to turn up” or" no choice is quite right”

  9. Pseudecisions-2 • Impulse Moves • Letting someone else decide • Rebellious Decisions • One foot in - One foot out • Ruminating about the past

  10. Decision Exercise • Write 3 decisions you have recently made that feel like “real” decisions to you • Write 3 decisions you need to make, but are having trouble with. • What do you believe is getting in the way of making these decisions? • Think- Pair -Share

  11. Decision Blockers • Losing touch with feelings • Resignation-avoiding anxiety • Confused or absence of, priorities • Poor self esteem • Hopelessness/Depression • Unrealistic self image • Self Erasing/obsessive need to be liked • Perfectionism-common with Lawyers

  12. Decision Blockers-2 • Wanting it all-Malignant belief that if you make no choice you will have a chance to have it all • Illustration-A 4 year old in a Toy Store-You can have 1 toy! • All decisions involve some form of payment-i.e.... discarded choices

  13. Decision Blockers-3 • Something better will come along • Fear of self hate due to a bad choice-need to be right • Coulda,Woulda,Shoulda-berating the self • Option Blindness • Time pressure distortion • Impaired judgment

  14. The Big Fact • In very few instances is one decision actually better than another • The substance of the decision is less important than the process • A choice works by reason of the amount of investment and energy put into it by decision maker • The decision maker makes or breaks the decision according to the strength or weakness of the commitment and loyalty to the choice • Decision failure is really a lack of dedicated commitment to the choice

  15. Priorities • The position of life’s issues on our personal scale of importance • Tell us about our values • Being out of touch with our priorities results in chaotic decisions • Some priorities are not fully conscious • Honesty with self is critical here • Priority exercise

  16. Eight Stages of Decision Making 1.Listing and observing all the possibilities, options or choices -not a time for judgment -perfectionism is dangerous here 2.Sustaining a free flow of feelings and thoughts about each of the possible choices 3.Observing thoughts and feelings about each of the options and applying those feelings

  17. Eight Stages of Decision Making-2 4.Relating choices to established priorities -i.e. buying a car-money,ownership,prestige,aesthetics,comfort,integrety,peace of mind etc. 5.Designating one choice; Discarding those not chosen -will “feel right” -tough part is letting go of other choices

  18. Eight Stages of Decision Making-3 6.Registering the decision -dangerous stage for obsessive ruminator 7.Investing the decision with committed feelings,thoughts,time and energy. -Must absoposativamalutely let go of nonchosen options 8.Translating the decision into optimistic action -must invest loyalty and optimism about the decision

  19. Decision Success • Know your priorities • Establishing realistic goals and expectations • Knowing there is always a price to pay • Recognizing major personal assets • Knowing and exploring your proclivities • Getting over fear of rejection and failure

  20. Decision Success-2 • Leaving- is non involving/Going to- is involving the self • Conditions are always imperfect • Moods make a difference • Accepting some ambivalence • Accepting some insecurity and anxiety • Interest comes after involvement • Integrated concentration

  21. Decision Success-3 • Profiting from other peoples experience and help • Delegating responsibility • Effective use of time • Insight,motivation,discipline • Postponement of gratification • Value of struggle

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