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Developmental Psychology. Chapter 19: Social Development. Relationships. An emerging part of adult lives In our adult lives relationships become more complex and take on greater meaning in our lives We begin to form and solidify various types of relationships Romantic Friendship
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Developmental Psychology Chapter 19: Social Development
Relationships • An emerging part of adult lives • In our adult lives relationships become more complex and take on greater meaning in our lives • We begin to form and solidify various types of relationships • Romantic • Friendship • _________________ • Familial
Types of Singles • Voluntary Temporary Singles • Never married/ recently divorced/widowed • Not currently looking for or postponing marriage • May eventually get married • Includes cohabitating couples • Voluntary Stable (permanent)Singles • Never married/ divorced/ widowed • No intention of marrying or getting remarried • ____________________________ • Never married/ divorced/ widowed • Actively seeking marriage or remarriage • Involuntary Stable (permanent) Singles • Never married/ divorced/ widowed • Unable to find a mate • Have reconciled to their single state
Being single rocks! • Singles Advantages……….thoughts? • Greater opportunity for self development and personal growth • Greater opportunities to meet different people and develop and enjoy different friendships • _______________________________________________ • More sexual experience • Freedom to control one’s own life • More opportunities for career development and change
Ok…maybe not • Singles Disadvantages…..thoughts? • Loneliness and lack of companionship • Economic hardship • ___________________________________________________ • Lack of sexual experience • Not having children or lacking a family to bring one up in • Prejudices against being single and social pressures to get married
Dating and establishment of romantic relationships • How are adult romantic relationships different than adolescent ones? • What are some of the challenges of finding a mate? • Where do you find a partner? • Where do you go? • Who pays? • Who calls who back? • When do you get intimate?
Interesting figures on Sex • 94-98% percent of men and women have had sex by age 25. • _____________________________________________________________________________ • In fact only a small percentage (9%) had as many as 5 partners during the past year. • In general almost half of adult men and women with multiple partners are using condoms….yikes!
Finding and defining love? • 5 types of love described in the text • Romantic Love • Deep emotional connection with another person • Passionate and intense feelings of joy and ecstasy • Erotic Love • Best defined as sexual attraction to another person • Biological component of love and attraction • ______________________ • Mutual dependency and need • Needs of each individual are satisfied by the other • Friendship Love • Based on companionship and common interests • Enduring bond between two people • Altruistic Love • Caring that goes beyond personal needs • Genuine concern for the well being of the other
Facts on Marriages • ___________________________________________________________________________________________________ • Every ten to thirteen seconds someone gets divorced. • 50% of women and 33% of men remain angry for ten years after a divorce. • Women have more trouble starting new relationships than divorced men do. • More than 90% of divorces in long-standing marriages involve infidelities some time during the marriage. • 80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision. • Over 75% who marry partners in an affair eventually divorce. • The average affair lasts two to four years. • If an affair replaces the marriage, it is subject to the same emotional stresses as the marriage but is twice as likely to fracture.
The family Life Cycle • Chart Pg 528 • Stages • Single • Men 26years-Women 24 years • Married No Children • Men 2 years-Women 2 years • Married with Children • Men 22 years-Women 22 years • Empty Nest • Men 15 years- Women 15 years • Retirement • Men 7 years- Women 7 years • Widowhood • Women 10 years
Couple’s Counseling • Would you consider counseling in your relationships? • Pre- Marital Counseling? • To make major decisions? • To prevent divorce? • Couples Counseling Video-In Treatment
How to Destroy a Marriage 101 • Never share your thoughts. Always be sarcastic and abusive(Poor Communication) • Demand your partner follow you everywhere you go and remind them to call every 15 minutes(Unrealistic expectations of marriage or spouse) • Never admit defeat. Always know you’re right(Power struggles) • Don’t deal with your personal problems…ever(Individual problems) • ___________________________________________________________________ • Use drugs (Substance use) • Cheat, cheat, cheat (Extramarital Affairs) • Avoid dealing with sexual difficulties(Sex)
Divorce • The After Effects • Emotional trauma • Dealing with stigma • Loneliness • Financial difficulties • Managing work and roles • Adjusting to sex • _______________________ • Relationships with family • Relationships with children
Other areas to explore • Work and Careers • Development • Women’s issues • Dual careers • Retirement • Theories on social development • Social Reconstruction • Exchange Theory • Disengagement Theory