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Preparing Your Teens For College

Preparing Your Teens For College. Alex Chediak Preparing Your Teens For College TCCCC – April 26, 2014. Six Areas Covered in My Book. Character Faith Relationships Academics Finances The College Decision. Parenting Young Adults: Two Mistakes.

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Preparing Your Teens For College

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  1. Preparing Your Teens For College Alex Chediak Preparing Your Teens For College TCCCC – April 26, 2014

  2. Six Areas Covered in My Book Character Faith Relationships Academics Finances The College Decision

  3. Parenting Young Adults: Two Mistakes • As our children grow up, we gradually lose control. • Two poor responses: • Under-parenting • Over-parenting • What should we do?

  4. Aim for Moral Authority and Influence Positional authority is not the same as moral authority. Positional authority is ultimately weaker than moral authority. Moral authority gives you influence where it counts. As you’re losing control, you want to be gaining influence.

  5. The Authority/Influence Continuum (Graph from Tedd Tripp) Influence Positional Authority Age: 0 18

  6. Use Influence To Shape Their Character Cultivating Responsibility Understanding cause and effect Taking initiative Continuous learning Faithfulness in small things  larger responsibilities Smallthings provide a safe place for them to fail, and grow, which also prepares them for the future.

  7. Training Teens to Be Future-Oriented Delaying Gratification No successful person always does what they want to do in the moment. This requires a vision for their teen years.

  8. A Vision For Teen Life • Popular culture: Teens are slaves to their passions and inherently irresponsible. • Biblical and historical view: Teenagers are adults in the making, apprentices in need of mentoring and modeling. • Example of David • Teens need training.

  9. Adults Delay Gratification “Dominate your responsibilities or they will dominate you.” “I passed by the field of a sluggard, by the vineyard of a man lacking sense, and behold, it was all overgrown with thorns; the ground was covered with nettles, and its stone wall was broken down.” (Prov. 24:30-31) Stanford University marshmallow experiment.

  10. Understand the Relationship Between Work and Play The world’s view: “work is a necessary evil.” The problem with school work is that it cuts into my free time. (TGIF – live for weekend) God’s view: Play is meant to be a necessary but temporary refreshment to rejuvenate us for going back into our God-appointed labors.

  11. Help Youth Develop a Biblical Appreciation of Recreation • Recreation is essential (Ps. 127:1). • Recreation should be limited. • Recreation should be intentional. • Recreation should empower us for our work, not distract us from it.

  12. Financial Preparation For Your Teen College means they’ll have more spending opportunities than ever. Give them increasing levels of financial responsibility as they grow up. If your teen struggles with spending, better for them to learn their lessons now (with small figures) than later (with bigger figures). Daniel’s story.

  13. Give Teens an Understanding of Stewardship God owns everything. We’re managers. God gives us the ability to gain wealth. Employment is about helping others flourish. Receiving money is a by-product.

  14. Teach Them Budgeting Skills May not need them now but they will need them eventually. Skill is developed by experiencing the connection between their earning, their spending, their saving, and their giving. Can earn $ at home or outside home. Can give them allowance for specific items. Example: Jason and the expensive mini-disk.

  15. Keeping Expenses in Check at College Housing prices vary. Meal plans vary. Limit recreation expenses. Avoid credit cards. Borrow, rent, or buy used textbooks. Transportation costs.

  16. Earning Money During College Leverage skills. Prioritize academics. Good rule to start – no more than 10-15 hours/week during the semester. If money an issue, focus on earning during the summer and breaks. Note: FAFSA favors work study and co-ops.

  17. So what about student loans? They feellike gifts. There’s no collateral. They can’t be discharged in bankruptcy. They’re not proportional to the risk level a student represents. Average student loan balance at graduationis growing faster than the average starting salary!

  18. Therefore… Avoid debt the first year. If needed, live with parents/relatives. Work part time. If you borrow, consider future earnings prospects.

  19. In Conclusion.. Preparing your teens for college is preparing them for life. Character and maturity are the foundation for success. Character and maturity most readily flow from a God-mastered life. Financial stewardship is a subset of responsible living.

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