Healthy Respect Practitioners Network Event

1. Healthy Respect Practitioners Network Event East Whitburn Community Centre, West Lothian 12th June, 2019

2. Welcome and Introduction Yvonne Kerr Assistant Programme Manager, NHS Lothian Yvonne.Kerr@nhslothian.scot.nhs.uk

3. Healthy Respect What we do: • Facilitate professional networks • Provide training and development for professionals • Improve access to young people’s services • Develop resources for professionals and young people • Involve and advocate for young people • Influence policy to support culture change @healthy_respect

4. Updates • West Lothian Young People’s Sexual Health Group • Mapping work • Action plan – priority areas identified – key themes RSHP; Training; Services; Communication • RSHP resource www.rshp.scot • Launched September 2019 at Scottish Learning Festival • Support for launch and roll out – communications work/video clips and workforce development • Learning disability/additional support work

5. YPs research – condoms and contraception • September 2019 • Partner engagement - practitioners and young people events • Changes to services – Bathgate/Howden • Adult services moving from Bathgate to Howden • Healthy Respect + remains at Bathgate • Additional Healthy Respect + clinic at Howden

6. National key messages

8. www.rshp.scot • Activity 3.5.1 Consent – what consent means in a relationship • Healthy, happy safe: What kind of relationship do I want?

9. A healthy relationship is where both people DO: • Feel safe, equal, respected and happy. • Care about what each other want. • Keep and see friends and family when they want to. • Break up if they want to. rshp.scot

10. A healthy relationship is where both people DON’T: • Put pressure on the other person, and it’s as easy to say no as to say yes • Do things that make the other person feel uncomfortable, anxious or scared. • Have to spend time with the other person if they don’t want to. Each person can spend time on their own if they want to. rshp.scot

11. Consent means • Asking someone if you can do something or if they want something. • If they say yes, they give consent. • If they say no, they do not give consent. • If they don’t say anything, or they aren’t sure or aren’t clear, they do not give consent. • If they give consent one day, you still have to ask the next time. rshp.scot

12. 3.5.2 The Age of consent • 3.9.3 Sending and sharing images

13. rshp.scot This means that: You never feel any pressure to take or send or look at images or messages that are nude or sexual, and you don’t put pressure on someone else to do this.

14. Don’t show anyone. • Don’t forward it on, you will then be breaking the law. • Don’t use it for revenge or to be mean to someone you are angry with. • Don’t feel you have to respond, you can ignore it. • You could delete it, but it might be best to share it with a trusted adult first. • Block the person who sent you it. • If the person sending you things is older or putting pressure on you to send images, then talk to someone about it. If you receive a photo or image you didn’t ask for and shouldn’t have: rshp.scot

15. rshp.scot Discussion The person whose image is shared is often blamed and shamed more than the person who asked her/him to take it. Why?

16. Group Discussion • What are your initial thoughts? • How would you use these key messages? • What is an action you’ll take back to your work place?

17. Sexual Violence National Prevention Programme

18. Background: • There is significant research demonstrating increased prevalence of sexual, and other violence in young people’s relationships. This also reflects the increasing sexualisation of children and young people, including the availability of pornography which can have an influence on young people’s perceptions of appropriate sexual behaviour

19. The National Prevention Programme • Developed by Rape Crisis Scotland • Compliments CfE & GIRFEC. Key contribution to Equally Safe, Scotland’s strategy for preventing & eradicating VAWG • Funded by Scottish Government, evidence based & externally evaluated • Aimed at 11-25 years. Delivered by prevention workers in mainstream high schools and youth settings • Seven topics offered which are age appropriate and designed to fit within one class period

20. Pornography Workshop

21. Sexualisation related to gender

22. Common themes linked to pornography • Male dominance and control over women • Not a lot of foreplay • Women as sexualised objects, often submissive • Sex is not mutual or consensual, mostly about male pleasure • Unrealistic ideas about sex

23. 88% of scenes in top-rented and selling porn have been found to contain physical aggression, and in almost half, verbal aggression. Men were the perpetrators 70% of the time, while women were the targets 94% of the time. www.culturereframed.org/the-crisis/

24. I’m always watching porn and some of it is quite aggressive. I didn’t think it was affecting me at first but I’ve started to view girls a bit differently recently and it’s making me worried. I would like to get married in the future but I’m scared it might never happen if I carry on thinking about girls the way I do. Young man, aged 12–15 NSPCC (2015) Always there when I need you – ChildLine review

25. What happens here?Group exercise

26. What is good communication?

27. Contact details • Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre • Sexual Violence Prevention Workers • Lisa Waiting Edinburgh • Lisa Waiting West Lothian • Hannah Daly East & Mid Lothian • Firstname.lastname@ercc.scot • 0131 557 6737

28. Tea, coffee and networking

29. Underage Sexual Activity – revisiting the guidance

30. Young People’s rights • Young people aged 13 and over • Same rights to confidentiality as adults • ECHR, Article 8 – the right to a private life • A persons sex life is regarded as personal, private and privileged information • Sharing this information without consent – breach of rights and data protection laws • Confidentiality is not absolute and can be breached in certain circumstances

31. Current threshold for breach of a child or young person’s confidentiality • Circumstances where there are concerns that the child is at risk of ‘significant harm’. (The Children’s Hearings (Scotland) Act (2011); National Child Protection Guidance 2010; National Guidance, Under-age Sexual Activity, 2010.)

33. The General Teaching Council for Scotland’s Code of Professionalism and Conduct states that you must treat sensitive, personal information about pupils with respect and confidentiality and not disclose it unless required to do so by your employer or by law

34. Local and national guidance

35. Child Protection • Child Protection concerns arise in circumstances where there is a strong likelihood or risk of significant harm to a child, arising from abuse or neglect

36. Teenage consensual sexual activity • It is recognised that some ‘older children’ (ages 13-15 years) will engage in consensual sexual activity with each other and that some ‘older children’ will also engage in consensual sexual activity with adults, both of which may not be abusive or exploitative, dependent upon circumstances.

37. healthy.respect@nhslothian.scot.nhs.uk www.healthyrespect.co.uk