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1. OCTOBER is Women ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of intimate violence or dating violence. -Bureau of Justice Statistics. Dating andDomesticViolenceAwareness Month

2. Women ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of intimate violence or dating violence. -Bureau of Justice Statistics. Dating andDomesticViolenceAwareness

3. Resource Guide for OSU Students Who Have Experienced Violence The following is a list of services and support that you may wish to use. If you have experienced a sexual assault the following hospitals provide advocates and more. Campus advocates can meet with you at a campus location to help you figure out your next step. Campus Advocacy Program 267-7020 OSU Medical Center 293-8333 Grant Medical Center 566-9270 Riverside Methodist Hospital 566-5321 Doctor’s Hospital 429-6050 Mount Carmel St. Ann’s ED 898-4000 Mount Carmel East ED 234-6030 Mount Carmel West ED 234-1862 Consider seeking medical attention and/or evidence collection by a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner especially if the assault occurred within the last 72 hours. Accompaniment by a trained volunteer advocate who can provide emotional support, crisis-intervention and referrals is available. Student Health Services can provide confidential information and services concerning sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy and general medical issues. Student Health Center 292-4321 OSU Campus Police 292-2121 Columbus Police Dept. (CPD) 645-4701 Sexual Abuse Squad CPD 645-6232 Domestic Violence & Stalking Unit File a report with The OSU campus police if the assault occurred on campus. If the assault occurred off-campus, contact the Columbus Police Department or the local police with jurisdiction. Free, confidential counseling services are available to students at any time in the recovery process. OSU Counseling and 292-5766 Consultation Service Faculty/Staff Assistance 292-4472 Program Free, confidential counseling services are available to staff and faculty.

4. OSU has a disciplinary hearing process for incidents of misconduct involving OSU students. This process can be discussed with the Director of Student Judicial Affairs without filing a complaint. Student Judicial Affairs 292-0748 The Student Wellness Center @RPAC houses the office that works with students dealing with sexual assault, relationship violence and stalking. Speak with SVES for support in understanding and your medical and legal options, and for support throughout criminal or OSU judicial proceedings. OSU, Student Wellness 292-4527 Center, Sexual Violence Education & Support (SVES) This program can assist you with academic, housing, and financial concerns. OSU Student Advocacy Center 292-1111 The Office of International 292-6101 Education Assists with incidents involving international students and scholars. Provided by the Sexual Assault Response Network of Central Ohio, this hotline can provide anonymous and confidential support and information 24-Hour Rape Helpline 267-7020 CHOICES – (Domestic 224-4663 Violence 24-hour hotline) Provided by CHOICES, this hotline can provide anonymous support and information. Residence Halls - If you live in a residence hall, your Hall Director can assist in identifying additional resources.   Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.    -Maria Robinson

5. Domestic Violence Awareness Month

6. Know the Facts 1 in 4 Women will experience Domestic Violence during her lifetime. Women between the ages of 16 – 24 experience the highest rate of domestic violence. 70% of college and teenage women who are sexually assaulted, are raped during the course of a date. -Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence, May 2000.

7. • constantly keep track of your time? • act jealous and possessive? • accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting? • discourage your relationships with friends and family? • prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school? • constantly criticize or belittle you? • control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.) • humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense – especially in front of their friends.) • destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items? • have affairs? • threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon? • push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children? • force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable with? If you’re in a relationship, does the person you care about/love... If this sounds familiar: • Keep in mind that these are signs of an abusive relationship. • Speak with a friend or someone you trust. • Consider speaking with someone in the field of relationship violence (see resource list). • Work with someone to develop a safety plan and explore your options in a safe setting (OSU PD, CHOICES, SVES – Student Wellness Center, CCS, 24-hour helpline…)

8. Consider Seeking Help if Your Partner: Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry when you initiate an action or idea). Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship. Gets jealous when there is no reason. Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk. Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an isolated or personal place. Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her way. Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry. Does not view you as an equal--sees himself/herself as smarter or socially superior. Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next. Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger him/her.

9. Consider Seeking Help if Your Partner: Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry when you initiate an action or idea). Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship. Gets jealous when there is no reason. Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk. Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an isolated or personal place. Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her way. Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry. Does not view you as an equal--sees himself/herself as smarter or socially superior. Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next. Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger him/her.

10. Myths about Dating Violence Reality about Dating Violence Adapted from “Myths/Realities” April 1988, by CHOICES for Victims of Domestic Violence

11. WHAT DOES DATING and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LOOK LIKE?

12. Physical Violence Sexual Assault

13. Emotional/Psychological Violence Stalking

14. Physical Violence isthe intentional use of physical force with the potential for causing death, disability, injury, or harm. It may include, but is not limited to, scratching; pushing; shoving; throwing; grabbing; biting; choking; shaking; slapping; punching; burning; use of a weapon; and use of restraints or one’s body, size, or strength against another person. Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact or attention that may be achieved through force, manipulation, intimidation, coercion, violence, or the use of alcohol and drugs to impair the victim. It includes both attempted or completed sexual acts. Saltzman et al. 2002

15. Psychological/emotional violence involves trauma to the victim caused by acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics. Psychological/emotional abuse can include, but is not limited to, humiliating the victim, controlling what the victim can and cannot do, withholding information from the victim, deliberately doing something to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim from friends and family, and denying the victim access to money or other basic resources. Stalking includes repeated behaviors or actions that make a person feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious and often escalates over time. It also may become violent. Common stalking behaviors include: following the victim, calling the victim repeatedly, damaging the victims property, sending the victim unwanted letters, gifts, etc, threatening to hurt the victim or the victims friends/family/pets/etc, using tracking systems or other technology to track the victim’s whereabouts, etc. About 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men are stalked in their lifetime. Saltzman et al. 2002; Office of Violence Against Women of the U.S. Department of Justice

16. Campus Advocacy Program Are you an OSU student who has experienced sexual violence, relationship violence, and/or stalking behaviors? If you would like to talk to someone, call 614-267-7020 and choose the “Campus Advocate” option. Campus Advocates can meet with you at a campus location to provide support, information, and resources, and to help you figure out your next step.

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