Bullying

1. Parent Workshop: Bullying

2. Bullying defined: Bullying is when someone intentionally and repeatedly hurts another person. There are 3 things present in bullying situations… • An imbalance of power (size, strength, or even social status) • Intent to harm • A repeated behavior. More than one time.

3. 4 Types of Bullying Behavior • Physical • Harm to a person or property • Verbal • Taunting, name-calling, threats • Relational Aggression • Harm to someone’s self esteem or group acceptance • Cyberbullying • Use of technology to harass or intimidate

5. Bullying is NOT… • Normal • A rite of passage • Ever the target’s fault

6. Teasing, Conflict, or Bullying? • Teasing • Everyone involved is having fun • Can be inappropriate for school, but everyone is participating equally and nobody is getting hurt. • Conflict • Can be physical or verbal, but there is no difference in power. • A problem, a fight, an argument • Bullying • Someone is intentionally hurting another person physically or emotionally. • The people involved are not usually friends and the power is unequal.

7. Which is it? You decide.Teasing? Conflict? Bullying?

8. Normal Conflict vs Bullying Normal conflict/mean behavior • Equal power or are friends • Happens occasionally • Accidental • Not serious • Equal emotional reaction • Not seeking power • Remorse-will take responsibility • Effort to solve the problem Bullying • Imbalance of power • Repeated negative actions • Intentional • Physical or emotional harm • Unequal emotional reaction • Seeking control/material things • No remorse-blames target • No effort to solve the problem

9. Warning Signs that your child may be a target to bullies • Frequently teased, taunted belittled, ridiculed, intimidated threatened, dominated or subdued • Has a derogatory nickname • Regularly has bruises or injuries that can’t be explained • Has belongings taken or damaged • Few or no close friends at school • Frequently socially isolated • Less assertive or lacks the skills to respond to others’ teasing or harassment • Appears weak or easily dominated • Tries to stay close to a teacher or other adult at recess or breaks

10. Talk with your Child Research tells us that children really do look to parents and caregivers for advice and help on tough decisions. Sometimes spending 15 minutes a day talking can reassure kids that they can talk to their parents if they have a problem. Start conversations about daily life and feelings with questions like these: • What was one good thing that happened today? Any bad things? • What is lunch time like at your school? Who do you sit with? What do you talk about? • What is it like to ride the school bus? • What are you good at? What do you like best about yourself?

11. What to do if your child is being bullied… • Talk with your child • If your child is being bullied, they need to have a voice in how the situation is handled. • Contact the school • Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counselor. • Develop a plan for keeping your child safe, particularly during vulnerable times (class breaks, lunch, recess). • Find out what activities or counseling options are available for your child.

12. Bullying @ MES • Survey given to 4th-8th grade • 20 out of 142 students reported being bullied • About 14% of students surveyed • Out of the 20 students who reported being bullied… • 12 reported being bullied VERBALLY • 7 reported being bullied RELATIONALLY • 2 reported being bullied PHYSICALLY (pushing, shoving, making them drop their books)

13. MES Bullying Policy • Everyone has a right to feel safe, respected, and to learn! • Encourages reporting by : • Students • Parents • Teachers • Administration • Bullying Concern Form

14. What about the Bully? • Studies show that children identified as bullies by age 8 are six times more likely to be convicted of a crime by age 24. Brewster & Railsback • 60% of kids characterized as bullies in the 6th-9th grade had at least one criminal conviction by age 24. Brewster & Railsback • Bullies are five times more likely to end up with a serious criminal record by age 30. National Association of School Psychologists

15. Factors associated with Bullying Family Factors • Lack of attention and warmth • Modeling of aggressive behavior at home • Poor supervision Individual Factors • Active, impulsive personality • Lack of empathy for others • Craves attention and approval from others School • School climate is perceived as uncaring or indifferent • Teachers/staff unaware or unclear of bullying definitions or how to respond

16. Warning Signsthat your child may be bullying others • Frequent name-calling • Regular bragging • A need to always get his/her own way • Spending more time with younger or less powerful kids • A lack of empathy for others • A defiant or hostile attitude; easily takes offense • Frequent misbehavior at school

17. What To Do if you suspect your child may be bullying others • Talk with your child • Never condone bullying behavior; speak up and tell your child that the behavior they are engaging in is considered bullying. • Encourage empathy for others • Remind your child that everyone has a right to be themselves, to choose their own friends and to feel safe at school. • Review consequences of bullying behavior • Both discipline consequences and relationship consequences • Reinforce respectful behaviors at home • Help your child deal with feelings in positive ways • Contact the school for help • Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counselor. • Develop a plan for change.

18. Run Away Pepper Trick

21. Encouraging Students to be Upstanders

22. [teachers, students, parents] TOGETHER… We can make a difference!