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Habit 4: Think Win-Win. Life is an all-you-can-eat buffet. Bell Ringer: Time Wasters. When doing your homework last night, I’m sure you recognized some activities that waste your time. Name 10 time wasters
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Habit 4: Think Win-Win Life is an all-you-can-eat buffet
Bell Ringer: Time Wasters • When doing your homework last night, I’m sure you recognized some activities that waste your time. • Name 10 time wasters • They do not have to be YOUR time wasters. The list can include time wasters you see in other peoples’ lives.
Review • Habit 1: Be Proactive • Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind • Habit 3: Put First Things First • Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Think Win-Win • Definition: • Have an everyone-can-win attitude • Attitude towards life, mental frame of mind that says I can win and so can you • No one is superior • No one is inferior • Win-Win is NOT: • Win-Lose • Lose-Win • Lose-Lose
Win-Lose: The totem pole • Getting to the top at all costs • Very competitive • Examples: • Using others for your own gain • Trying to get ahead at the expense of another • Spreading rumors • Always insisting on getting your way • Becoming jealous when something good happens to someone else
Lose-win: the doormat • Avoid confrontation and take the blame to keep the peace. • Doormat Syndrome • Give in to peer pressure • Set low expectations and compromise your standards
Lose-lose: Downward spiral • Revenge • I don’t care what happens to me, as long as ___________ doesn’t do well!
Win-win: All-you-can-eat buffet • There is plenty of success to go around • Examples: • Your best friend got accepted to the college you wanted to go to. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend. • You want to go to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie. • Compromise
Win the private victory first • If you are extremely insecure, it is hard to think win-win because you are threatened by others’ successes. You might get jealous easily. • The foundation of a win-win attitude is personal security.
Avoid tumor twins • Competing and comparing can keep you from thinking win-win • Competing can be healthy when you compete against yourself or when it challenges you to reach and stretch and become your best • Competing is bad when there is a win at any cost attitude or a fear of failure.
comparing • Comparing yourself can become an addiction • You feel superior one moment and inferior the next moment. • Good comparing is comparing yourself against your potential.
Win-win • It is contagious! • Even though not everyone thinks win-win or you’re not able to find a win-win situation, you should decide not to play or to walk away. • Increase how much you think win-win because it will make you feel great!