what to do when you're being stalked

1. STALKED WHAT TO DO O V E R C O M I N G I T , D E F E N D M E A S U R E M E N T S , S T A L K E R D I S O R D E R S A N D T H E I R S T R A T E G I E S & T A C T I C S [ 9 S L I D E S ] EXPERIENCING YOUR SCAPEGOATING FIRST March 2017

2. March 2017 EXPERIENCING YOUR SCAPEGOATING FIRST WHY I WROTE THIS PRESENTATION I wrote this presentation, because of my own experiences. I was completely blind-sighted towards their history with the subject racism and couldn’t comprehend nor tolerate how I was treated.They scapegoated me to boast their unity and bonding, such as making fun of my situation, appearance and made up stories. Spreading on social media websites, through that I got unfamiliar people breaking into my PC & mobile, laughing at me or following me on a daily basis. I am legitimate scared that they will do something towards me over 5,10,15 or 20 years, because of their current cultural society construction. My bond towards these people won’t be restored for a long time, because the wounds are too fresh, but not deep enough to change my perspective on racial equality. I have no DNA connection towards these people or other Arabian/Muslim cultures nor do I practice the Muslim belief. In my culture people love to look unique, celebrate with full life&color and most importantly a church, synagogue and musk can stand next to each-other. Recent events (2017) gave me the last breath to speak up & present 2 presentations with only facts & sources. If they would denial this story I don’t care, because possible victims need to known: how they denial things, their pride, condescending & intolerant behavior towards society minorities, mixed races and immoral practices from the past. This is your karma and for those who don’t participate good for you, spread the word of wrong doing and stands up for those in need. Why racism is prevalent in the Turkish culture +other pitfalls [20SLIDES] Centuries of racism approximately 1299 – now 2017 & Why the hunter becomes the scapgoat -Stalked What to do [9SLIDES] Overcoming it, defend measurements, stalker disorders and tactics & strategies

3. OVERVIEW STALKED, WHAT TO DO [9SLIDES] March 2017  1.1 WHEN DO YOU NEED TO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY  1.2 SIGNS OF STALKER TECHNIQUES & STRATEGIES  1.3TAKING MEASUREMENTS AGAINST STALKING  1.4 STALKER DISORDERS  1.5 WHAT ARE THE STALKERS MOTIVES "Stalking is much more about inducing fear," says Brook Zitek, DO, a forensic psychiatrist at Temple University School of Medicine in Philadelphia. "It's repeated boxes of candy, clothing, showing up at your house, putting things through your mail slot, notes on your car -- even though you've asked them to stop," B Y W E B M D . C O M •Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (webmd.com)

4. March 2017 1.1 WHEN DO YOU NEED TO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY Watch a few episodes of Stalked, someone’s watching, because you can recognize familiar feelings and patterns. Watch it also with people that concern about your wellbeing in general in order to make it clear what you’re going through. Film with your phone your stalker and go with the evidence to the police. Know that you’re not alone, it isn’t your fault and don't try to understand/patronize them. ‘’National Center for Victims of Crime, 370,000 men are stalked annually -- one in 45 men. More than 1 million women are stalked every year; about one in every 12 women will be stalked in her lifetime.’’ B Y W E B M D . C O M •Stalked: Someone's Watching, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (imdb.com) •'NCIS' Star Pauley Perrette Opens Up About Being Stalked for 13 Years, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (etonline.com) •Verdachte doodschieten verpleegkundige Linda van der Giesen (28), John F., meldt zich bij politie, Internet, 11 August 2015 (omroepbrabant.nl) •Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (webmd.com)

5. March 2017 1.2 SIGNS OF STALKER TECHNIQUES & STRATEGIES THEY ARE TRYING TO ENABLE CERTAIN BEHAVIOUR AND CONTROL OVER YOU: -Isolate you -Break your focus -Break your pleasure for life -Scare or Irritate you -Make you feel hopeless -Make you feel incompetent -Bring discredit to your name -Make you feel bad about yourself -Make you fall in love with -Recognize or notice them SCAPEGOATING TECHNIQUE Speaking overweighting bad about the person (with here and there a few sprinkles of goodness) Planting wild stories about you, like you come out of a real-time drama series including the plotholes. Refusing to meet the person in real or speaking to them. POINTING FINGERS TECHNIQUE : Yes, you’re responsible for everything in this hellish world, of course, go take a hike. HYPOCRITE JUSTIFY STALKING TECHNIQUE Tend to know your every move, what you do now, who your friends are and justify their illegal stalking practices. CHOOSING NOBODY:One plays the neutral party, passive role/ takes never action+talks only, and the other plays the stalker, making the drama series plausible. GROUP INTIMIDATION TECHNIQUE It’s possible because we all experience/know someone who is bullied in class. An alliance has indeed snitches (via WhattsApp) and certain benefits, however criminal behavior always pop-up, which isn’t in line with their own morals and eventually feels artificial and hypocritical. Social media isn’t that dependable and the hunger fame- seeking attention culture feeds them., like fake news. DEVICES 1. Listening device 2. Breaking into your wifi 3. White noise against the wall (when you sleep) 4. Electromagnetic Frequency scanning for mobiles, PC and other devices without connection 5. Making loud noises and blaming you , when you live nearby or in an apartment 6. Threating you in reallife or on social media 7. Planting virus & spying programs 8. Bribe money 9. (Youth) gang 10.Following you •For more DEVICES visit: Violence Against Women, Internet, consolted on March 2017 (womenshealth.gov) •For more info visit Gang Stalking Techniques, Internet, consolted on March 2017 (gangstalkingworld.wordpress.com)

6. March 2017 1.3 TAKING MEASUREMENTS AGAINST STALKING What: Alert the police & people surrounding you Find out about your legal rights to protection from stalking. Why: Be upfront & serious, then do your usual work. Serious steps means you are aware & alert What: Do your daily routines in daylight or on busy streets. And call when you go /arrive somewhere. Why: No isolation, people know when & where to count on you. What: Be open and selectively choose in which category friends fall: work only, private only etc. Why: Gives you leverage & an ease of mind to not to worry about Z. or A. (S)he is just a good college. What: Put up a poster to inform you’re being stalked, have Ethernet or you have a dog. & share this online Why: Your neighborhood is alerted if some suspicious SH*T is going down. Why you complain: are you his/her link or accomplice?? What: Don’t give the stalker any attention Why: They crave on any positive/negative reaction. Claim all your social media open: I own 3 sites named... What: Only focus & give all your attention towards SMART positive goals. Why: It gives you a sense of time, fate & control over your own life, even though it’s hard. What: Focus also on enriching yourself through books, writing/reading blogs & playing games. Why: Relaxing and contributing to the world is key. What: Take defense classes, put a footalarm doorstop, pepper-spray, noise keychain, have Ethernet, move to a safe/quiet neighborhood & other alarm notifications. Why: An optimal defense system is relaxing. You won’t compensate your safety in any way.

7. March 2017 1.4 STALKER DISORDERS PSYCHOLOGISTS HAVE TWO: PSYCHOTIC AND NONPSYCHOTIC MOST STALKERS ARE NONPSYCHOTIC AND MAY EXHIBIT DISORDERS OR NEUROSES such as major depression, , adjustment disorder, or substance dependence, as well as a variety of axis ii personality disorders such as antisocial, borderline, dependent, narcissistic or paranoid. The nonpsychotic stalkers' pursuit of victims can be influenced by various psychological factors, including anger, hostility, , projection of blame, obsession, dependency, minimization, denial, and jealousy. STALKERS MAY HAVE PRE-EXISTING PSYCHOTIC DISORDERS such as delusional disorder, schizoaffective disorder or schizophrenia. Some of the symptoms of "obsessing" over a person may be characteristic of obsessive compulsive personality disorder. Many people stalk someone they have only met briefly - - someone they don't really know, or barely know. "They wear a mask of charm," he tells WebMD. "They're the kindest, nicest people. You wouldn't know what's really going on. You only become aware when clues of their behavior show up -- when your email provider locks you out because you've logged your password incorrectly too many times, for example. Conversely, as is more commonly the case, the stalker has no antipathic feelings towards the victim, but simply a longing that cannot be fulfilled due to deficiencies either in their personality or their society's norms. Stalkers as a group, have an impressive capacity to rationalize, minimize and excuse their behaviors. Mullen explains that in almost all stalkers there is a need both to improve interpersonal and social skills, and to instill a more realistic understanding of the impact of their behaviors on victims "The stalker is usually an isolated and shy person, one who lives alone, lacks any type of important intimate relationship -- not just sexual, but friends or family, too," Moore tells WebMD. "There's also a narcissistic personality disorder and very low self-esteem. The stalker feels that they're the most important person in the world.“ •Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (webmd.com) •In the mind of a stalker revealing the types of stalking ,Internet , June 2013 (psychologytoday.com) •The 7 Types of Stalkers, and How to Spot Them, Internet, May 2016 (psychologytoday.com) •Stalking and Mental Illness, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (stalkingriskprofile.com)

8. March 2017 1.5 WHAT ARE THE STALKER MOTIVES 1. THE REJECTED STALKER.rejected type as an individual who has experienced the unwanted end of a close relationship, most likely with a romantic partner, but also with a parent, work associate, or acquaintance. When this stalker’s attempts to reconcile fail, they frequently seek revenge Move on from an angry preoccupation with the past to the sadness of accepted loss. BEHAVIOUR:Pursues former intimate partner, desires reconciliation and/or revenge, Criminal assault history, Personality disorders predominate. 2. THE RESENTFUL STALKER. The resentful self-pitying stalker experiences feelings of injustice and desires revenge against their victim rather than a relationship. Their behavior reflects their perception that they have been humiliated and treated unfairly, viewing themselves as the victim. Often regard their fathers as highly controlling. people .Behaviour: Feels persecuted and desires retribution, Intends to frighten or distress, Specific or general grievance, Paranoid diagnoses 3. THE INTIMACY-SEEKING STALKER. The intimacy seeker identifies a person, often a complete stranger, as their true love and begins to behave as if they are in a relationship with that person. Many intimacy seeking stalkers carry the delusion that their love is reciprocated BEHAVIOUR: Desires relationship with “true love”, Oblivious to victim response, Most have erotomanic delusions, Endows victim with unique qualities. 4. THE INCOMPETENT. The incompetent subtype like the intimacy seeker, hopes their behavior would lead to a close relationship, satisfying their need for contact and intimacy. However, this type of stalker acknowledges that their victim is not reciprocating their affection while they still continue their pursuit. Inability to comprehend and carry out socially normal and accepted courting rituals, the incompetent stalker uses methods that are often counterproductive and frightening. BEHAVIOUR: Acknowledges victim’s disinterest, Hopes behavior leads to intimacy, Does not endow victim with unique qualities, Low IQ, socially inept, entitled. 5. THE PREDATOR. Finally, the predator stalker also has no desire for a relationship with their victims, but a sense of power and control. Mullen explains that they find pleasure in gathering information about their victim and fantasizing about assaulting them physically, and most frequently sexually. The stalker doesn't necessarily know the victim. But a predator plans their attack, rehearses it, has lots of sexual fantasies about it. BEHAVIOUR: Preparing for sexual attack, Stalks to study and observe, Paraphilias, prior sexual offenses are common, No warnings before attack. •Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (webmd.com) •Stalking and Mental Illness, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (stalkingriskprofile.com) •Stalking intervention: Know the 5 stalker types, safety strategies for victims, Internet, 2007 (mdedge.com) •Types of stalking, Internet, consulted on March 2017 (stalkingriskprofile.com)

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